A Men’s Pleaser!

It would be dangerous going around, trying to fix everything, trying to please everyone. Human needs are insatiable, you think you’ve done enough and they tell you, “I didn’t receive my share of the goodies you shared, when is the real thing come?”

The more generous you give, the more they are never satisfied with “Good enough.” Maybe, just maybe, it’s not about finding satisfaction in what you can give, “Maybe, it’s about making a mockery of your kindness.”

Surely, goodness and mercy follows you all the days of your life if you learn to let go, to say no to certain unnecessary demands from the, “Not easy to please…”

“Beware of the man that all men speak well of…”

– Gloria Redden

You must be a compromiser of standards to ever be in the praise and good books of people, everyone. Standards are fixed quality rules that should be guarded with the utmost strictness, they’re uncompromising. and unbreakable to anyone who has chosen to identify to become a member of that group or society by the order of the authority that set up that group or society.

It was such a stringent, strict and a stern one God had set in place, “But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.” Gen. 3:3.

Laws are made in the society to keep people from faulting because by nature, the human kind is inclined to wrong. It came with our birth – by sin, children are birthed forth. So, child birth is sin by default. This all came with the fallen nature of man. Adam’s response to God when He called upon says it all.

Adam replied, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.” Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?” The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this that you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” The LORD God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, cursed are you above all livestock and above all beasts of the field; on your belly you shall go, and dust you shall eat all the days of your life. I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.” To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” And to Adam he said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ‘You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.’” Genesis 3:10-19.

All along, Adam had the manual, he was in the knowledge of what God had entrusted in his care, Eve had no idea how far Adam had gone with God, Adam participated in the creation of life. His job was to name the animals after which he was to tend the entire Garden till then eventide when God would come down to fellowship with them. Eve came after God and Adam, her husband had finished the work of creation.

Therefore, she was excused to have flirted with satan because she was ignorant of the instructions God had left with her husband, Adam. Adam didn’t have an excuse. Sadly, Adam manipulated God’s Word against God, “‘The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” vs:12

What that statement invariably means is that God was at fault to have given him the woman in the first place because by default, “Adam and Eve had become one flesh after the Union… “ Gen. 2:24, Mark 10:8-10. In Adam’s response to remind God what He did by uniting them, “We’re supposed to live as one, not having difference. After all, I am supposed to leave my father and mother and be cleaved to my wife.”

And when two people come to live together, they must learn to exercise peaceful coexistence, which involves ‘compromising personal standards,’ if not, there will be rancor. That was the position of Adam, and it was the point of his undoing as coworker or laborer of the creation. Adam violated God’s laws to please his wife.

In the order, the Serpent applauded Eve for listening to him, Eve applauded the Serpent for opening her eyes to the truth (their truth), because she thought the fruit was sweet. Adam applauded his wife for letting him into that truth because he enjoyed it himself and they all began their own kind of fellowship out the fellowship God had created because when God arrived the garden at the usual time of their planned fellowship, Adam and Eve hid away in their new found fellowship – sin.

This new behavior of Adam and his wife, Eve explains typically what is found in the body of Christ today. You will see a brethren fervent in service, always the first to show up for programs, always in the fore front and zealously working in the house of God. But the moment you experience such a brethren is no longer in the fore front, he/she now prefer to sit behind the Church, out of the reach of those with whom he/she used to serve with, sin has entered. And so, they become backbenchers (sitting on the back pews) in Church.

Reasons why people seek praises is because of their prides, pride will not allow us maintain the sanity of mind for humility to take root in our minds.

There are two kinds of prides, the first being the praise of the proud that seeks to praise himself for his strength and abilities and there is also the praise of the weak that seeks others to praise them.

Disease of Praise-Seeking
And I say more guilty, because all of us are guilty of both. Everybody draws attention to himself at some time and brags. And everybody wants other people to notice when they do something. It tastes good to be affirmed and praised. So this is a universal question. He is not unique. And it is amazing to me how directly Jesus addresses this issue in the Sermon on the Mount.

“Jesus calls us hypocrites when we seek the praise of men.”

Listen to what Jesus says in Matthew 6:2: “When you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.” He continued in verse 5, “When you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.” Finally, he says in verse 16, “When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces that their fasting may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.”

