The Man Who Existed Before Adam and Eve!

All of humanity was made to think, and believe that Adam and Eve were the first human beings to live on planet Earth, that isn’t true anymore, there was another man who existed even before life itself, rather than considering the advent of Adam and Eve.

Dig in here to find out!

ADAM and Eve were not the first human beings to ever exist on Earth. There was a model of man that was there before Adam and Eve came to the limelight. It was that designs that was used to mold Adam into existence.

Let me commence this writeup thus, many Church folks are easily swayed from the truth because they have come to hold too fast to Church dogmas, doctrines of men. And dogmas, as we know cannot save anyone, only believe, faith and trust in the Word of God can keep a person safe.

It has become increasingly difficult for lots of ministers of the gospel to speak out the mind of God based on say certain revelations they probably have received from because the people have become so dogmatic, holding tenaciously to used to be so much that anything that comes new, is not likely to enjoy wide acceptance because we have set aside truth, and left out the workings of the Spirit-we don’t recognize the presence of the Holy Spirit, anymore – to many, that is a thing of the past. But God does not change, He is the same God, yesterday, today, and forever. And anything He does or says, stands.

The scriptures says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made. In Him was life, and the life was the light of men. And the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not comprehend it” – John 1:1-5.

Biblical revelations most often are mistaken for heresies by those people who are held bound to dogmas, or Church doctrines. The scripture says, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children” – Hosea 4:6. When we close up our hearts to God’s Word, we don’t receive anything from Him, and when you belittle or doubt what God has put in inside of you, you also miss out on His blessings or miss out on His desire and ability to speak to you.

When God speaks, He opens His heart to us, to reveal the depths of His Word to us if we pay close attention to His leading and prompting.

“And God said: Let us make man in our image, after our likeness, and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and the birds of the air…” – Genesis 1:26.

Thus, everything that existed, the scripture says were created but when it came to man, the scripture made it clear, “Man was made” not created. Now, what is the difference between those two words?

In English expression, the use of the word to “make” means that the production process, and the vehicle, clothing or whatever that product maybe, the design already existed. Whereas, the verb to “Create” usually suggests newness, freshness or innovation, to bring something that is not already there into existence.

Generally speaking, the word create means to produce or bring something into existence. Therefore, taking cue from our definition, the man was made from a model that already exists. In other words, the man was already there in existence even before the creation process began to emerge.

Otherwise, the scripture does not conflict with itself. Everything else was created but man was already living in the existential realm waiting for the full time of manifestation, and now was the time for God to manifest the man. God made the man from the model of design He already had in His store place.

Nothing was in existence until God spoke every thing into being, “God calleth those things which be not as though they were” – Romans 4:17 But man was made, crafted into the existing mold that was there and placed him is his position in the garden as a leader (tender of the garden).

What or who was that model, format, mold or design which was there in the Earth before it was rolled out into being?

Let’s go back to our main text, “And God said, Let us make man in our image…” So, this goes so far as to solve the puzzle. If man was made in the image and likeness of God. It invariably means GOD is MAN. And man is god – this understanding will put you on the pedestal to begin to work towards investing in the Word to have more and better knowledge of who you are. Adam played down on the power and role that God vested on him. This, he lost it all.

Adam and Eve was made strong, healthy, fully grown, and mature. They didn’t have to pass through the usual stages of growth. The normal lifecycle of the human being starts as a zygote in the womb and is birthed as a baby. Then, grows into a child. And becomes an adult. After which he grows into a senior (old age). But you will note that Adam and Eve didn’t go through those stages – they skipped three stages of growth. They were made already adults, then just grew into old age and died.

Adam and Eve didn’t know what infancy was like, they didn’t know what means to be a baby, and so they also didn’t experience childhood. In other words, they never learned to crawl, they never learned to walk, and they never learned to speak. They did not have any experience of what it means to grow because they didn’t go through those stages of life – they didn’t feel peer group pressure, and they didn’t have reasons to learn to work or develop their senses of reasoning or thinking. They received life automatically. They were made so perfectly that they didn’t have to learn or ask for anything because everything was already there at their beck and call.

Adam and Eve didn’t need anything, they had everything. They were a symbol of perfection in God’s creation. While every human being has to pass through all the stages of growth, Adam and Eve relished in the abundance of everything, they lived and operated in a system called in today’s world automation. They didn’t have to work for anything, everything came as at when they needed it. And they grew old.

God left out those other three stages of growth and development for Adam to figure out what and how to adapt to this life that he has just been given on a platter. God does not, has never had the intention to turn a man into a robot or something He will push or command around. But God put everything down to the man in clear terms. He did not hide the consequences if however, Adam becomes rebellious.

God took Adam round the Garden, and showed him everything, introduced him to all the plants and livestock in the Garden, which Adam had named the animals all by himself because wanted Adam to understand that he is a stakeholder, an authority in this business of creation.

For the plants, God communicated to Adam all their purposes, and uses and gave Adam and Eve permission to eat of any of them trees except for one, the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

You may of any tree here in the garden, “But you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die” – Genesis 2:17. That’s the account of what transpired. When they are of the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, they died spiritually as they lost fellowship with God.

Suddenly, the automated life they were enjoying ceased, everything was been made manual, they had to work so hard to be able to get something to eat, they began to have birth to their children in pain and sorrow. Cain grew up, untamed and became a wild ass, very competitive, and jealous. Cain became envious of his younger brother, Abel. One day, he lured the younger brother out into the field, smote him killed, and had him buried him away in the wilderness.

We don’t have any news of whether Adam called his his son Cain to reprimand him for committing such evil against his brother, Abel. All those lapses on Adam’s part combined to negate and mar Adam’s leadership role in the garden. If only Adam had gotten it right the first time, what a wonderful world we would be living in today.

The fall of man brought with it too many maladies: Sicknesses, diseases, hunger, poverty. Every negativity came with the fall. Man lost the divine fellowship he had with God. God also lost that connection He had with Adam and Eve, thus, He couldn’t function well anymore.

In other to reconnect with man, God sent the person He consulted with on the day He was to make the man, Adam. Remember God’s speech, “And God said, let us make man in our image, after our likeness, and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air…” – Genesis 1:26.

I want to be more emphatic on the use of the phrase, “And God said, let us make man in our image, after our likeness.” it is very clear who God was talking to, and the phrase, “…make man in our image…” goes to say that God referred to Himself as man just like He called us gods, “Ye are gods” – Psalm 82:6. God is a higher dimension of man, while man is the lower dimension of God – every tree gives birth to its kind, a man will give birth to a fellow human being. We are made in the image of God, and so we are gods (God’s property). And if we’re made in the image of God, and we are men, that insinuates that God, our Father is a Man (of a higher dimension).

Therefore, God is that Man who existed before the advent of Adam and Eve.

So, man had every quality to make him a god before the fall but man never learned to maximize his potentials. He forgot what he was made off immediately after he had finished with the work of naming the animals. God consulted with you, brought every animal before you and asked, what do we name this animal? And Adam would say, “Let’s call that a pig, a dog, a duck etc” and that has remained their names ever since. How Adam forgot to warm his wife against eating of that fruit is what is difficult to point at.

Adam became dysfunctional in carrying out his role as a husband, as a father, and as a mentor. He failed to communicate unity, harmony, kindness, brotherly love, and compassion in the hearts and minds of his children. His entire household was in disarray, and dysfunctional. “Being family means being a part of something very wonderful. It means you will love and be loved for the rest of your life.” This was not the case in Adam’s home.

When God called Cain to ask the whereabouts of his brother, Abel. Cain,“Where is your brother?” Cain sort of responded to this question with aggression and a sigh, “Am I my brother’s keeper?” What did Cain suppose he was? A stranger in his father’s household? The phrase, “My brother’s keeper” has such a great weight. It is generally understood to mean being responsible for the welfare of a brother or other sibling or, by extension, for other human beings in general. And those were the very words of Cain. He birthed those words from within him but he had not the understanding of the impact of those words. Family is a tie that should not be broken in any way.

All these was the account of the first man, Adam. But God brought back Jesus Christ to the Earth to bridge that gap, the family ties that had been severed by the fall.

I want to take you back to the first chapter of the book of John where we started our reading. In verses 9-12 of that chapter, it says, “That was the true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world. He was in the world, and the world was made by him, and the world knew him not. He came unto his own, and his own received him not. But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name.” – John 1:9-12.

Thus, God as Man existed in the universe before the coming of Adam and Eve.

Fragile Things!

Complications: Dealing with problems concerning a laity is easy. When a public figure is involved, then caution must be exercised.

Foolish is the one who’d mix up Kingdom life with complicated secular matters.

It’s absolutely evil to dash off an innocent person to wolves to be devoured because someone wouldn’t swallow his/her pride to simply acknowledge, “I’m sorry, I was wrong!”

“Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you’re willing to suffer in silence for other people?”
– Helen Ochonga

THERE’S more to life than meets the eyes. When issues involve people already in a higher echelon in society, such issues should be dealt with cautiously because if most of these people are not truly humble and Godly, to put things in better perspective, it will be very catastrophic especially when it involves the body of Christ.

If you have a problem with a man of God, you can sit him or her down to talk things over. As human beings, we are fallible whether you’ve attained a very high position already in God (Christ) or not. The temptation is higher, though with someone who has taken a position already in the kingdom.

It is right, responsible, fair and Godly that when we err or make a mistake, we should be able to acknowledge that we made the mistake rather than rub it off on everyone just so we could clean our hands, and nail our errors or evil deeds on innocent souls (find ng a scapegoat) or just so we can call someone a bad name or prove right what has been told about the person.

It might be hard to believe it but it a truth that has been proven true. Many people who come into the fold, especially under the umbrella of pastoral ministry become too audacious, they allow their canal desires to rule over them more than they submit to God to guide and direct their motives and decisions. And when we are not led by God but led personal or human convictions, we do or make flawful mistakes that might lead to the destruction and abuse of the gospel that we preach. And then, rather than promote the gospel to build the kingdom, we make a mess and shipwreck the gospel because of stupid pride.

The gospel of Christ is bigger than one Man of God, the integrity of the Body of Christ is more important than respect of one Man of God who is derailing from the truth. And the integrity of a true child of God is proven when we publicly acknowledge our mistakes, especially those who have better knowledge and understanding of God (Men of God). You show integrity and respect to God when you acknowledge before the world your human nature, by the flaws or weaknesses that sometimes show forth in our dealings with life and or people.

