It would be dangerous going around, trying to fix everything, trying to please everyone. Human needs are insatiable, you think you’ve done enough and they tell you, “I didn’t receive my share of the goodies you shared, when is the real thing come?”
The more generous you give, the more they are never satisfied with “Good enough.” Maybe, just maybe, it’s not about finding satisfaction in what you can give, “Maybe, it’s about making a mockery of your kindness.”
Surely, goodness and mercy follows you all the days of your life if you learn to let go, to say no to certain unnecessary demands from the, “Not easy to please…”
You must be a compromiser of standards to ever be in the praise and good books of people, everyone. Standards are fixed quality rules that should be guarded with the utmost strictness, they’re uncompromising. and unbreakable to anyone who has chosen to identify to become a member of that group or society by the order of the authority that set up that group or society.
It was such a stringent, strict and a stern one God had set in place, “But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.” Gen. 3:3.
Laws are made in the society to keep people from faulting because by nature, the human kind is inclined to wrong. It came with our birth – by sin, children are birthed forth. So, child birth is sin by default. This all came with the fallen nature of man. Adam’s response to God when He called upon says it all.
Adam replied, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.” Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?” The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this that you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” The LORD God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, cursed are you above all livestock and above all beasts of the field; on your belly you shall go, and dust you shall eat all the days of your life. I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.” To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” And to Adam he said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ‘You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.’” Genesis 3:10-19.
All along, Adam had the manual, he was in the knowledge of what God had entrusted in his care, Eve had no idea how far Adam had gone with God, Adam participated in the creation of life. His job was to name the animals after which he was to tend the entire Garden till then eventide when God would come down to fellowship with them. Eve came after God and Adam, her husband had finished the work of creation.
Therefore, she was excused to have flirted with satan because she was ignorant of the instructions God had left with her husband, Adam. Adam didn’t have an excuse. Sadly, Adam manipulated God’s Word against God, “‘The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” vs:12
What that statement invariably means is that God was at fault to have given him the woman in the first place because by default, “Adam and Eve had become one flesh after the Union… “ Gen. 2:24, Mark 10:8-10. In Adam’s response to remind God what He did by uniting them, “We’re supposed to live as one, not having difference. After all, I am supposed to leave my father and mother and be cleaved to my wife.”
And when two people come to live together, they must learn to exercise peaceful coexistence, which involves ‘compromising personal standards,’ if not, there will be rancor. That was the position of Adam, and it was the point of his undoing as coworker or laborer of the creation. Adam violated God’s laws to please his wife.
In the order, the Serpent applauded Eve for listening to him, Eve applauded the Serpent for opening her eyes to the truth (their truth), because she thought the fruit was sweet. Adam applauded his wife for letting him into that truth because he enjoyed it himself and they all began their own kind of fellowship out the fellowship God had created because when God arrived the garden at the usual time of their planned fellowship, Adam and Eve hid away in their new found fellowship – sin.
This new behavior of Adam and his wife, Eve explains typically what is found in the body of Christ today. You will see a brethren fervent in service, always the first to show up for programs, always in the fore front and zealously working in the house of God. But the moment you experience such a brethren is no longer in the fore front, he/she now prefer to sit behind the Church, out of the reach of those with whom he/she used to serve with, sin has entered. And so, they become backbenchers (sitting on the back pews) in Church.
Reasons why people seek praises is because of their prides, pride will not allow us maintain the sanity of mind for humility to take root in our minds.
There are two kinds of prides, the first being the praise of the proud that seeks to praise himself for his strength and abilities and there is also the praise of the weak that seeks others to praise them.
Disease of Praise-Seeking
And I say more guilty, because all of us are guilty of both. Everybody draws attention to himself at some time and brags. And everybody wants other people to notice when they do something. It tastes good to be affirmed and praised. So this is a universal question. He is not unique. And it is amazing to me how directly Jesus addresses this issue in the Sermon on the Mount.
“Jesus calls us hypocrites when we seek the praise of men.”
Listen to what Jesus says in Matthew 6:2: “When you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.” He continued in verse 5, “When you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.” Finally, he says in verse 16, “When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces that their fasting may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.”
Such a man is a “Pleaser of Men,” readily and willing and available to oppose and bend God’s rules just to fit in with men. This is so he or she could enjoy their love and support to continue in his vile perpetuity. But the God of Heaven will catch the wicked in their game.
A Pleaser of Men Versus A Pleaser of God.