Such a man is a “Pleaser of Men,” readily and willing and available to oppose and bend God’s rules just to fit in with men. This is so he or she could enjoy their love and support to continue in his vile perpetuity. But the God of Heaven will catch the wicked in their game.

A Pleaser of Men Versus A Pleaser of God.
So when Paul writes, “If God is for us, who can be against us,” he is comparing earthly opposition to the eternal power and presence of Almighty, only fools would be against us. But if man, and not God, be for us, then we are in big trouble, for who can stand against God?

He who is for us is none other than God himself. And if any force aligns up to oppose Him, they stand no chance. We shall persevere in the faith and one day be in Glory because the Lord God Himself will never allow ANYONE to snatch us out of his protecting hand.

The promise of Romans 8:28 that God works for our good “in all things” is reassuring. It means that no matter the circumstance, there are only two qualifiers for God to be working all things together for our good.… Those who love God are called according to His purpose.

A Promise for Our Good
Romans 8:28 is a promise that rang true for Dr. Ward, as it has been true for Christians throughout history.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28 (NIV).

The Living Bible Translation words it this way: “And we know that all that happens to us is working for our good if we love God and are fitting into his plans.”

The Apostle Paul wrote the book of Romans, which many consider to be the most rich theological treatise in Scripture. He begins chapter 8 by discussing the differences between living by the Spirit and living by the flesh. He points out that living by the Spirit makes us sons and daughters of God.

The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs – heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. – Romans 8:16, 17 (NIV)

Then Paul compares the sufferings that we face in this life with “the glory that will be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18). He entreats us to wait patiently and to trust that the Spirit intercedes for us when we don’t know what to pray for.

All Things Work Together
The promise of Romans 8:28 that God works for our good “in all things” is reassuring. It means that no matter the circumstance, there are only two qualifiers for God to be working all things together for our good.

Harvest – all things work together.
First, He works for “the good of those who love Him.” If you love God, you can trust that He is working for your good. He loves you back, and when we love people, we seek their welfare.

Second, He works for “those who are called according to His purpose.” Do you realize that following God entails submitting to His purpose for you? You have been called by Him for a purpose that He holds for your life.

In fact, the wording of this verse suggests that these two qualifiers – loving God and experiencing His call – are actually one. Those who love God are called according to His purpose. And vice versa.

Being called according to God’s purpose also reminds us what “our good” actually is. It’s not our comfort or worldly success. It’s the furthering of His purpose through us.

Small and Large Things
Today, FH workers continue to see God working things together for their good every day.

Amalia Toc has served with FH in her home country of Guatemala for 11 years. As a child, she lived in an FH community and was a sponsored child. Later, as an adult, she learned of a job opportunity at FH and applied.

Amalia took the step of faith to work for FH, but in her first few weeks on the job, she doubted God’s call. She couldn’t see God working all things together for her good. Like Dr. Ward, she took a pay cut to join the staff at FH. She also left behind a job with a pending promotion, frequent bonuses, and good friends.

When she arrived at FH, her first task was to translate a stack of letters between sponsored children and their sponsors. “Although I enjoyed translating the letters, it became monotonous after a few days. The doubt hit me again.”

Amalia’s strong faith kept her coming to work. “Then I stumbled upon a letter that brought the answer I was looking for,” she said. “The sponsors wrote with so much love to a sponsored child. They told this young girl how much Jesus loved her, and that He had beautiful plans for her life. They encouraged her to continue working hard in school.”

“Reading the letter brought me to tears,” she said. “I could feel that those words were from God to me, too. Since then, I’ve known that God wanted me here.”

Sly Stone was a big pop star. He was the lead singer of the Sly and the Family Stone; an avant-garde soul and rock band of the sixties and seventies. He went about with a big entourage; lots of hangers-on who hung on his every word. Sly was fed up with these people licking his boots at every turn. So he cracked a deliberately lousy joke. Then he looked round to see their reaction.

As usual, they all laughed hysterically at his joke, acting like it was the best joke they ever heard. Sly looked around at them with unfeigned disgust. Then he said to a sidekick: “These people are morons.”