Sadly, some men want to take the place of God. They act like they don’t have flaws and so cannot fail. That’s impossible, everyone of us humans faulter by default, from time to time. It’s natural for us and when we begin to hide those flaws in pretense, we begin to allow problems to escalate from simple and ease of handling into degrees or dimensions beyond repairs.

TOUCH NOT MY ANOINTED:
“Don’t you dare touch my anointed ones, don’t lay a hand on my prophets.” – 1 Chronicles 16:22
God’s protection of His beloved servants is a divine plan to keep all who love and keep His commands, all who have confessed and allowed the word to become our guide and counsel. However, God warns us not to allow the liberty He’s given us as licensed to ensnare others. “My brothers and sisters, God called you to be free, but do not use your freedom as an excuse to do what pleases your sinful self. Serve each other with love. The whole law is made complete in this one command: “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” – Galatians 5:13-14.

Many ministers of the gospel become too self conscious with the word to use it in order to command fear and respect for themselves in the congregation of the righteous. People use the gospel to make gods of themselves.

So, the issue isn’t just about one suffering in silence, but more about what to do to stop it and who is ready to associate and identify with one already tagged, “Stubborn and pick-headed” because he won’t subscribe or submit to the attacks and bullying of a certain cartel of “big men.”

Pardon my use of the word, cartel, which describes a group people, organizations or syndicates involved in organized crimes. First, those groups begins with noble purposes until those running them become greedy and begins to find ways to eke out a living by using their offices or positions to extort and take advantage of other people’s ignorance.

Anyone can be recruited or dragged into any group and gently, gradually and subtly be initiated into a cult of evil intentions without even realizing it because it had the semblance of good and well-intended plans until someone lost it and became greedy, pompous and self-centered to want to make gains or intimidate the weak and less privileged.

To challenge or refuse a “morally and religiously correct” cartel is actually a dangerous place to stand. So, those whom your message has tagged, “Willing to suffer in silence for” might not be about being willing but about those who have refused to give an ear to the cries and are even ready to join with their persecutors to completely decimate such men.

Stuck Up With A Bomb?

It can really be very difficult to understand how fragile certain life issues could be until you’re stuck up with a bomb in your hands. Whether it is activated or not, you’re definitely going to be very conscious and cautious of how you handle it because you know that any slight mishandling, boom, it will go off in a burst and the consequence is the destruction of life and property.

When you are faced with very difficult situations, you will be awake and alert how you take care of it so that you can safeguard yourself, your household and everything you care about.

When a bomb detonates, it is not selective of who is affected, everyone and everything within the range of its eruption becomes victim of its menacing disruption.

So, you will be careful how you treat certain sensitive matters, especially when they involve God or His Kingdom because a careless mishandling could be costly.

DO WHAT IS RIGHT:
“But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.” – James 1:22-25.

If God’s word is what guides our every step and dealings then, we will become less conscious about self and more conscious about what the word can do in us, then, we become better refined and complicit to divine guidance and providence.

The man who is protected in God is the man is under the provisions of, “Touch not my anointed and do my prophet no harm” whether such a man has enrold in the school of the anointed and prophets or not. A lot of Bible characters who enjoyed that Godly provisions never considered or placed themselves in that class but God Himself gave them all the protections they needed.

Let us not use our position in God to extort, not necessarily taking anything from the people but to use these words of Scripture to keep them in fear. God’s word liberate lives and not enslave them.

Abraham who was the first man chosen by God never used God’s word at anywhere he went to get the things he wanted to acquire. As a matter of fact, Abraham was always hiding his identity to avert trouble from the nations and people Abraham with his households sojourned with. At some points, he lied to call his wife, Sarah his sister. God came through for him by warming the king who had taken Sarah from Abraham for a wife.

The long and short of this is to not use the provisions in God’s word to ensnare others. I read this somewhere and I quote, “Don’t abuse the grace of God.”

Apostle Paul speaking to the Corinthians Church and telling how hard he had worked, more than most of the other apostle before and in his time, yet, he did not consider himself as the best or infallible. “By God’s grace I am what I am, and the grace that He gave me was not without effect. On the contrary, I have worked harder than any of the other apostles, although it was not really my own doing, but God’s grace working with me.” – 1 Corinthians 15:10 (GNT).

This argument transpired when some Church members began to manifest certain division amongst themselves, “I follow Paul,” and another, “I follow Apollos,” are you not mere human beings?” – 1 Corinthians 3:1-9.

These divisions will always come and they also come according to the class of understanding. As we continue to grow in our knowledge of God’s word, many will begin to determine and categorize their worth by the response of people to their ministries and ministration.

Paul handled this issues well when they first broke out amongst the Corinthians Church. Paul needed the people to understand that they will not always share the same knowledge and understanding on certain issues or have a certain spiritual authority tell the people whom or whose teachings to believe in but that the teacher isn’t as important as the message preached because all those teachers came to preach the same message but might present the message in different formats.

He encouraged the people to pay attention to the message than the messenger.

May 7, 2024 0

Morality, Obedience, And Christian Ethics!

Morality and sanity are good but isn’t Christianity? It’s merely a desire to be nice, and likable.

Obedience is sacrifice based on respect for authority, not because it is the right thing to do.

Everything Godly and truth, is adjudged on the premise of right and wrong. What will Christ say or do about the issue in question? This, also, should be your basis of judgment.

HUMANITY rolls along the tracks or axes of sentiments and affiliations with the things that make and give us some form of momentary happiness like jobs, boyfriend or girlfriend, wife, or husband, and father or mother relationships. We listen to respect and obey them because we feel they’re a part of our world.

For that, we try to respect and obey whatever things they say, and the influences they command around our lives. Often because of the fear of the consequences that ensue. We cannot refuse to face the consequences of the actions we take. However, no matter how justified, and morally correct our actions and attachments might seem, they will fall under the question of whether they were right or wrong, truth or lies.

A morally sound, obedient, nice, and submissive person may seem the best of people to want to frolic with, to be around them, and have some fun time. A moralist acts nice and appears wise in difficult and awkward situations. An obedient and submissive person will follow through to the letter anything and everything that has been stipulated and designated as lawful. That, however, does not judge their actions as right or true according to Christian ethics, not doctrines, please.

In simple terms, because of the constraint of time, Doctrines and Ethics could simply occupy entirely different spheres of knowledge. In this heuristic, “Doctrine” is essentially the mystical contemplation of a God who is rationally unknowable, and Ethics represents what is necessary to get by in the material world.

Life itself can be adjudged from three perspectives – morality, obedience to law and order, and from the Christian perspective. Whereas, God adjudges the actions and entire existence of human beings based on right, and wrong.

Morality and obedience might not be okay or right before God no matter how morally sound or okay their psychology and philosophy might postulate. It is possible to be morally sound so that certain things that are considered evil are not practiced. Morality in some sense, is the human version of right and wrong that could mildly bend to accommodate, excuse, or justify certain human lapses or errors. But “right and wrong” stands firm in God’s sight. When we commit a wrong before God, the consequences stand, it cannot be bent for certain people and held firm against others. The consequences of our actions for or against “right and wrong” have an equal measure of consequences before God.

“Obedience is better than sacrifice,” as held by the popular cliché. When you do what authority says to do, you become a favorite of that authority even when your obedience contravenes the law or morality. The law is the body that gives rights or empowers a person or thing to act or stand as legality.

However, remember that because something is legalized that does not make it lawful or moral. The law has the power to authorize anything and make it right at will. But morality is more concerned about how people behave. So, law and morality are not the same. Law refers to a set of formal rules and regulations enforced by a governing authority, while morality deals with principles and values that guide individual behavior and are often linked to cultural, religious, or personal beliefs.

May I reemphasize here that law refers to sets of formal rules and regulations that are enforced by a governing authority, whereas morality concerns itself with the various principles and values in life that guide individual behaviors often based on religion, and sometimes, personal convictions?

Obedience is better than sacrifice. Both the leading words Obedience as well as Sacrifice have a strong sense in each perspective. Obedience stands for loyalty, while sacrifice stands for giving up for better cost but here Obedience is more important than sacrifice since Obedience is done with a willing heart, unlike sacrifice.

Obedience can be considered from two perspectives:
In psychology, the term obedience alludes to a person following the direct orders of an authority figure. In some cases, the person obeys even if they find the orders morally reprehensible. Two types of obedience are constructive obedience and destructive obedience.

This brings me to the definitions I desire to put out here regarding morality and obedience:

Morality: Is the ability to do what is right regardless of what you’re told.
Obedience: Is the ability to do what you’re told regardless of what is right.
Christian ethics: It takes from the Bible, its normative rules focusing on conduct, its basic understanding of natural law, its patterns of moral reasoning which focuses on character, and the ideals of a community built on social justice.

The life of a military personnel or a soldier is regimental, it is about rigid orderliness, doing what you’re told whether it is morally right or not. You must listen and obey your commanders. In the case of morality, your conscience comes into play. It is the consequence based on your belief and religious tenets that informs the steps you take toward doing that thing you want to do.

Our conduct and behaviors are express manifestations of the beliefs and religious influence upon us. When a person is well-mannered, he or she is said to be morally decadent or responsible.

Having said that would it be okay to encourage and promote morality more than religion?

Moral Virtues:
Moral virtue, in ethics, is those qualities or states of character that find expression in morally good actions and morally good purposes or intentions. Moral virtues are persistent patterns of behavior and thought rather than transient emotions, aspects of intelligence, or physical characteristics.

Morality and Christianity, the interplay. If one is morally sound could such a person be called a Christian?

Religion and morality are different concerns altogether. religion and morality “are to be defined differently. They have no definitional connections with each other. But they are interconnected in some ways.

Christian Ethics:
These are standards of rights and wrongs based on the dictates of the Christian Bible and the teachings of Jesus Christ. Old Testament prophets, and New Testament apostles’ standards of living. These ethics serve as guidance for Christian living.

In other words, Christian ethics takes from the Bible, its normative rules focusing on conduct, its basic understanding of natural law, its patterns of moral reasoning which focuses on character, and the ideals of a community built on social justice.

Morality is defined as beliefs about the differences between right and wrong or good and bad behavior. Laws are the rules a country or community mandates its citizens follow to regulate society.

As a Christian, I should be more drawn to what is biblically right, the TRUTH only, with no sentimental attachments. Because only THE TRUTH sets free. Obedience to the last order does not and should not count in this case but TRUTH. When the season of reckoning finally comes, “Obedience is better than sacrifice” won’t count anymore only what you do in the TRUTH and Spirit.

May 3, 2024 0

The Excalibur!

“Hey, learn to choose your battles, you don’t argue over every little thing and everyone.”

