There are no perfect relationships or perfect marriages, there are no perfect human beings either. We’re all laid up with all manner of flaws. So, when we fall in love, we’re not expecting smooth sails all through; we shall meet people with all manner of weaknesses. And it will be our responsibility to work on knowing what works and how to please each other and doing those things for a lasting relationship.
Peaceful coexistence thrives on the strife to please one another. Love isn’t love if there are no rancors from time to time.
A typical loving atmosphere shouldn’t be one that’s only based on romance, it should grow on kindness, tenderness, mutual trust, and quality communication.
“A man is born by a woman, raised by a woman, falls in love, and marries a woman. It’s rather sad that men disrespect women.”
So, I saw this message on a friend’s page and it drove me to this point, “If that thought was conceived by a man, which I doubt, I would say it is possibly borne by some kind of ugly parental experiences. But if it was conceived by a woman, I consider it: selfish, malicious, manipulative, and merely a demand for power and control of manhood.”
Knowledge is key to every successful life, people perish for lack of knowledge. Relationships, marriages, and or businesses fail because people lack the wherewithal to drive the relationships to the great heights of success. While some relationships thrive and run smoothly, others struggle and fall by the wayside because the couples are lacking in experience and what it takes for their relationship to experience or run on that happy and peaceful pedestal they desire.
Yes, we want the best of everything but not ready to work for it. Life should fall for us on a platter – there are no such things. We get what we work for, it’s a principle of life.
The kind of love relationship portrayed there is based on selfishness and greed, it does not truly represent mutuality. So, when you talk about respecting a woman, what does it mean? A woman should be loved truly and thoroughly. If a man showers so much love on his woman, what other respect would a woman be asking for?
The most worrisome part of that assertion is that all the accolades went to women. As much as I appreciate your observations on this issue, I also want to point out some of the areas you seemed to have omitted, you didn’t consider the role or part of men anywhere in that assertion, “…a man is born by a woman.” Women don’t give birth without the functionality of the man, women still need the sperm of a man to be able to get pregnant. Except if she would prefer to go for artificial insemination, even then, she will still require the contribution of a man.
So, this proves true that we cannot ever function independently. This is the point where synergy comes into play. “A man is almost dysfunctional without a woman. Likewise, a woman is dysfunctional without a man.”
To put that assertion into proper perspective, I would say that such an assertion is just vague. In the sense that it lacks specification. What does “Respect a woman” mean? Who disrespects the women? How are the women being disrespected? What should a man do that is not considered a disrespect to women? What are the things that are respectful or disrespectful to women?
Yes! There’s no denying that some men abuse their wives, it will also shock you that so many women are abusing their husbands that you know little or nothing about because those men cannot complain outside the home about it.
If women can value those things, it will make it easy for men to ascertain their roles in a woman’s life.
Based on biblical standards, a man is the head of his wife. Therefore, the woman, wife should respect and submit to her head. Meanwhile, on the other hand, the man being the head of the home should provide and love his wife unconditionally.
If we do those things (obligations) without prejudice, there won’t be any reason for any of the parties to think its being or not being disrespected. Everything will flow smoothly, and unabated, and all in the name of love, respect, and submission – these are the ingredients that make for a smooth sailing relationship.
To Control A Man:
Just so you don’t misunderstand me, this part of the writing is referring to women who are married and have their husbands. Thereto, I make bold to say that a woman who knows her onions already has control of her man (husband) when she honors and submits to her man.
What man would inflict or cause pain or harm to a wife who is obedient, submissive, and honors him? The problem is that most women want to dictate to their men, which is the part most men dislike – that’s like making the man appear foolish especially when this disrespect is done right before his friends.
A woman who respects, honors, and submits to her husband does not need to worry about him spending more time outside than with her. It is the husband who would outrightly tell his friends he is satisfied and happy with their lifestyle as husband and wife. You know, there’s this suggestion that some men have been jazzed, made useless by their wives by putting love potions in their husband’s food so they can just turn and use the man as they please.
When a man enjoys the peace and happiness in his home, he does not crave the company of friends, he runs back home to his family where he finds love and peace of mind.
What things constitute the disrespect of a woman?