However, there is a more scripturally appropriate description for Sly’s sycophantic entourage. They are “men-pleasers” who specialize in eye service. The scriptures warn against such tendencies: “Bond-servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh, not with eye-service, as men-pleasers, but in the sincerity of heart, fearing God. And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men.” (Colossians 3:22).

“For Zion’s sake I will not keep silent, for Jerusalem’s sake I will not remain quiet, till her righteousness shines out like the dawn, her salvation like a blazing torch. The nations will see your righteousness, and all kings your glory; you will be called by a new name that the mouth of the LORD will bestow.” Isaiah 62:1.

God will catch the crafty in their craftiness!

Post-Independent Soliloquy!

What we can see have been done these 61 gory years with our political and governmental policies is ceaseless empowerment to shooting, injuring and thwarting our own efforts towards building, erecting and raising healthy policies that will foster our general progress by our inability to look critically to the polity that has been in play all these years. We have become our own enemies when we continued to hold fast unto those myopic beliefs that, “Politics is a game of numbers.”

In politics, before you begin to count heads, there’s the need to take into account the ‘arts of productive leadership, creative leadership and deliberate delivery of manifestos or campaign promises.’

Also, the belief that “zoning the leadership” allows for an all inclusive government – lie. Those policies only open windows for more corruption and bad leadership. As only lackeys to the outgoing government is voted back into office to cover up for corruption and looted treasures, and dance to the beats of the music that would be played by the outgoing government, and not to deliver capacity in their political offices would the people’s expectation.

Some people may find this article insulting, and annoying to their person especially those of us of the core northern extract of this country but I would like you not to just look at it from the angle of just selfishness and a deliberate attack on your pride. Rather, read this with an open and critical mind to challenge the status quo.

For those of us who still have love and a desire for this country to move forward, succeed, and be counted amongst others; I dare you to have a rethink, and not just presume this message is intended to insult you. If we have been playing this game in the style we have played it and not getting good results, maybe, just maybe, it’s high time we restrategized.

Supposed the seemingly “Almighty political prowess of the core-North” as they have made it apparent was some great strategy, Nigeria would have been a great nation today. True! “The giant of Africa” as we were first known to be. How can we lay such claim when we have done nothing but continually gone down, down, down in spiral motions.

You cannot continue to do things the same way and expect a different result, it’s impossible. Face it to fix it, our political system is such a mess. It is a faulty one and until we are able to address this problem first, our inability to meet our needs and quests to becoming a productive and progressively growing nation would be nothing but mere illusions.

Many years have gone by since Nigeria got her independence, 61 years exactly in October 1, few days away. Continually, we have heard people assertively acknowledging in very serious terms that the core North are experts where it concerns politics. And menacingly, that idea had found some soft spots in my mind, and became deeply rooted.

I began to toy with the idea believing it myself when I saw the level of commitment of certain political stalwarts in the Core North, brandishing an unbending and diehard cravings to hold unto power even at the cost of their own lives and that of the people they intend to govern and I am like, “To what end? If this desire is for the general good, a genuine course should not ask for such a costly price. Except in a case where the people are all willing to put their own lives at stake in order to achieve the purpose of the course they’re fighting.

Alhaji Muhammadu Sa’ad Abubakar,
The Sultan of Sokoto

To what it’s worth, there is no rightly motivated desire to want to lead a people should make a leader jeopardize the lives and safety of the people he is committed to lead. Your commitment should rather show by your ready and willingness to put your own life down for the course of saving that of the people you intend to govern.

Not until very recently that I am beginning to have better view, knowledge, and understanding of what politics truly means: the usual queer, vague, and twisted definition I have had and nurtured is gradually seceding from my mind as the truth is beginning to unravel and finding expression so much so that the lies in that lopsided political policy is now glaring. Lopsided in the sense that it demeans other traditional luminaries in the country only to empower the Caliphate and Emirates Councils in the country.

Analytically, the summary of the polity in the core north is that it is sycophantic. And the problem with that is, it has only produced nothing but falsehood, mediocrity, and self-centered governments. Having established that truth, the big players in this game is the core North. Once you’re lucky to have someone up there in a position of influence, you’re at an advantage.