The Excalibur is a symbol of power and death. The Cross is a symbol of power, forgiveness, and eternal life.

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. rulers of the dark world.” – Ephesians 6:12.

LEGENDARY are several, countless, admirable stories of Ancient Britain’s’ conquests. They waged wars against other nations, conquering to expand their territory and have the world around them submit to their authority and rulership.

Every war fought around the world today is just about nothing but one that tells a story of a desire for conquest, a fight to expand territory and span scopes and spheres of influence, to command fear and respect. During these wars, legends are made in the order of their wittiness with the sword or other battle weapons, their strength to beat up an opponent, their battle strategies, and their prowess. The ability to have gone into many battles, won them, and come alive, having fought through death and survived – that’s what makes legends (surviving through dangerous oppositions and coming out to tell the stories). Legends fight to stamp their names on the sands of time about their conquests over the best of warriors, winning battles and becoming champions for their lords, the kings. Countless sensible or senseless battles to conquer and build a strong fortress, a formidable and fearful empire that will command fear, terror, and respect in the minds of their subjects as well as seeming impending enemy nations.

While some of those battles were needless, a mere show of power, suppression, and oppression of the poor and weak. Needless the sense they only exerted power to extort land and property from the weak and powerless. As well, some were needful because they tell stories of defense, those who fought on this side of the battles, fought in defense against the invasion and extortion of their land and property.

In ancient Britain, a legendary sword, the Excalibur, belonging to King Arthur of Camelot was believed to possess certain magical powers to penetrate through the hardest of steels, and anyone who became the bearer of that sword was believed to be a great warrior and must have won battles. The bearer of the sword, the Excalibur was one known to possess the wherewithal and power to take human life at whim. The Excalibur is the mythical sword of King Arthur that was believed to have possessed magical powers or be associated with the rightful sovereignty of Britain.

To this day, the Excalibur is believed to be a symbol of power and death. We fight battles every day, battles for life and existence – battles to discover and find self-worth, and self-assertion to forge ahead. There’s so much against your life, as individuals and as a corporate body. So much standing against the reality of our existence. You need to stand firm, put up a fight, and be resilient against whatever is resisting, your desires and needs to live and enjoy freedom.

Many years ago, in Africa, a young leader of Ethiopian descent realized that too many promising destinies and good lives were being wasted through needless battles. He decided on a new approach to resolving those matters of disagreement without having to spill blood. So, he made a resolve to bring an end to the hostilities, and issues that would result in the loss of human life.

Born Tafari Makonnen, also known as Rastafari also known as Tarafi Makonnen served as regent for Zauditu from 1916 to 1930. After Zauditu’s death, he was crowned emperor of Ethiopia on November 2, 1930, and took the name Haile Selassie I meaning “Might of the Trinity” in Amharic, the official spoken language in Ethiopia during his reign as emperor.

Rastafari or Emperor Haile Sellase 1 chose to call for a truce between opposing generals, which he felt would be the best option to curb the menace of death and bloodshed in the land. So, he called them to a party he organized to welcome and draw into close ties, and alliance with him. Those who felt Tafari Makonnen did not deserve the seat of leadership he was occupying declined the offer.

One of the generals, who thought of himself more wiser and witty and stronger enough to outsmart Tafari Makonnen and topple the government agreed to honor the invitation. However, he already had strategized on how he would take over the government of Rastafari. he came out from where he was hiding and headed to the city, ensuring that he positioned his military everywhere to easily take over the government.

Unaware of the general, Tafari Makonnen already read his move. And so he ensured to send emissaries through a secret back door to convince the general’s soldiers to join the government army or be counter-rebels with their leader. While he had had his fill and left the palace. Outside the entrance gate of the city, he tried to signal to his army to commence the battle to round off and capture the city. He didn’t know Tafari Makonnen had coerced his forces into submission. The same strategy he deployed to win over opposing parties. They either agree to make a truce with him or face the wrath of their rebellion against the government. At some point, Tafari Makonnen, aka, Ras Tafari became an object of discussion amongst the Christian side because of his closeness with Muslims as a Christian. But Tafari Makonnen became the first emperor to travel outside Ethiopia to strike deals with some parts of the world.

We could say it was probably the same gameplay during the birth of Christ. So noble was the birth of this special child-king; heralded by angelic announcement. In the mind of the Roman government and Israeli faithful, “Finally, the time of reckoning has come. Deliverance from the oppressive, molestation of the Roman government is over.” Cognitive of the military might and formidable fortresses the Roman Empire wielded, Israel expected more than a Goliath for a king.

Israelites had suffered compulsory allegiance to Caesar and the Roman government, forced exorbitant payment of taxes. The oppressive leadership of the Roman Empire was so demanding that it was taking a toll on them. Israel didn’t know how to fight back against the oppression as they had tried many times but resolved to submission when fate smiled at them again.

For what it’s worth, the birth of Christ seems to have come with a curse, taking the lives of millions of Israeli children ages 2 and below. That season, the entire land of Israel screamed with cries of grieving families because of the loss of their children – a kind of mixed feelings in Israel, and Herod was set to wreak more havoc if Israel wouldn’t provide the boy-king.

Israel, I believe got disappointed when Christ finally emerged. Rather than appearing as the great warrior as was announced by the angels, exhibiting the fierce warrior disposition, showing off professional military strategies and prowess in the order of his predecessors: Samson, David and his men, Tachmonite, Ishbosheth, and Eleazar. Jesus was too nice and friendly to very poor and needy people.

The essence of this article is not to encourage and teach the art of war when faced with oppression but to help us understand life better, it seems to provide counsel so that whenever you’re faced with struggles in your life, to know what to do and how to know battles to fight and which ones to let go – choose your battles, right.

Daily, we are engaged in a battle of some sort. This battle is not against, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. rulers of the darkness world.” – Ephesians 6:12.

“Hey, folks, choose your battles, right? You can’t go about arguing over every little thing and with everyone.” You need to know what things are holding you back from making progress and succeeding in some or all of your endeavors.

As a people, we desire and yearn for the right strategies to know how to conduct ourselves, respond to those who confront us, and defend ourselves at home, in the Church, and in the workplace. We want to learn how to communicate our frustrations effectively and make others understand when they were wrong (because telling people they were wrong would mean a lot).

In essence, sometimes, we seek passive-aggressive tactics. However, what we receive could be a simple but profound piece of advice that seemingly since transformed our thinking: choose your battles.

In life, conflicts are as certain as the changing seasons because, without them, life would be boring. Whether they happen in personal relationships, professional environments, or broader societal contexts, conflicts can either be constructive or detrimental depending on how they are managed.

For me, many times, I have ‘coined’ the art of choosing my battles as being non-confrontational because people tend to understand what it means to avoid conflicts rather than choosing not to address them at that moment or in my case, yielding my sword before the battle begins.

The big issue here is to not just go about fighting everyone who confronts us but to understand that the best way to respond to such disturbance and distractions is to walk away, overlook, and ignore them. You need to maintain silence and quietitude over issues, and things said or done against you – because people won’t attack what they do not know.

Also, we must learn to practice empathy and compassion. Rather than respond to a personal attack with defensiveness or retaliation, make an effort to cultivate empathy and compassion. Try to understand where the attacker is coming from and what might be driving their behavior. This carefulness will give you the right plan and manner to deploy in dealing with the issue.

To win over the battles of life, you don’t go about fighting everyone who distracts you by the roadside.

Strategies to win the battles of life:
Identify your enemy: Knowing who is fighting you is the first step to your victory:

Don’t be driven by emotion: Your strength and abilities are dependent on your mindset.
Take your problems to God: Answers only come from God. Many of us tell our problems to people and they end up disappointing us.
Admit you need help: Your problems will continue to mount up if you don’t recognize you have a problem in the first place. The moment you recognize your need for help, you’re halfway to solving it.
Rely on God’s power: Believe in yourself, and the abilities you possess. But more in the capability (power) of God to bring you out of the predicament you’re in.
Relax in faith: Faith is the substance of thibgs hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Faith is the currency that will help every believer to make or transact any business in the kingdom. Even with self, you need faith.
Thank God in advance: Many people wait until they see the blessings then pray to God to receive them and become despondent when the blessings seem to be delayed. But a man or woman of faith will give thanks to God in advance even when they’ve not seen answers to their problems.

God assures us of his capacity not to fail us, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9: It is in the strength of God that we fight our battles. There can be no success against God, there’s also no success without God! Proverbs 21:31 says, “The horse is prepared for the day of battle, but deliverance is of the LORD.” God can save His children without the help of armies but armies cannot save without Him.

The mighty army of Pharaoh consisting of numerous battle horses and chariots drowned in the Red Sea while pursuing God’s children (Exodus 14: 27-28). No battle was fought for defeating them. The fort of Jericho was brought down – no sort of warfare was applied in that undertaking, except praising God! King Jehoshaphat defeated the Moabites and Ammonites without fighting a battle. God said: “Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God’s” (2 Chronicles 20:15). He continues to say in Judges 7:17 “You will not have to fight this battle, see the deliverance the LORD will give you.” Hence God does not need an army to fight or win a battle for His people.

You don’t even have to fight anyone at all. People will try to hurt you, they will try to mess up your collectiveness. You should and must work hard to keep intact your salvation, working with fear and trembling to stay in tune with God for your salvation is at the corner.

April 28, 2024 0

Vision: For Your Marriage and Home!

“For the most part, every home or family is aptly and explicitly represented in character and behaviors by members of the family except for a few cases of rebellions.”

“For the love of money is the root of all evil…”

“The Christian marriage does not have any form of empathy for divorce. It exists on the tenets, “To have and to hold until death do us part…”

“Only if Nigerian parents would start giving their children out in marriage for love and respect instead of it being a poverty alleviation scheme.”
– Amara Nwosu

A dicey one there, to not have your own, personal conviction of what you want in a woman, relationship, or marriage is to leave the choice of your spouse to someone else or fate to decide for you. And of course, you readily know that the outcome would be disastrous.

Permit me to adduce here that, “For the most part, every home or family is aptly and explicitly represented in character and behaviors by members of the family except for a few cases of rebellions.” Because this is true, that’s why I made my resolve that I am going to go into my choice of a spouse consciously and prayerfully. I will walk myself on that path, I will not let anyone drive or push me on the path when it involves my marriage – I will take conscious and deliberate steps. Most importantly, my marriage will not be a constructed arrangement that suits the plans of some people – parents because that’s the beginning of doom for the party if they don’t have feelings (love) for one another.