So when Paul writes, “If God is for us, who can be against us,” he is comparing earthly opposition to the eternal power and presence of Almighty, only fools would be against us. But if man, and not God, be for us, then we are in big trouble, for who can stand against God?
He who is for us is none other than God himself. And if any force aligns up to oppose Him, they stand no chance. We shall persevere in the faith and one day be in Glory because the Lord God Himself will never allow ANYONE to snatch us out of his protecting hand.
The promise of Romans 8:28 that God works for our good “in all things” is reassuring. It means that no matter the circumstance, there are only two qualifiers for God to be working all things together for our good.… Those who love God are called according to His purpose.
A Promise for Our Good
Romans 8:28 is a promise that rang true for Dr. Ward, as it has been true for Christians throughout history.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28 (NIV).
The Living Bible Translation words it this way: “And we know that all that happens to us is working for our good if we love God and are fitting into his plans.”
The Apostle Paul wrote the book of Romans, which many consider to be the most rich theological treatise in Scripture. He begins chapter 8 by discussing the differences between living by the Spirit and living by the flesh. He points out that living by the Spirit makes us sons and daughters of God.
The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs – heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. – Romans 8:16, 17 (NIV)
Then Paul compares the sufferings that we face in this life with “the glory that will be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18). He entreats us to wait patiently and to trust that the Spirit intercedes for us when we don’t know what to pray for.
All Things Work Together
The promise of Romans 8:28 that God works for our good “in all things” is reassuring. It means that no matter the circumstance, there are only two qualifiers for God to be working all things together for our good.
Harvest – all things work together.
First, He works for “the good of those who love Him.” If you love God, you can trust that He is working for your good. He loves you back, and when we love people, we seek their welfare.
Second, He works for “those who are called according to His purpose.” Do you realize that following God entails submitting to His purpose for you? You have been called by Him for a purpose that He holds for your life.
In fact, the wording of this verse suggests that these two qualifiers – loving God and experiencing His call – are actually one. Those who love God are called according to His purpose. And vice versa.
Being called according to God’s purpose also reminds us what “our good” actually is. It’s not our comfort or worldly success. It’s the furthering of His purpose through us.
Small and Large Things
Today, FH workers continue to see God working things together for their good every day.
Amalia Toc has served with FH in her home country of Guatemala for 11 years. As a child, she lived in an FH community and was a sponsored child. Later, as an adult, she learned of a job opportunity at FH and applied.
Amalia took the step of faith to work for FH, but in her first few weeks on the job, she doubted God’s call. She couldn’t see God working all things together for her good. Like Dr. Ward, she took a pay cut to join the staff at FH. She also left behind a job with a pending promotion, frequent bonuses, and good friends.
When she arrived at FH, her first task was to translate a stack of letters between sponsored children and their sponsors. “Although I enjoyed translating the letters, it became monotonous after a few days. The doubt hit me again.”
Amalia’s strong faith kept her coming to work. “Then I stumbled upon a letter that brought the answer I was looking for,” she said. “The sponsors wrote with so much love to a sponsored child. They told this young girl how much Jesus loved her, and that He had beautiful plans for her life. They encouraged her to continue working hard in school.”
“Reading the letter brought me to tears,” she said. “I could feel that those words were from God to me, too. Since then, I’ve known that God wanted me here.”
Sly Stone was a big pop star. He was the lead singer of the Sly and the Family Stone; an avant-garde soul and rock band of the sixties and seventies. He went about with a big entourage; lots of hangers-on who hung on his every word. Sly was fed up with these people licking his boots at every turn. So he cracked a deliberately lousy joke. Then he looked round to see their reaction.
As usual, they all laughed hysterically at his joke, acting like it was the best joke they ever heard. Sly looked around at them with unfeigned disgust. Then he said to a sidekick: “These people are morons.”
However, there is a more scripturally appropriate description for Sly’s sycophantic entourage. They are “men-pleasers” who specialize in eye service. The scriptures warn against such tendencies: “Bond-servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh, not with eye-service, as men-pleasers, but in the sincerity of heart, fearing God. And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men.” (Colossians 3:22).
“For Zion’s sake I will not keep silent, for Jerusalem’s sake I will not remain quiet, till her righteousness shines out like the dawn, her salvation like a blazing torch. The nations will see your righteousness, and all kings your glory; you will be called by a new name that the mouth of the LORD will bestow.” Isaiah 62:1.
God will catch the crafty in their craftiness!