However, the core North is not the only culprit in this ugly practices, we’re all guilty as charged. We are also culpable to these acts. But that trend started somewhere, at some point then other followed sooth – uplifting and blessing our own even if they don’t have what it takes. You don’t have to merit what you get, get someone in a position of power, who merits you. Plus or minus, such politics is full of their own kind of manipulations.

Albeit, manipulation characterizes the politics in the modern world. Power is sweet, and absolutely corrupting. And those who assume positions of power would never want to relinquish it. They want to hold fast to it. And anyone who assumes a certain political status, his tribesmen become powerful, they become almost untamed, unflappable, they seem to become unrepentant and do things with a sense of impunity. Otherwise, treat others they’ve more privileges than other citizens, handle them like they’re second class citizens.

For me, this kind of politics must be eradicated from amid us – this is the greatest we have in this country. The president was not voted into power by his tribesmen, was not voted in to accord his tribesmen more privileges.

I stand corrected but I think that the quest to hold unto power more than anything else and by every means possible, is rife with the core north than it is with others. As a matter of fact, the North has it behind their minds as a sense of ownership.

The desire to be kingmakers, political Godfathers Is so they can wield, disburse and dictate power-sharing where it puts them at an advantage over other people. These acts have forced other tribes and languages to keep running to them in the belief that they possess the wherewithal to run political affairs.

When in truth, that is the same politics that has ruined this nation. If those policies were profitable, Nigeria would not be in this state of the quagmire it’s been neck-deep plunged into. If this country must remain, we need to look again into that pattern of politics with the mind to amending and reforming it.

The idea that politics is a game of numbers is not working for anyone. You don’t pick anybody and put him before sensitive positions that require great care and knowledge to deal with. The idea that politics is just a game of numbers is Ancient and archaic in its standpoint. No nation practices this principle goes far in advancement or productivity. You can have the number and not give the expertise, the willpower, wisdom, knowledge, or strength and capability to cause true change because this is what the nation needs. We need true change to transform the nation into what we want it to be.

That style of politics has put them on the advantage, which they have continually used against other languages. So, knowing that power they have with a number, they lure those who still believe in the vicissitudes of the power of that political style to run back to the core north begging for that kind of support. We need to thrash those politics.

President Muhammadu Buhari,
The President of Nigeria.

By support, I mean, rallying all arsenal in their power, humanly and machinery that will offer them is the reason why the North has given birth to such negative pressure groups that have translated from mere thuggery, to high-level assassinations, silencing their oppositions, perpetrators of evil perpetrated in kidnappings, insurgency, and systemic genocide of masses not political juggernauts as used to be the case.

If you’d ask me, why is it that we cannot have terrorism anywhere in the world apart from Islamic nations? Because terrorism leaves others perpetually in fear and intimidation. And that comes out of feelings of surrounding insecurities some group of persons or people who abhor being challenged. Such men want a case where they get whatever they say or want. This is a case of leadership called monarchical or oligarchical, where one person (a king) or few people have supreme power over others.

All men: whether you’re male or female are created with the power and freedom to express their thoughts as they so desire and if anyone won’t do that, that should be a decision of personal volition, and not because someone elsewhere coerced or had secretly bought over their voice or speech by way of a threat to their life to silence it or face death – typical of what we are seeing with the killings, kidnappings, and terrorism we have all over the country today. They terrorize the life of citizens and have them live perpetually in fear. You have been denied the right to freely express your mind, and allowed to only speak what they want you to say or speak what will buy your life back from the threat of death already hanging on your head if you act contrary to what you have been told to do or say.

Boko Haram, Herdsmen, and Bandits began to shut down anyone who poses a threat to the government, why are all members of these groups: Bandits, Herdsmen, and Boko Haram northerners or from other countries bordering the north – to perpetuate the Northern Agenda, which is religious as well as political in its nature.

You would ask me; If these groups are pro-northern agenda why are Northerners also being killed in this struggle?

Bandits were hired by those political experts in the core North as a pressure group to dislodge and disarm the government, and presidency of GEJ, President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan. Now, that GEJ is out of the way, bandits have been asked to go back to their homes countries but the problem here is, “What would they be returning home to do?” Those are a bunch of unschooled individuals, jobless individuals, and unskilled. What would they be doing in their home countries have seen and enjoyed the kind of money they have been collecting in Nigeria by the services they render to those who hired them?