Marriage for Money:
What causes problems in your relationship and home is the love and cravings for riches. Someone said to me some time ago that he is setting himself up mentally, the next thing on his agenda would be marriage, and that he would be marrying for strategic placement.

To strategize means to think of a detailed plan for achieving success in a situation. If I got that meaning correctly, he meant that he would be looking out for a woman who ho would enhance his success, whether it has to deal with money or whatever things he had included in the meaning of his statement, is inclusive.

The scripture says, “For the love of money is the root of all evil.”
– 1 Timothy 6:10

Money is an important aspect in every relationship especially marriage because of its capability to sort bills and take out tension problems and lack, smoothen, and alleviate seemingly unnoticeable skirmishes that arise in marriages because of the lack of it. But to make the desire for marriage exclusively a source or means of curtailing, alleviating, and taking out poverty from your home becomes a big issue.

Of course, marriage unites families to bless, lift, and upgrade both families because of the one that is better off financially. But does not make it a point for anyone looking for marriage to find a man or woman who is readily wealthy to better the lots of his or her own family – that would be an antidote for disaster.

Marriage is as important as life itself where human existence is concerned. You sell your jewels to someone who has value for it or someone who knows its value, and not to anyone who would make a mockery of it. The Christian marriage is not a contract that lasts for a while, it is a lifetime contract, as carried by the vows made on your wedding day, “To have and to hold until death do us part…”

So, would you take this lifetime commitment so lightly? Would you not be careful with whom you’re espoused? If you don’t care about that, you will have yourself to blame. You could act carefree but know that your success and life depend on it.

A Christian home is one that’s based on God’s purposes for every member of the household. It’s a place where the family’s goals are founded upon His values and where the corporate vision of the future is consistent with His plan.

Building and raising responsible and Godly children should be stored somewhere at the back of your mind as you choose your spouse. Developing a family “Mission Statement” can be a wonderful place to start crafting a genuinely Christ-centered home. The guiding principles embodied in this document should be flexible but consistent. From beginning to end, they should reflect your eternal focus and express your deep hope of seeing Jesus face to face one day.

A Christian home is where husbands and wives discover that serving each other in Christ is primary; that service to others in the outside world is built upon an attitude of selflessness at home; and that all of life, including the mundane duties of laundry, housekeeping, and lawn-mowing, can be sacred.

It’s a shame that your religious upbringing has left you with such a bad taste in your mouth. There have always been tares mixed in with the wheat, hypocrites among the saints, and sanctimonious Pharisees in the church.

We’re all fallen people, so there’s always the danger that even the best and most sincere believer might at some point fall into the trap of parading a mere “form of godliness” while “denying the power thereof” (2 Timothy 3:5).

But that doesn’t prove that God doesn’t exist or that Christ can’t make His influence felt in our lives in very real and unmistakable ways. And it doesn’t imply that there’s no such thing as “a Christ-centered home.” What is a “Christ-centered home?”

One thing is certain: it’s not a home governed by dead, restrictive “religious” rules. Instead, it’s a place where family members live their lives under the “bright shadow” of the presence of the Son of God – where people speak and act and relate to one another in the awareness that Jesus Himself is an intimately concerned participant in everything they do. It’s a household of which it can truly be said, “Christ is the Head of this house, the Unseen Guest at every meal, the Silent Listener to every conversation.”

How does this “Christ-centeredness” play itself out in the practical details of everyday life? To a certain extent, it expresses itself differently from situation to situation. Every Christian family, like every Christian individual, is a poem (Greek poiema, “workmanship”) written by God (Ephesians 2:10), and every poem is unique. But there are some common features we can expect to find in every genuinely Christ-centered home.

Here are some qualities/features to expect in a Christian or Christ-centered home, Joy is characteristic of a truly Christian home:

Christian home: Having said this, it’s important to understand that joy and happiness are not necessarily the same thing. Happiness is a result of what happens to us. Joy has deeper roots. Every marriage and every family will experience trials and hardships of various kinds, but no circumstance can rob us of our joy if we know that the key to our present welfare and future destiny lies in Christ alone.
A Christian home is orderly: As the apostle Paul says, “God is not the author of confusion but of peace” (1 Corinthians 14:33). In an important sense, this home is guided by Thoreau’s famous dictum: “Simplify, simplify, simplify!” It is purposely not in chaos. The tyranny and bedlam of the world are required to stay outside. The members of the household regularly review everything that’s allowed in. Should it stay? Does it build up the family? Does it encourage people to value one another over things?
A Christ-centered home should be marked by grace: It should be a safe place to mess up. Family members need the ointment of grace applied to the wounds of their hearts. They need to remember that love, not perfection, is the goal. There’s enough hostility, judgment, sarcasm, biting humor, and antagonism out in the world. Home should be a retreat where the hurting can find comfort, rest, and healing.
A Christian home is a place of service: Its atmosphere is tempered and flavored with acts of kindness, respect, humility, and love. This is where husbands and wives discover that serving each other in Christ is primary; that service to others in the outside world is built upon an attitude of selflessness at home; and that all of life, including the mundane duties of laundry, housekeeping, and lawn-mowing, can be sacred.
A Christ-centered home is a place where spiritual disciplines are practiced: It provides an environment where every member of the family learns how to live by studying the Scriptures, praying, meditating on God’s Word, and spending time alone in the presence of the Lord.

Therefore, carelessness and ignorance would be dangerous handles where dealing with marriage is concerned.”Ignorance is bliss,” they say. That idiom expresses a circumstance whereby someone who does not know about a problem does not worry about the problem. The person never keeps up with the news or cares about the troubles in the world because he believes that ignorance is bliss.

In relationships and marriage, you cannot claim ignorance of the consequences that follow the love of material wealth and money. While I don’t want to sound disrespectful to rich people, I also know that pride and arrogance can come with the possession of wealth.

Marriage is not a thing of experiment, it is a “till death do us part” situation. It’s not something you want to try and if it does not work, you find someone else. This mindset developed by many is why the institution of marriage has been abused. Divorce is assuming a strong root even in Christian homes. I have deleted divorce from my lexicon. As far as I’m concerned, divorce does not exist.

If you love the man or woman you’re married to. Better still, if you are coupled with someone you love, you make your plans with them in mind. You will do everything in your power and ability to make him or her happy. Your utmost desire would be to make the union work (even if Christ is not the priority), the love you have for each other will push you into making amends anytime you have problems because you don’t want to lose each other. But where it is someone else’s idea, there’s hardly any commitment of your own to the relationship, there is hardly any respect you have for the person only resentment, abuse, and dishonor – God forbid it.

If you marry a man or woman, someone you love, you might not have everything you want in the home but for the fact that you’re happy, you find happiness, joy, peace of mind, and satisfaction because you have purported to uphold each other’s hands as you grow, increases in monetary and material wealth that makes easy your relationship in the home.

So, I’m heart and head bent on finding the woman of my dreams and youth. One who will complete and complement me. A man or woman of your dreams describe someone as the person you consider to be an ideal or perfect – the desire of your heart. And God has promised to give us the desires of our hearts if our ways please Him. That means your desire must not be selfish but pleasing to Him for him to give or make it happen to you.

I already have the raw materials required for material and monetary success. I’m only praying, asking, and looking to find a coworker, a builder, and help meet as God has planned it. May this be the prayer and desire of every single man and woman

So, help us God!

April 21, 2024 0

A Grateful Heart!

There’s no telling how wonderful I feel on the inside. It’s such an awesome feeling I have; so overwhelming!

Out of all the days, today, I have a strange feeling; a strong urging in my spirit about something special, something gracious that’s looming Lurking from something like a vault to the fore.

A new season is in the offing, I feel so strongly about it…

I woke up this morning with a strange feeling, a feeling of wonder, an amazingly special feeling. I’m kind of wondering if the excitement within isn’t just about the birthday atmosphere. But something else.

Well, I will find out consequently. Maybe before the day runs out…

With a heart full of gratitude to God and all who are close to me, all who have held my hands tight these many years. So much happened around and within me. Upheavals meant to destabilize and destroy me, only made me stronger and more resilient. Life threw curved balls it throws at us, but the Spirit of God helped us sail through and out of all those huddles of Scot-free and victorious.

Grateful for the seasons gone, grateful for the seasons I am in, the ones to come. Most of all, I am also grateful that I’m alive and enthused about life and goodness. I don’t have everything I want, though, but He’s always meeting my needs according to His riches in glory in Christ, Jesus.

Yes, there were times that I felt so tired, worn, discouraged, needy, and not willing to continue with life. There were times when I had had enough of the troubles and wanted to call it quits, to just end it all.

In all, God has been faithful. He got me to continue to push day in, and day out and not faint until here, where I am, at this point.

So, on this Special Day, I’m not asking too much from God. I’m only asking for a measure of peace. I have worked long, I have worked hard – I need some rest, joy, some peace. And to make this day memorable. It does not have to be an elaborate celebration. I just want something unique, one-of-a-kind to hold onto that will remind me of this day. And then, God reminded me, “But you seem to have some stalled dreams and aspirations, remember? What about working on those?”

That’s it! Now, I have received the sign I was waiting for. Now, is the set time to dust the archives to revisit left-out plans; to pursue and rediscover myself, to retrieve seemingly forgotten dreams that have been left lying fallow, and untapped.

Thereto, I’m going to be excavating deep down into the trenches inside of me to find and mine up all those forgotten and abandoned projects. Also, to trace the point of disconnect that brought me to this point.

The journey this far has not been a pie-in-the-sky and. It’s been oblique, tough, excruciating, and somewhat demeaning. At some points, I got stuck and thought of just giving up. Other times, I just keep pushing. And God has helped me through it all, I’m grateful.

For long, I prayed and hoped to find and to fulfill my purpose, to have my earnest desires met, and for God to bring to completion and fulfill all that concerns me. Sometimes, it feels like I’m just pursuing a mirage. Other times, it seems like grace is at work in a gradual manifestation of power.

But just so I don’t appear hasty, too forward, or merely jumping to early conclusions. I take my worries and cares to Him to ask His help with techniques, know-how, and what to do about everything. I seek divine directions because I don’t just want my ways to prevail over God’s. I want fruitfulness, grace, and sustenance.

You what? God has always told me in clear terms, “Everything will come through to you, and for you in its time. And now, is the time…”

What’s more to ask?

As a grateful child, I ascribe all glory, honor, and praise unto God, Almighty.

Unimaginably, I feel special today because He’s made me very special, the fact that He’s given me another opportunity to see this new year and maybe, just maybe other years. However, as long as I may still have to live this life, I know and feel very strongly that they will be better than the years already gone – that my latter years will be better than the former. And that as the time elapsed, I will realize that truth.