Women are easily put off by a proud man. Rich men believe that every woman who shows up around them comes for their money. Disrespect towards women is anything that makes a woman feel uncomfortable, unsafe, put down, or treated unfairly because she’s a woman. It’s pervasive! Often, it involves sexist and sexually harassing behaviors, like:
- Making sexist jokes and comments.
- Interrupting, talking over, and speaking for women.
- Pestering a woman who said she ‘isn’t interested’.
- Thinking or saying women ‘belong’ in certain roles.
- Using patronising language with women you don’t know (‘sweetheart’s ‘love’).
I think that the most important issue here would be to ask, “What describes a typical loving atmosphere in a relationship?” Is it when the couples are all smiles, laughing, happy moments and no quarrels?
But that in my thought would be an unrealistic situation. So, out of this world to not ever experience heated moments, problems or misunderstandings once a while. It’s natural, and part of being human to express our weaknesses. It’s how we try to manage this nature with our spouses that makes the difference.
However, let’s take our cue from the Bible, which as Christians is our standard.
Human existence started with the man, Adam. The woman, Eve, was not in the picture of creation. And he, Adam functioned perfectly, without the influence of the woman, Eve.
But then, came Eve. In other words, in God’s agenda at the creation, the woman was nowhere in perception, She wasn’t a part of the play in the Creation process, something you could call, second thought.
If you recall the discussions with God and His Triune being (The Father, Son and Holy Spirit). God said, “It’s not good that the man be alone, let’s make him a help meet…” – Genesis 2:18. The woman was nowhere, she didn’t have a function in the process of Creation. She only came to play when God saw the nerd for the man to have some around to keep him company.
This was the point at which the woman came into the picture, “It is not good for the man to be alone. Let us make for him a help meet. You will also recall that Adam had already finished the assignment God gave to him. Adam had performed all the duties assigned as a co-creator (worker) with God but was alone because all the animals Adam he was assigned to named were male and female. God didn’t intend for Adam to be lonely. Hence, the desire for a companion (help meet).
I also want to draw your attention to this fact, God took a rib from the side of the man, first, to create the woman. So, the argument that a woman gave birth to a man, where is that part that says the woman was born out of a man’s rib?
“And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the place with flesh instead thereof..” – Genesis 2.21
When Adam woke up and saw the Eve, He said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” – Genesis 2:23.
If you are a woman and a Christian, we are not trying to make you subservient to your men or husbands but we desire that you be properly guided so that you don’t quickly jump into any teachings you see that sound good or feminist-inclined and quickly embrace it, don’t ever take to heart anything that is biblical unsupported. It might only negate and destroy your faith in God. Check every saying in the Bible, does the Bible agree with what has been said or written?
So, we encourage men to love their women with unconditional love, and treat them as their queens because your woman or wife was formed out of their rib, she is a part of his own body, “…bone of your bones, and flesh of your flesh...”
These things can only work if there is mutual agreement, which can also be called, mutual understanding. If both men and women come to this understanding, there shall be no controversies, there won’t be any uncontrollable or manageable quarrels between us.
There are no perfect relationships or perfect marriages, there are no perfect human beings either. We’re all laid up with all manner of flaws. So, when we fall in love, we’re not expecting smooth sails all through; we shall meet people with all kinds of weaknesses. And it will be our responsibility to work on knowing what works and how to please each other and doing those things for a lasting relationship.
Peaceful coexistence thrives on the strife to please one another. Love isn’t love if there are no rancors from time to time.
A typical loving atmosphere shouldn’t be only based on romance, it should grow on kindness, tenderness, mutual trust, and good communication.
You may argue this, but there’s no other truth than this.
Life is full of ups and downs, twists and turns, but a beautiful journey that teaches us valuable lessons along the way. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the victories, and cherish the moments that make life truly special. Live each day to the fullest and make the most of every opportunity that comes your way. Remember, it’s not so much about how smooth or rough the journey would be but the destination itself.
I did not come to this life only to wind up (end up) in hell, that’s the direction every wrong and troublesome relationship would drive you.
The bottom line is, that God desires to rapture a Church that is without wrinkle or spot. To make excuses for our weaknesses and inadequacies is to overlook the chastisement of God. This life is about retracing our tracks back from destruction to God’s ways and the peace, and joy He offers us in Christ, Jesus.
Stay in tune with God and walk right, stay focused, and always ready to build joy and peace in your relationships outside, in your marriage, and at home. They have the keys to your destination.
Think about that!
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