The politics the North brings on the table is “sabotaging” in nature. Their definition of politics is number since it’s the number of heads that are counted during political elections, they will keep giving birth to children even if they cannot raise those children but if they’re able to continue to win elections with the number of people they continue to birth, their agenda is achieved. They consider the consequences of lack of education, lack of skills but the fact that they win political positions.

Let me juggle your minds a bit, by the year 2050, predictions have been made that Islam will become the dominant religion in the world, Muammar Gaddafi even threatened America with the same saying, “In the future, they (Islam) will win over their battles against America (Christians) not by war but by womb evangelism

You come with a sense of entitlement, “Leadership is our inheritance,” says who?

Political selections/elections base on merits

I quite agree with everyone on the issue of looking for candidates with merits. But merits should not just end in certification – she/he went to school and has gained this and that certificate that has not proved anything worthy of recommendation.

We should be asking for men with proven track records of accomplishments, those with outstanding records in building companies, men who are known for what they have done in the past and we have seen and can attest to that truth, capacity builders.

We have come too far in this country to continue to work with myopic ideas (principles), still experimenting with trial and errors, hoping they have something to offer only to get to positions and must while away precious time and resources sourcing support from the army, police and other armed forces to stall every other plans the masses would bring against their inactivity and waste of public funds on frivolities.

We can no longer subscribe to a government of waste, a government that has no plan. We can no longer wait for tenures to finish to judge performances, why wait that long? We don’t have enough time anymore for 4 years to be wasted before we react.

A government that brings something to the table is not one to ask for 4 years timeline, it is one to make its impact felt even in few months of assumption of office. 100 days, one year is enough time to have visible evidence to show of achievements or impartation. But if we have to wait for 4 years to see the impact of a government that has everything in its disposal to cause immediate change, then, that is a government that is preparing for for a failure. I don’t know why we have to wait that long to tell whether they have anything at all.

Enough of the experimentation and start showing us visible work. And we know who and who in this country can give us this quick answers, we’re not just sincere to point them out for fear of hurting some other people and that thing that has always eaten food on our head – he’s not my tribesman! This has been the bane of contention in the Nigerian Political arena.

Gov. Simon Lalong,
The Executive Governor,
Plateau State.

I would love to conclude this article with this issues:

There’s nothing more important in a country than the ability to harness policies and practices, playing and deploying the best of the arts and scientific policies that deal with governance, using the right tools and machinery to galvanize the state of the nation to great success and accomplishments.

So far, we have been mediocre at the manner in which we’ve played politics all these years. And I blame the bulk of the problems and on our myopic and selfish game that has over the years continued to recycle, thus, birthing what we have today as a failed nation.

All the other nationalities within had overwhelmingly given too much credit to the core Northern part of the nation, Nigeria. It’s myopic and stupid to continue to run with the belief that politics is just a game of numbers. This notion knocks out the possibility of having any viable candidate come out from any minority groups in the country. This is also why one or some of the major Nigerian languages keeps giving birth indiscriminately only so they can win elections.

And the question is, “Is this all about just winning elections or it is about building capacity as a nation.” A true and progressive world isn’t interested in the strength of your number but more interested in your contributions to building the economy of the world – nobody wants a liability, which what most African countries potent.

In terms of technology, where is Nigeria? In terms of hunger alleviation, what is our contributions? In terms of Poverty Eradication, where do we as a nation stand? Where are we in anything at all? We are not counted anywhere in the world, not counted in anything, not in Africa either, we have even lost the big brother role we used to play at home in the African continent, as the Giants of Africa…, those African nations we used to consider as small, and not a match to Nigeria have far surpassed us. Therefore, in what area are we to be counted?

The way forward isn’t about what we love to talk about but more of what we do after having talked about moving forward!

After serious discussions, everyone go back home to sleep away everything that was talked about so that we come back to start fresh discussions.

The other day, I was responding to a good friend, Jide Sallau’s post on Facebook where he was talking about losing a deal his company was billed to do for another company. Jide’s was very excited to execute that deal because it was one of their first and biggest deal ever when the company was just starting.