As the Psalmist sang in one of his songs and said, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” – Psalms 139:14.

There’s a fresh path, a window God has opened, and it requires tracing to unveil and rupture its contents because it is its purpose and vision. So, to this end, I don’t know what but I know that the season is very pregnant with special treasures to deliver for seasons to come.

Help me find that path, O Lord, and keep me faithfully on it and I will forever be grateful to you, for you.

A big happy birthday to me.

April 18, 2024 0

Pile Driver!

The willpower to succeed or fail is readily in you, given to and for you to wield it at will to your success or peril.

We all have something in us that can change everything about us and around us – the course of our lives.

Oftentimes, we stop at the nick of our breakthrough. We’re not able to push further.

OF all the arable lands in the nations of the world, Israel, with its rocky, infertile land is rated the best in terms of crop production. It is unimaginable how these people can achieve this feat considering the topography of the land or their arable land mass. Factually, it would be considered impossible to achieve the great results Israel has achieved so far, weathering the obvious storms their homeland was faced with: the rocky and hard-to-till, seeming infertile land.

When it comes to how advanced Israel is, it is #1 in 3 very important ways:

Agriculture by a curb stomp comparison to anyone else. Name one other country that turns desert into orchards.
The tech they create, though not by a landslide.
Military tech, though not by a landslide.

The real issue here isn’t about the Israelites’ success with agriculture or anything else. I only chose to use Israel in this case because of how they have been able to learn to manage such an ugly situation so well to create an advantaged position for themselves.

To ever get extraordinary answers out of seemingly difficult and impossible situations, there is the need to innovate, think outside the box, and bludgeon through iron-rocked impairments.

Another nation to consider is China, 45-50 years ago, China was a very poor nation even though Chinese civilization has been there from time immemorial. Its emergence was just about 50 years ago and look at the laudable achievements they’ve made in just a short time.

Life is a force, it drives us all in the direction of our natural tendencies: success or failure depending on the course of your natural resistance and resilience or desire to conquer.

As in the obeisance to the Earth’s gravitational pull on objects, human existence naturally tends into a state of inertia (activity or inactivity), redundancy, or failure unless acted upon to change the course of its fate. A piece of farmland that is left unattended to, redundant, and fallow for a long time can be thought to be unfertile or barren, not until the day or time someone plants some crops there and people now see the quality of crops that will grow on that farmland, that’s only when the fate or course of that farmland changes.

When you sit down and do nothing with your life, you will naturally gravitate into nothingness and a life of mediocrity. A mediocre expert the boundary lines of life to naturally just fall into pleasant places. So, that he does not have to struggle for anything, it should just come without stress or the strain of a muscle or brain or someone else should just work things out for them to claim the success.

But life isn’t like that, it takes a sweat there and strain here. And now and then, you’re checking up to ensure that everything is still in line, synced, and going in the direction you purported and not assuming a natural course. On a natural course, weeds grow on the soil, not crops. On a natural course, the hairs on the parts of your body grow bush, unkempt and undesirable. Whatever or anything you don’t cater for, takes a natural course – unkempt and destruction.

A pile driver is a heavy-duty machine that is used to drive down piles into hard cores of the Earth or hard grounds to conduct the construction of buildings or bridges in waterlogged or hardcore environments.

Failure is not only a product of laziness but that of wrong decisions, bad investments, and wrong choices. While it is good to not just loaf or laze around and hope for the right moments to take actions that will necessitate your growth, make sure that while you invest your money in a business, be sure to check the grounds upon which you’re investing, check the products you’re investing, are they viable or needed where you want to sell them? Your success in that business is dependent on your market survey. Don’t ever go into a business because everyone says that that’s what is moving. Is it what the people require? Does it meet the needs of the people in the environment you want to sell them?

Your lifestyle and attitude can also affect your business. A shrewd or good businessman will know the best way to relate with his customers or clients. If you’re always all frowny and never smiling, you drive away your customers. You need to attract and invite investors into your business.

Pile driver seeks to explain some of the things that constitute our success or failure in what we do. Why would one man fail in a project or business another is succeeding or has succeeded in?

The ability to drive the business and attract or invite clientele. Someone said this and I quote, “You can’t get in strength, knowledge, and or prowess what you can’t get in manners, attitude, and character.” Little wonder why some very educated, very learned, and most knowledgeable people still end up miserable, they fail because failure is not a thing of knowledge or education. It deals more with the core values and character of an individual.

Some people have made everything about life and existence a matter of competition, a matter of life or death. So, they attack anything or everyone that appears to be doing or working hard and well around them, just so they can stop or annihilate it. With what mind would you conceive ideas that would be beneficial to your emergence and which would you be busy thinking of what ways to countering, diffusing, and scuttling someone else’s plans?

Progress isn’t about whose plans or dreams you work hard to diffuse, make useless, or scuttle. Rather, what you’re able to do given your limited circumstances is to go beyond the limitations before you. These limitations may include handicapped situations, lack of technological know-how, the lack of machinery, etc.

China did not get to where they are today disrupting other people’s plans and dreams. They used what they had, concentrated on what they knew how to do, and kept developing till they got where they already were.

Pile driver is about pushing through seemingly the most impossible situations to conquer them and stand successful on the other side.

In my last write-up, I mentioned that no one makes progress, or advances by looking backward, or sideways but they focus on what is before them, and they keep hitting and bludgeoning until they break through whatever barrier is before them.

To get ahead in life is for one to develop a habit of pushing oneself beyond one’s limits, make it a priority to not stop until you gets out of the old habits of not working enough.

God knows that I am working my head hard every day to be better than my older version, that’s something I know that I owe myself. No one can do that bid for me, it’s my responsibility to improve from what ns who I used to be.

April 18, 2024 0

Just Petty!

You don’t gain speed, or make advancement getting distracted and disenchanted by the activities of people around you.

Focus on what you do, make it unique and especially yours, and see the great success that awaits your plans.

Do what you know best to do, and let everyone else put out their best acts also – the sky is the limit or about just the starting point. It’s big and wide enough to house all the stars we put out on the constellations.

“When a woman is beautiful, classy, intelligent, and confident, she naturally attracts hatred from those who feel intimidated by her.”
– Amara Nwosu

THE world is threatened by confident, classy, and intelligent people. It’s not just a woman’s problem, a lot of men go through this same issue. If you possess those qualities, and you dare to put them out to the world, you should expect criticism from different quarters. Many will tag you: as rude, proud, arrogant, and condescending.

If you happen to somehow not buckle up and be bold enough, you will sink in and allow such statements to bully you into oblivion or a mediocre lifestyle, not inspired, or motivated to go beyond your limits because of the fear of being judged.

But you would know if you understand human psychology and behaviors that these people are just being petty. Should anyone just accept to dance with every wind blows on their way knowing they have more superior ideas but give in to less valuable ideas because of the fear of being tagged?

Anyone who is intimidated by you would try to push and shove you around? They will tell unfounded stories about you just to retard and deter you. But you know better to maintain your position, resolve about what you have, and know rather than choose to go with their opinions or with popular decisions. Sometimes, it’s better to stand alone than stand with everybody if you don’t know their destinations.

Petty is anyone who becomes too careful to follow in detail the activities of others, not to take lessons and or learn to improve their own lives but to disrupt, scuttle, destabilize, and scatter their plans only to steal the ideas and make them theirs at a later opportunity.

Petty is a thief of precious time, and resources. Pettiness will not or does not allow you to choose and pick the right values, bricks, blocks, and materials to build your life. Petty is the word that best fits someone who worries about the progress of others, they wish they could be the only ones making landmark achievements.

By definition, petty mean meanness, someone or a mean person, and ungenerous in small or trifling issues or matters. A petty person shows or is identified by the meanness of his spirit, and takes petty revenge. Pettiness means secondary in rank, especially about others of the same class or kind.

Some people can be petty, especially when they nurture negative ideas or believe they should be the ones in the place of another’s success, not someone else. And since they have no idea how to get to where they want to reach that level of success they probably don’t have what it takes (the wherewithal) even if they believe they’re knowledgeable and well-certificated for it.

For such people, their lifestyle is clouded by competition, very competitive in their nature, everything, and everyone around them is a competition. Everything you do, the steps you take, the speech you make they take it as something you’re doing to beat them a certain game, even when you’re not playing any game – in their mind and undertakings, they compete with until you give in to their pressures and give up because they will continually recruit nonentities in that fight with you.

So, they get so busy paying close and too much attention and concentrating on what they do that they fail to work on what they have or who they are, to conceive or think of ideas that would catapult them to the heights they desire to climb. So, they keep scuttling other people’s plans who are trying to grow and move ahead to force you to remain in the position they are in or force you to accept their inferiority.

It’s important to cut ties with such persons if you have them as friends or family. Right now, I’m sifting friends and the people around me because I just realized that some people around me are not helping to push me forward. Instead, they’re like a heavy weight tied to my running shoes, pulling and holding me down from advancing, and because I have shown ardent resilience in resisting the clutches they put on me, they just hate me and hate my guts.

Recently, I learned a very valuable lesson from one of Bishop Jakes’s messages. He said that most relationships or married people marry someone (partners) who is 80% of what they want. But the 20% looks huge when you’re not getting it. So, they leave the 80 to get the 20, only to move in with the 20 and miss the 80. Because the only thing that makes the 20 valuable is, it supplements the 80. But if you lose your 80 going after your 20, you only realize how greedy and foolish you were.

But here’s the point about life, rather than bother yourself with what others are doing to get ahead, why don’t you think or consider what or how you can continually climb up the ladder of your life? I love Amara Nwosu’s opinion on the observation on the reason why most or some people don’t get ahead in life, “One of the easiest ways to remain abased, under, and unhappy in life is to pay too much attention, negatively, to those who don’t even know you exist.” She said. That’s a profound observation of this matter.

A person who is on a mission to counter what you do will consistently criticize, and inflict upon you with barrages of gossip, backbiting, and jealousy. But you cannot allow yourself to pay attention to what they’re doing, if you know the intentions, you will wriggle your way out of their poisonous entanglement and find your way to the heights you have envisaged for yourself.

One important element in dealing with people is to understand why they are the way they are. Well, one reason people make these malicious, unflattering, spiteful comments about others is that they feel very insecure about themselves, and this is a destructive way they have developed to try to make themselves look better. It certainly doesn’t justify their behavior, but you can at least see why they do it, and that helps you cope with them better.

Also, there are specific occupational conditions that serve to encourage destructive interrelationships among people. Some professions, some management styles, and some organizations seem to promote it more than others.

But there is a deeper cause which we need to understand very well, and we can find that in 2 Timothy 3:1-3, “But realize this, that in the last days, difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good.”

Paul tells us that it’s not going to be easy to get along with other people during the last days because people will love themselves and money above all else. Furthermore, they will not be appreciative, and you won’t be able to get them to reconcile their differences; they’ll prefer to hold on to their hurt feelings and bitterness. They will be malicious gossip, without any self-control or any desire to be good.

Does that sound like some of the people you work with? This is the real root cause of the epidemic of gossip, backbiting, and jealousy that we often encounter. It is a sign of the evil times in which we live.

Some environments are worse than others, and you may choose to escape the situation you are in if it is particularly oppressive. But you will never escape it altogether.

Well, it is a very sad situation. But why not focus on the good news? The proliferation of this kind of evil environment is a sign that this world won’t last forever! We may be victims of it now, but it won’t always be this way. I think this gives us hope, and that’s a good way to think about it.

One thing is certain, petty people would want to make you feel your ideas or everything about you is inferior to theirs only to play down on you to pitch themselves high, and give other people the impression that they are the originators of your very ideas if you’re not strong enough to stand against their intimidations.

Pettiness is somewhat an unrecognizable complex, those who possess it don’t even know or do not think it’s a complex. They feel, “Well, this is part of survival of the fittest. Beat them or be beaten by them.” This rudeness game is practiced to the extremes by governments – because they have the power of the military, police, and law enforcement behind them, they can take on anyone, siphon valuable ideas, and anything they want and get away with it, who is powerful enough to stand against them?

Many people have been hurt in the process, their pride is hurt, and their self-image and integrity hurt because some strong men desire to look, appear, or stamp their position as superior or better than others.

Anyone who is petty will assess, and readily classify you according to their assessment of your value. When they assess you, they’re likely to always get it wrong because, at face value, they don’t see any value in you. Don’t be upset with them, but don’t just accept their appraisal. Because the problem might not be with your value but their poor assessment of you. Their poor assessment might be informed by the fact that they don’t see. They have a plank of wood in their eyes and you have specks of sawdust in yours. The plank in the eyes has blurred their vision so they don’t see your values correctly.

The only person who can give you a real or true sense of value is God. That’s why you have to have a relationship with Him. Only He can tell you who you are because He knows your value and He hides it so that no one gets to use you.

They rejected you because your value wasn’t apparent to them. After they rejected you, it made you desperate and hungry for God. And then, in that attraction, He defines you as, “The mystery man, controlling your circumstances.” So, in your desperation, you cry out, like Jacob did. He said, “Now, that I got you and you got me, ‘I won’t let you go until you bless me.'”

That’s why Isaiah motivated the people, he said, “Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord is risen upon you.”

Tonight, I also encourage you with the same words of Isaiah, “Arise, shine for your light has come…” God cannot, will not anoint what you present, He anoints the real you, the authentic you!

That is a message from Pastor Paul Adefarasin. It explains in detail the true quality of a petty person. First, they take a look at you based on their outlook, see no sign of greatness in you, or even if they see something but because they see nothing about you that will support or advance the greatness latent in you, they choose to rob you and draw their conclusions, “Who will see the evil we have done against him? Let’s see how he can get out of this quagmire!” And because you don’t have the semblance of someone something strong enough to wiggle out from the rough and tough circumstances they plunged you in, they only sit back and wait for your annihilation and destruction.

So, don’t allow the judgment and evaluation of other people you affect who you are. A petty person thinks that the only way to beat you down is to put chains on you, encircle bad rumors about you, and have people hate and call you names to keep your head bowed, and lowered down by calling you proud and arrogant.

With a critical look into the matter, you will realize that it’s sheer pride on the side of all those tagging you with all kinds of names. They subtly want to use you, so, they will do all it takes to want to clip what they consider as your wings, whatever energizes your resistance just so they can get you to submit to the pressures they continuously mount on you.

April 15, 2024 0

…Know Your Onions!

There are no perfect relationships or perfect marriages, there are no perfect human beings either. We’re all laid up with all manner of flaws. So, when we fall in love, we’re not expecting smooth sails all through; we shall meet people with all manner of weaknesses. And it will be our responsibility to work on knowing what works and how to please each other and doing those things for a lasting relationship.

Peaceful coexistence thrives on the strife to please one another. Love isn’t love if there are no rancors from time to time.

A typical loving atmosphere shouldn’t be one that’s only based on romance, it should grow on kindness, tenderness, mutual trust, and quality communication.

“A man is born by a woman, raised by a woman, falls in love, and marries a woman. It’s rather sad that men disrespect women.”

So, I saw this message on a friend’s page and it drove me to this point, “If that thought was conceived by a man, which I doubt, I would say it is possibly borne by some kind of ugly parental experiences. But if it was conceived by a woman, I consider it: selfish, malicious, manipulative, and merely a demand for power and control of manhood.”

Knowledge is key to every successful life, people perish for lack of knowledge. Relationships, marriages, and or businesses fail because people lack the wherewithal to drive the relationships to the great heights of success. While some relationships thrive and run smoothly, others struggle and fall by the wayside because the couples are lacking in experience and what it takes for their relationship to experience or run on that happy and peaceful pedestal they desire.

Yes, we want the best of everything but not ready to work for it. Life should fall for us on a platter – there are no such things. We get what we work for, it’s a principle of life.

The kind of love relationship portrayed there is based on selfishness and greed, it does not truly represent mutuality. So, when you talk about respecting a woman, what does it mean? A woman should be loved truly and thoroughly. If a man showers so much love on his woman, what other respect would a woman be asking for?

The most worrisome part of that assertion is that all the accolades went to women. As much as I appreciate your observations on this issue, I also want to point out some of the areas you seemed to have omitted, you didn’t consider the role or part of men anywhere in that assertion, “…a man is born by a woman.” Women don’t give birth without the functionality of the man, women still need the sperm of a man to be able to get pregnant. Except if she would prefer to go for artificial insemination, even then, she will still require the contribution of a man.

So, this proves true that we cannot ever function independently. This is the point where synergy comes into play. “A man is almost dysfunctional without a woman. Likewise, a woman is dysfunctional without a man.”

To put that assertion into proper perspective, I would say that such an assertion is just vague. In the sense that it lacks specification. What does “Respect a woman” mean? Who disrespects the women? How are the women being disrespected? What should a man do that is not considered a disrespect to women? What are the things that are respectful or disrespectful to women?

Yes! There’s no denying that some men abuse their wives, it will also shock you that so many women are abusing their husbands that you know little or nothing about because those men cannot complain outside the home about it.

If women can value those things, it will make it easy for men to ascertain their roles in a woman’s life.

Based on biblical standards, a man is the head of his wife. Therefore, the woman, wife should respect and submit to her head. Meanwhile, on the other hand, the man being the head of the home should provide and love his wife unconditionally.

If we do those things (obligations) without prejudice, there won’t be any reason for any of the parties to think its being or not being disrespected. Everything will flow smoothly, and unabated, and all in the name of love, respect, and submission – these are the ingredients that make for a smooth sailing relationship.

To Control A Man:
Just so you don’t misunderstand me, this part of the writing is referring to women who are married and have their husbands. Thereto, I make bold to say that a woman who knows her onions already has control of her man (husband) when she honors and submits to her man.

What man would inflict or cause pain or harm to a wife who is obedient, submissive, and honors him? The problem is that most women want to dictate to their men, which is the part most men dislike – that’s like making the man appear foolish especially when this disrespect is done right before his friends.

A woman who respects, honors, and submits to her husband does not need to worry about him spending more time outside than with her. It is the husband who would outrightly tell his friends he is satisfied and happy with their lifestyle as husband and wife. You know, there’s this suggestion that some men have been jazzed, made useless by their wives by putting love potions in their husband’s food so they can just turn and use the man as they please.

When a man enjoys the peace and happiness in his home, he does not crave the company of friends, he runs back home to his family where he finds love and peace of mind.

What things constitute the disrespect of a woman?

Women are easily put off by a proud man. Rich men believe that every woman who shows up around them comes for their money. Disrespect towards women is anything that makes a woman feel uncomfortable, unsafe, put down, or treated unfairly because she’s a woman. It’s pervasive! Often, it involves sexist and sexually harassing behaviors, like:

Making sexist jokes and comments.
Interrupting, talking over, and speaking for women.
Pestering a woman who said she ‘isn’t interested’.
Thinking or saying women ‘belong’ in certain roles.
Using patronising language with women you don’t know (‘sweetheart’s ‘love’).

I think that the most important issue here would be to ask, “What describes a typical loving atmosphere in a relationship?” Is it when the couples are all smiles, laughing, happy moments and no quarrels?

But that in my thought would be an unrealistic situation. So, out of this world to not ever experience heated moments, problems or misunderstandings once a while. It’s natural, and part of being human to express our weaknesses. It’s how we try to manage this nature with our spouses that makes the difference.

However, let’s take our cue from the Bible, which as Christians is our standard.

Human existence started with the man, Adam. The woman, Eve, was not in the picture of creation. And he, Adam functioned perfectly, without the influence of the woman, Eve.

But then, came Eve. In other words, in God’s agenda at the creation, the woman was nowhere in perception, She wasn’t a part of the play in the Creation process, something you could call, second thought.

If you recall the discussions with God and His Triune being (The Father, Son and Holy Spirit). God said, “It’s not good that the man be alone, let’s make him a help meet…” – Genesis 2:18. The woman was nowhere, she didn’t have a function in the process of Creation. She only came to play when God saw the nerd for the man to have some around to keep him company.

This was the point at which the woman came into the picture, “It is not good for the man to be alone. Let us make for him a help meet. You will also recall that Adam had already finished the assignment God gave to him. Adam had performed all the duties assigned as a co-creator (worker) with God but was alone because all the animals Adam he was assigned to named were male and female. God didn’t intend for Adam to be lonely. Hence, the desire for a companion (help meet).

I also want to draw your attention to this fact, God took a rib from the side of the man, first, to create the woman. So, the argument that a woman gave birth to a man, where is that part that says the woman was born out of a man’s rib?

“And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the place with flesh instead thereof..” – Genesis 2.21

When Adam woke up and saw the Eve, He said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” – Genesis 2:23.