It was not their fault that the deal didn’t commence on time, the chairman of the company called him to ask if he could execute the contract at a given time. Excited, Mr. Sallau assured her he could do it even though it involved having to import some materials from abroad and that would have been the cause of the delay they would have experienced in meeting up with the dateline. But Jide Sallau had planned on how he would have everything sorted in good time to deliver quality services in record time. So, he had ordered, and brought in those materials in good time in order to commence the project.

So, in a very good time, he called the client to announce they were ready and waiting for her company to authorize their commencement of the project. But the lady kept dragging until a week or two to the dateline then, she gave his company the consent to carry out the project, they started and had only gone a distance when she called off the project.

Now, that was a huge disappointment to his company because they were ready to leave an impression, they probably would not have meet up with the time because of the delay from the client but they were ready to give it a shot, which they did. However, things didn’t go as intended.

They were told, “No!” Their services would no longer be required because of time constraints… it was such a huge disappointment. But what would they do?

In a later time, the same company called back to say they needed that same project delivered, which they delivered. It was during the season of the pandemic when things had gone so high that life was almost like impossible. They did not only deliver quality services, the gains more than 300% of what they would have gotten if they had finished the job the first time it was demanded of them – the delay made room for gain.

Sometimes, God allows some detours to come our way: whether in business or in our personal life. At such a time, the “No” we receive may get us feeling very devastated, and sulking! However, the detours unknowingly may be saving us the embarrassment of having to deliver a poor job and leaving a shoddy impression of ourselves or of what we do. So, the no saves our reputation for the best of times when we can to leave the clients with a wow experience by you delivering our worth.

Dâ Jacob Gyang Buba,
The Gbong Gwom, Jos.

More so, you will smile to the banks for having gained more than you would have gotten if the business had been delivered at the said time the client wanted… the delay has allowed you the opportunity to approach the project this time with better knowledge, understanding, and skills.

Therefore, not every “No” is a Crusher but a Pusher!

We need to be told a “No” in this country to help us correct this gross insensitivity we have inculcated in this country and the poor manner with which we approach crucial issues in this country. We have always received everything on a platter and so we are not careful to be able to manage anything well. We are like those spoilt kids whose parents have so spoiled us by not teaching us the right and wise ways to deal with our concerns.

How Will I Know He Will Satisfy My Sexual Urges?

You would have believed the issue of sex is more of a man’s thing but no! Some women are even more bothered about their sex life than most men – meaning that sex is a very important aspect of a marriage relationship.

Like everything else in life, sex can be learned. No one is born an expert in the game, you teach each other. Since it is supposed to be part of creating pleasure in the relationship, both couples should find a way of practicing and experimenting with it with each other.

How will I be able to tell if he will satisfy my sexual urges after we get married?

– unknown

Truly, this question sounds very suggestive. It is otherwise saying, “It is okay to engage in sex before marriage.” Lots of questions flooding your minds right now, I can only imagine it! You’re wondering; why would a woman be asking such a question if she’s not wayward. I know, right?

However, sexual urges come naturally to any man or woman who is mature. So the thought that is would be wrong of any one of us to nurture such thoughts, is wrong in itself. Even if you have never had sex in your entire life, have you never felt those urges as a single? Every mature, fully grown man or woman on Earth who is sexually developed naturally came into the world with those urges, the urges flood our desires from time to time, asking to be attended to.

I feel it would be a natural thought since illicit sex (sex outside marriage) is a taboo in some circles especially in the Christian faith. This is the point where the Spirit of God comes handy to advise us on self-control so we don’t indulge in it unlawfully – unlawfully in the sense that we do it with the wrong person, with the wrong motive, and at the wrong time.

Hmmm! That’s a dicey one! When do we cut the mark between being sexually satisfied for a woman? Is it when she has climaxed or when she’s tired. And how would you know if you’re getting it right if she’s not leading you on or giving you the sign that you’re hitting the right place? It cannot be when the man has reached orgasm as a man can achieve that in less than ten minutes if he wants but not the woman – that would be the starting point.

I know that I don’t qualify to speak on this matter because you’d say I’m not married. Yet, that question if I got it right was not asked by a married person either. An unmarried person asked it. Therefore, I want to correct the impression this question would leave in the minds of many and still go ahead to say my mind on the matter.

The questionnaire is invariably asking if it’s okay to have sex before marriage? If not, where did the issue of ‘how would I know if he will satisfy me in bed comes about?’