If you are a woman and a Christian, we are not trying to make you subservient to your men or husbands but we desire that you be properly guided so that you don’t quickly jump into any teachings you see that sound good or feminist-inclined and quickly embrace it, don’t ever take to heart anything that is biblical unsupported. It might only negate and destroy your faith in God. Check every saying in the Bible, does the Bible agree with what has been said or written?

So, we encourage men to love their women with unconditional love, and treat them as their queens because your woman or wife was formed out of their rib, she is a part of his own body, “…bone of your bones, and flesh of your flesh...”

These things can only work if there is mutual agreement, which can also be called, mutual understanding. If both men and women come to this understanding, there shall be no controversies, there won’t be any uncontrollable or manageable quarrels between us.

There are no perfect relationships or perfect marriages, there are no perfect human beings either. We’re all laid up with all manner of flaws. So, when we fall in love, we’re not expecting smooth sails all through; we shall meet people with all kinds of weaknesses. And it will be our responsibility to work on knowing what works and how to please each other and doing those things for a lasting relationship.

Peaceful coexistence thrives on the strife to please one another. Love isn’t love if there are no rancors from time to time.

A typical loving atmosphere shouldn’t be only based on romance, it should grow on kindness, tenderness, mutual trust, and good communication.

You may argue this, but there’s no other truth than this.

Life is full of ups and downs, twists and turns, but a beautiful journey that teaches us valuable lessons along the way. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the victories, and cherish the moments that make life truly special. Live each day to the fullest and make the most of every opportunity that comes your way. Remember, it’s not so much about how smooth or rough the journey would be but the destination itself.

I did not come to this life only to wind up (end up) in hell, that’s the direction every wrong and troublesome relationship would drive you.

The bottom line is, that God desires to rapture a Church that is without wrinkle or spot. To make excuses for our weaknesses and inadequacies is to overlook the chastisement of God. This life is about retracing our tracks back from destruction to God’s ways and the peace, and joy He offers us in Christ, Jesus.

Stay in tune with God and walk right, stay focused, and always ready to build joy and peace in your relationships outside, in your marriage, and at home. They have the keys to your destination.

Think about that!

April 11, 2024 0

The Innuendos Of Relationships!

Half or lack of knowledge regarding a subject is a biopsy leading to dire consequences.
Two can only walk together if with a common ground.
Love and romantic relationships do not happen by magical means. They take the communion of the two persons involved.

“Until a man heals himself, he’ll be toxic to every woman who tries to love him.”

WHILE that sounds right, there’s no disputing the fact, that this might not always be true, and not applicable in all cases because most of the problems in relationships come from women. So, what illnesses would a man heal himself from if he is the oppressor in the relationship? Is it an ailment he caused by himself or the same disease, ailment, or heartbreak that was caused by a woman?

So, does that saying hold water?

Most people go into relationships, especially me, I have never and will never go into any relationship for the sake of just toying around with people’s hearts and emotions except I didn’t make the decision or make the move to ask that girl out. And of course, I can’t be responsible for any faults or anything that will go wrong in that relationship.

In essence, often, it’s very advisable to follow every issue from the genesis – know the root cause to establish what, when, where, and why every issue is coming from to ever jump to any conclusions.

When you’ve not walked in the shoes of a man who has suffered any form of disappointment, it’s easy to just speak or spew anything from your mouth. When you’ve not tasted the hell such persons have been through especially all the manner of phonies who never had any agreement with the victim, who only spoke with the wrong people to be in love with someone else only to make it look like this one is a jerk. I have also heard people say, “Don’t help people who are suffering because you don’t know the cause of their suffering. It could be God punishing their sins.”

The Broken Spirit:
One thing is certain, most people who rant spread unfounded rumors about other people on the grounds they haven’t the slightest inkling what happened, how it started, or what gave birth to such gross animosity against a fellow who has done nothing but try to be himself, stay afloat and keep the negativities from weighing him down and drowned.

When a spirit is broken, it means that the psyche is divided or broken and shredded into pieces instead of being whole (intact). When this happens, it is impossible to think straight. You can even lose a sense of who you are. You feel empty and hopeless. If you don’t know, ask anyone who has suffered depression or it’s like, it can take away the zeal and enthusiasm to want to live.

Before you think of pushing another person into a state of rejection, or depression, please, try to walk in those shoes, first, if you’re able to survive it; thank God for your strength. And you should always remember that not everyone is like you, they might not have your kind of strength. So, don’t even think of sending someone on that path, the consequences might be dire.

Unfounded Rumors:
The biggest problem of mankind is that we are too quick to want to speak, there’s no problem with speaking but knowing what things or issues you should talk about.

Where have we thrown that thing called, “Intelligence?” What are we using our intelligence for these days? Why have all our discussions been about how other people are doing so badly? Sadly, we’re not discussing it to bring solutions to what we think are their problems, but we have found something to laugh and jeer at them about.

The word intelligence is such a very rich word of the many words in the English Language. It is rich in the sense that it tells the quality of a man, his mental alertness, ability to reason logically, and acuteness. Human intelligence deals with many aspects of human psychology. It can be defined as the ability to learn, understand, and deal with new or trying situations. The reason is the skilled use of it. The ability to apply knowledge to manipulate the environment or think abstractly, and constructively as measured by objective criteria, such as tests. It is about mental acuteness -shrewdness. Also, the basic eternal quality of a divine mind. And so much more I might not want to script down here.

That was a mere digression, as humans, we should be using our minds for intelligent conceptions, and not for discussing people. Engage your minds intelligently and see who you will become in a few months or years.

The mind is a very productive engine that can transform and revolutionize your entire life, and turn around your world only if we would take the time to hone and teach it to work for our good.

It’s nice to be nice, and fair when we don’t understand what people are going through, your words can tear broken hearts. So, do you blame a man who has been consistently disrespected? A girl cannot cannot love a man and not talk to the man but talk to someone else. You can’t blame the man for going elsewhere when you don’t have an agreement except if her plans are malicious.

A Weary Spirit:
The usual thought is to sleep away, that when you sleep enough, you wake up to a whole new spirit and enthusiasm. It is not always true with a soul that is tired, and weary of going to and fro. It appears as if you’re making progress only to fall back to ground zero, the very place where you started. And it may seem just okay if it is a momentary thing, not a repeated and perpetual recurrence.

Sleeping it off is not an option, because weariness is a soul issue. But a weary spirit can cause physical lethargy. Webster’s 1828 Dictionary partly defines weary as “Having the patience exhausted, or the mind yielding to discouragement.” If we’re not careful, weariness can lead to depression.

The best you can do for anyone in a dire situation or someone you’re not aware of what’s going on on their inside is to not add to the injuries they’re already suffering do not weary their already ailing spirits (souls). If you have nothing good to do or say worthy of alleviating their problems, please, you can as well just keep your peace. But making or spreading unfounded rumors about things you don’t even know how they started can cause colossal damages, or raise bigger or greater problems. It can even drive them insane if they’re not strong enough or have not learned to hear evil said against or about them and overlook it. God knows what worst degree or dimensions of decisions they might be pushed to make.

Please, folks, learn to be judicious with the use of words. Choose your words wisely because they have a presence, words have life. “Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.” – Colossians 4:6 (MSG).

People who worry too much are more prone to suicidal thoughts and decisions. Suicide, as we already know, refers to when someone harms themselves with the intent to end their life. The reasons that people attempt suicide are varied and complex, but they often involve severe emotional or physical pain that a person finds unbearable.

Causes Of Suicide:
This mental disorder, comes when the person sinks into the following certain negative misconceptions:

Sadness or grief,
Shame,
Worthlessness,
Intense Guilt,
Rage, or a desire to seek revenge,
That they are a burden to others,
That they have no worth or value,
That life is not worth living,
That they are trapped, either physically or emotionally,
That things will never get better,
Intense physical or emotional pain.

Why these people fall into such condition is because of the many negative words, behaviors and vicious cycles they probably have experienced. Sometimes, after you have tried everything you desire to do and is not succeeding, it’s easy to want to give up on life, submit to fate and conclude you’re a failure.

You don’t know this, a weary and ailing, broken spirit is very vulnerable, susceptible to sudden snap and consequent destruction. Sometime, when someone is suffering for a crime he or she commits, they feel that they’re well-deserved of whatever pain or outcomes of their actions. But when a person is wrongly accused of an issues (sin) they didn’t commit, you don’t know how painful that can feel. Therefore, be judicious with your words especially when you don’t have thr full picture or knowledge of the issue.

For a man who is going through stuff, whether deserved or not, here’s how you can deal with the issues. I’m not giving you theories, I am giving you what has worked for me. I don’t have to narrate the details of what ensued but I need you to know that this might help:
Sit with it: Be present with how you are feeling and why you are feeling this way. A lot of people would say, ‘Get up and dust yourself off and get over it.’ But if you never take the time to be in the same space as the situation/event and your feelings about the situation/event, you will never figure out what you might learn from this and eventually teach others about it. That said, determine how much of your life you want to dedicate to this situation/event. Is it worth a week? Month? Year of your life to dedicate to this feeling and situation?

Find the gift (lessons) in it: No. This is the gift: When you have faced the scorched earth and everything is gone, done, over and you are left there with just your bruised self, you have nothing left to lose! The options that were not there before are all in front of you. You can move, change jobs, start over as whomever you would like to see yourself as. You have the chance to drop old barriers, limiting belief systems, and that outfit you never dared to throw away because it was expensive. Change is hard but change is also liberating.
Know that never being the same and never recovering are two different things. Never recovering is a choice. That’s harsh but it’s true. It’s choosing to stand in the middle of a river and never planning to budge. Eventually it just wears you down and it is a great place for bitterness and anger to take root. Never being the same may mean you have some scars – but all survivors do. You may have things that will always feel like a finger in a wound, but you will also have knowledge and a different vision of things. You can choose to have it be a place of growth. Be well and safe!
For good education and proper knowledge, it’s great wisdom to try to know the genesis and real history of every problem or trouble we hear before we quickly jump to any conclusions. The knowledge might help you understand which side of the story to stand on. So, we do not in our gullibility join forces to bruise an innocent person merely because his relationship hit the rocks with some influential person who has chosen to deal with the issues by telling unfounded lies, which people have bought into and helped to broadcast thereby recruiting more enemies towards that innocent poor man.
Anyone can easily become a victim of planned destruction by evilly intelligent men who present themselves as agents of destruction. Therefore, beware of who you connect with as associates, they could be the beginning of your rise or downfall.
Your healing starts whenever you come in contact with the right kind of woman or man. Some blessings come when the right partner walks into your life. Your struggles will come to an end. After you have been used, lied to, and burnt too many times you become more wary, careful not to fall victim to the many scams of men.

Women are too quick to complain that they’ve been molested while they’re hide under that guise, they become the very agents and perpetrators of molestation. There’s no telling the number of men who suffer from women who molest them because they already have protection.

Whilst trying to just be yourself can steer up the demons in evil people. Acting right, being unperturbed, not worried and maintaining a nice and gentlemanly disposition can make enemies of you to those who have imbibed destructive demonic spirits that do not agree with humanistic and Godly lifestyle.

God bless!

April 7, 2024 0

Serendipity!

“So magical, like a picture-perfect moment,” you’d say. It’s like, in that moment, the whole universe existed to bring everything together to make things happen for you.

It takes about nothing to offend minds already made up about you, just be yourself and you will shake their tables.

It’s a gang up, and since everything you do, say becomes an item, always give them something to talk about.

OUR meeting was strange. A very unusual one. It was coincidental, to put it in the most appropriate words.

For the most part, it was rather circumstantial. I was distressed, working so hard to keep my head above the waters, to be buoyant and cognizant of the overwhelming turbulence, and the suction pulling hard to suck me in.

But I just can’t believe my eyes, I never imagined the sudden turnaround of events, I honestly didn’t! The feeling is elating, though. It is very sentimental and mutual.

Besides, it gladdens my heart, to have found my back myself, my voice. Pulling out of that state of near death, limbo, and oblivion to my new state of robust confidence, comportment, and equanimity is not something I ever envisaged. In my mind, I had almost concluded that evil had won. It feels so relaxing knowing now that the narrative is changed, no longer the usual “Used-to-be!” I can watch my steps right now, trace back to where I came from, where I had missed it, and where I am headed. I found myself back. I am now on the path of purpose, finding my purpose, and accomplishing what things I was destined to do.

The most relishing part of that ugly experience I suffered was my discovery of “Miss Wonder.” I wasn’t searching. I was just being me, doing my thing and kicking up to stay buoyant.

Surprisingly, to my amazement and all the people around me, at the nick of time, love and goodwill smiled on me. I had given up on searching, given up on the hope of finding peace. I had given up on finding for myself a good woman.

Everyone was beginning to adduce, “Seems like you’re too selective? Are you looking for Miss World? What do you want? With all the women around, you’ve not seen the kind of woman you want? You need to just decide for a woman and stop all those calculations. It is God who blesses marriages. You will be surprised by the sudden in your life if you would just take up one woman and make your wife.”

That were negative vibes there, yes, sounded like good counsel, and to be honest, some of those people were sincere about the things they said. But most of that was mere mockery and taunts, knowing what roles they also have played in disrupting your choices with the man or woman you truly loved.

The Cupid’s Bow And Arrows:
Do they carry love spells? But how can we trust spells for lasting love, spells are terminal. They don’t have lasting effects, when the target comes out of the effects of the spell, senses return and they choose to decide right now since they were not sensible enough to make those decisions themselves, they can choose to leave.

True love has no dealings with any mythological god of love, the Cupid of the Roman Kingdom. True love flows from above, Heaven, from God to us. When your love for whoever it is targeted at comes from God, it will be lasting because God-kind of love is liberating, it sets free and flows freely, non-stop, and unrestrained by any kind of barrier it bolsters through all barriers to rest on its targeted soul.

Unlike Cupid, who uses only mere symbols and look-alikes to denote and lead people to mere sensuality – love based on things, behaviors, seduction, and, or suggestive moves. Cupid has a bow and arrow that he uses to make people fall in love with each other. He shoots arrows at people he wants to fall in love with each other. Ovid tells a story in his Metamorphosis of Cupid and his arrows involving Apollo and Daphne. True love cannot be related to a Cupid, it will be terminal.

However, I was not even responsible for chasing after all those women who were said to have jilted me. Some people felt they knew better for me what I wanted. So, any woman I got close to became a target to be stressed by my tormentors because they felt that my eyes were big and that I was always wanting good things. So, to tame me, they would stress any girl that truly try to relate with, just so they could clip my wings, according to their statements.

So, just at the very point when I had given up trying to chase after her, “She showed up,” my joy and peace knows no limits, that woman, the special woman who is making my world go round.

The journey here was one mixed with all manner of horrible experiences: the good, the bad, and the ugly. It has been one of trying to push away the negativism, the lies, and evil adducements made and tagged in my name.

Keeping calm, strong, afloat, and healthy through the storms of my life has not been a pie-in-the-sky. In honest, my journey has been boisterous, one of bouldering through the barriers and giant boulders set on my every step.

Asking me to not have an opinion on everything I see would be telling me to continue to allow others to tag their every wild and evil thoughts and adjustments on me. Well, for your information, I don’t have an opinion about everything. I only have an opinion about anything and everything that comes to my table because I know the questions that are calling and begging for my attention.

More so, why does everyone else have an opinion and I don’t? I wasn’t the only person who gave an opinion, many other people shared their own opinions. Why is mine more worrisome compared to other people’s?

Frankly speaking, I don’t have any business to do with anything but whatever comes to the range of my ears or eye level becomes my people because the person who brought my way had the guts to do so, then, I have the right to speak to air my view. That was the reason it was posted on social media in the first place, right?

Why then am I not permitted to speak my mind, if others can? However, let it be known to everyone who cares to listen, you may choose to or not to read it. I will always write and share just about anything and everything God impresses upon my mind to talk about, and there’s no negative force or power that would ever shut me down or seek to stop this good thing God has given me.

I watched while people used mere gossip and lies to gather enemies for me because I didn’t have the means to defend myself. I worked about feeling ashamed and disrespected by many people who once had respect for me because of the mere lies they heard about me. I don’t have the intention to slander anyone but I will refute any lies spoken about me because it’s not in my character to be evil or annoy people. I might not be a perfect guy but I’m not as bad of a person as I’ve been crafted out to be – I’m not perfect but I’m not wicked.

You cannot stop goodness only to allow mere suggestions – evil and devilish vibes to flourish, at least, not on my watch, anymore.

The evil we are allowing passage, and grooming into existence, will turn around to consume all of us someday. It’s sad, what society would support wrongdoing rather than sanitize and build a healthy society? Except one that is perversive. So, instead of allowing these negative trends to continue to abound, let’s turn things around. We are not asking everyone to come and be a Christian or anything and if you desire it, why not? We will receive you gladly.

So, I was running away in search of some happy moments. But I found much more than just happiness, I found peace.

I don’t know if I should call it a moment thing, love at first sight but I knew at that moment that it was something deeper.

What makes two people fall in love without even knowing each other?

Well, the very question is quite ironic in its way. I mean… how can two people possibly fall in love knowingly?

You meet him or her and that person comes across as any plain other normal person to you. Though, you cannot deny that attraction lurking on the sidelines.

You have heard thousands of voices but that voice.. Ahh, that damn voice is good enough to make your heart skip a beat.

And that face, there is nothing special about it but still, you can not take your eyes off it.

People, talk about people and you have met many but nobody like him or her.

And by the time you realize that you are unknowingly falling for all of this. My friend you have successfully, unknowingly fallen in love.

Love is beyond knowledge, beyond logic, beyond reasoning, and that’s what makes it love.

And you know what?

It happened when I wasn’t searching, I was not looking to find a lover. I will say that I had given up searching. I was on my own, just trying to be a good person, and minding my business. Suddenly, boom, it happened!

Everything you do or say becomes an item for their conference to those looking for something or reasons to castigate and malign you. And since that’s true, try always to give them something to talk about.

Serendipity!

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All of humanity was made to think, and believe that Adam and Eve were the first human beings to live on planet Earth, that isn’t true anymore, there was another man who existed even before life itself, rather than considering the advent of Adam and Eve.

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Foolish is the one who’d mix up Kingdom life with complicated secular matters.

It’s absolutely evil to dash off an innocent person to wolves to be devoured because someone wouldn’t swallow his/her pride to simply acknowledge, “I’m sorry, I was wrong!”

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Morality and sanity are good but isn’t Christianity? It’s merely a desire to be nice, and likable.

Obedience is sacrifice based on respect for authority, not because it is the right thing to do.

Everything Godly and truth, is adjudged on the premise of right and wrong. What will Christ say or do about the issue in question? This, also, should be your basis of judgment.

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“Hey, learn to choose your battles, you don’t argue over every little thing and everyone.”

The Excalibur is a symbol of power and death. The Cross is a symbol of power, forgiveness, and eternal life.

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. rulers of the dark world.” – Ephesians 6:12.

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“For the most part, every home or family is aptly and explicitly represented in character and behaviors by members of the family except for a few cases of rebellions.”

“For the love of money is the root of all evil…”

“The Christian marriage does not have any form of empathy for divorce. It exists on the tenets, “To have and to hold until death do us part…”

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There’s no telling how wonderful I feel on the inside. It’s such an awesome feeling I have; so overwhelming!

Out of all the days, today, I have a strange feeling; a strong urging in my spirit about something special, something gracious that’s looming Lurking from something like a vault to the fore.

A new season is in the offing, I feel so strongly about it…

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The willpower to succeed or fail is readily in you, given to and for you to wield it at will to your success or peril.

We all have something in us that can change everything about us and around us – the course of our lives.

Oftentimes, we stop at the nick of our breakthrough. We’re not able to push further.

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You don’t gain speed, or make advancement getting distracted and disenchanted by the activities of people around you.

Focus on what you do, make it unique and especially yours, and see the great success that awaits your plans.

Do what you know best to do, and let everyone else put out their best acts also – the sky is the limit or about just the starting point. It’s big and wide enough to house all the stars we put out on the constellations.

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Peaceful coexistence thrives on the strife to please one another. Love isn’t love if there are no rancors from time to time.

A typical loving atmosphere shouldn’t be one that’s only based on romance, it should grow on kindness, tenderness, mutual trust, and quality communication.

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Half or lack of knowledge regarding a subject is a biopsy leading to dire consequences.Two can only walk together if with a common ground.Love and romantic relationships do not happen by magical means. They take the communion of the two persons involved.

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“So magical, like a picture-perfect moment,” you’d say. It’s like, in that moment, the whole universe existed to bring everything together to make things happen for you.

It takes about nothing to offend minds already made up about you, just be yourself and you will shake their tables.

It’s a gang up, and since everything you do, say becomes an item, always give them something to talk about.

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Half or lack of knowledge regarding a subject is a biopsy leading to dire consequences.
Two can only walk together if with a common ground.
Love and romantic relationships do not happen by magical means. They take the communion of the two persons involved.