To answer that, recently, I entered a shop and saw this beautiful airbed, I loved it and wanted to buy it, they told me the price and I paid, but they didn’t check it up for me to be sure it was in good condition. So, when I got home with the item, for two days I didn’t even bother to check it up too until the third day. I brought it out and inflated it, it was fine but it had leakages. The inflated bed lasted few hours and went down flat, I inflated it again and the same thing happened. So, through the night I had to keep inflating until it was morning. The next morning, I took it back to the shop and I narrated my ordeal with the item the night before.

The owner of the shop received it and said to go and try it at home, which he said he did and that it was okay. I took it back home and tried but it was still the way I returned the item to him in the first place.

Where am I going with this analogy?

When you enter a shop to buy an item, some of the shops do routine checks for you to ensure you don’t go home with a faulty item. There are some of those items you don’t even check them because they cannot be checked. After all, checking them means automatic ownership, you can only open those items when you’re ready to consume them – this is exactly what you get in marriage, you cannot open to check this item until you’ve paid to own to be able to open it, if you understand what I mean.

Regardless of the many benefits associated with having sex, discussions about the damaging effects of sex before marriage do not die down. Marriage can be defined as a union (legal union) between a man and a woman in which they decide to live together and share their lives together as well as have access to each other sexually. The Legal Information Institute for example defines marriage as “…a contract based upon a voluntary private agreement by a man and a woman to become husband and wife.” Sex on the other hand refers to when men and women have intercourse. Whilst, sex before marriage, otherwise known as premarital sex, is also defined as, when two people who are not in a legally binding union (marriage), engage in sexual relations.

Many people in the world today engage in sexual intercourse regardless of whether they are married not. Several people also have multiple sexual partners irrespective of their age or marital status. In fact, sex before marriage has become so prevalent that a lot of people seem to have forgotten about the fact that there may be negative factors associated with it.

The negative effects associated with sex before marriage are not farfetched. The mere fact that two people who are not married or in any committed legal relationship sleep together pose a danger of trust after the intercourse. Collins (2014) in his article titled “How your premarital experiences can affect your future marriage” argues that, “Individuals who had more sexual partners or more experience cohabitating ]before marriage] are not as likely to have high-quality marriages compared with those who had less, said Galena K. Rhodes.” The author posits that one’s sexual life before marriage as well as other romantic relationships is linked with the quality of one’s marriage. This is because the people one has had romantic/sexual relations with may complicate the new marriage, also children that may have been conceived as a result of sexual intercourse will further complicate the marriage and thus inadvertently reduce the quality of the marriage.

The impact of sex before marriage on the individual does not certainly apply to one’s marriage alone. There are other problems such as the possibility of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, especially when one of the pair sleeping together has multiple partners.

However, it would be hypocritical on my part to act like I am completely ignorant of what sex is about – you will agree with me on this.

So, there is this thing about the lady affirming and acknowledging to him, leading him whenever he’s touching or hitting the right buttons. This all so they can get the result which they’re asking for. But then, the Man Of God, Late Myles Monroe said and I quote, that “A woman is not looking for a sex expert. A woman is looking for a father figure in her man…” Become her brother who would protect her from the apprehension of others, become a father who would pamper and bring her comfort, and peace at her downtimes.

Like I opined, that is a learning process, whether you’re an expert in that game, you will need to know if what you’re doing is getting the desired result – teach and learn as well. So, it’s a game of teaching and learning at the same time, right?

So, what is the point of sex in a marriage?

It keeps us bound closely together, brings us comfort, and nurtures peace and security in our marriages. Sex is a way to romance one another, play together, or share a quiet moment. Far beyond physical connection, lovemaking creates and maintains a bond for husbands and wives that is soul-deep.

When you’re married, it is not just the love and affection that keep the bonding alive. A close sense of intimacy and togetherness is what is needed for your relationship to blossom and prosper. That being said, sex is one of the factors that can help you enhance the level of closeness and intimacy between you and your partner. Besides possessing innumerable health benefits, sex can also enrich your marital status and improve your relationship. If you’re wondering how here are 6 sure-shot benefits of sex in marriage that you must know about.

People shy away from some of these important aspects of living that’s why we get ourselves into trouble when we get married. However, it takes someone who understands the role of sex in a relationship to pose these kinds of questions. And I still recommend that it is important to make a demand for what you want than never putting a demand at all while you should and doing so when you’re already married.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Here is a story of a couple who thought from the beginning that had it all figured because everything looked perfect from the first instance. She sat down quietly in a corner. One could barely notice her, except for her intermittent sobs that carelessly gave her away. As I took a glance, I found her weeping in such agony as you’d expect of someone who just lost everything.

Her name was Bisi – she told me later. I offered some comfort to her, and later got her to talk, though reluctantly. Bayo is her boyfriend’s – now ex-boyfriend – name. He just broke her heart. And it is only after her life has been broken.

It all started on a Monday; at a restaurant. Bisi, a second year student in the university. She met Bayo, a student in his final year. Both exchanged pleasantries. He encapsulates everything she’s always yearned for in a man: handsome, tall, intelligent, caring and the list goes one.

Bisi on her own part is beautiful and seemingly irresistible. She has dignity and had earned the respect of all and sundry. Bayo was stunned. And as though the meeting was predetermined, they got along very well.

By the second week, after a couple of outings, they started a relationship. Obviously, as you’d expect of a moralist like Bisi, she encouraged that they define the terms and set their boundaries. No sexual intimacy. Bayo eagerly concurred, though he’s not a fan of such rules.

As seasons unfold, they got wound up in the wheel of emotions; lines were crossed, rules were broken. And it was enjoyable, at least for that moment. Since she loved him, letting down guard for him was worth it. Little did she know she was digging her own grave.

She was ready to give all to ‘keep’ him. She’s already aborted thrice and the last one was complicated enough to damage her womb. What a tragedy! But more was yet to come. Bayo dropped the bombshell. He was tired of her. ‘Not after all I’ve been through,’ she had responded. And that was all Bayo needed to manhandle her. The beautiful one turned into the beaten one. This reality was too harsh on her. This relationship did not just become a broken one, it broke her life along. Her experience is what I call, ‘Hell on heart.’

Now, this is the most interesting part. In a bid to give succour to Bisi, a friend said, ‘A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.’ Give it up!, ‘I wondered out loud. What’s better in that relationship? And while this isn’t the first time I’m hearing that saying, I discovered it’s misguiding as it has taken the emphasis away from the harm other relationships apart from marriage portends.

Sadly, the lives being ruined by these relationships far outweighs the number ruined by broken marriages. Suicide cases of jilted boyfriends and girlfriends is as, if not more, pronounced as that of divorce. Being confident that, after all, it’s a relationship is the reason so many have become villains like Bisi. Friends, relationships can make or mar your life, even when it’s not marital. Many people have a good marriage, yet they can’t forget the hurts of the past.

And by the way, marital or no marital, anything broken isn’t pleasant. How can it be broken and better? What a paradox! Experience can affect expertise. Yesterday can determine tomorrow. Young people now try out relationships that’s obvious enough has nothing for them. Why? Society has made us believe we can afford a broken relationship as long as it’s not marriage. No! You can’t because most lives break with even friendships, hence the need to be properly guided even in the seemingly ordinary relationships.

A broken relationship has inherent in it the potential to break you. If not Bisi wouldn’t have been broken like that. Young people, let’s shift our paradigms, let’s count our cost. Enough of encouraging trial relationships, while we console ourselves that if it breaks, it’s not marriage. No, the reality is much harsher. If I were you, I’ll consider every relationship outside marriage as not better broken and as such will take calculated precautions before embarking on one. Remember, nothing broken can be better.

That was a fiction anyway. But As you read along, you could picture one or two cases of broken relationships; the hurts, the pains, the untold gloom are nothing but sad stories to tell. Time will fail me to talk much about those who are now gays and lesbians, because they had broken relationships. What more can I say!

When you say a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, what do you really mean? Hear my part of it: I see no reason why philosophy has taught and imbibed in us such belief! What makes a broken relationship better? Some say because the hurt one gets from it is easier to heal compared to that in broken marriage. Bravo! You’re indeed right. But hurt is hurt right?

Look at this: Many relationships give birth to mistrust in the next relationship. How? Imagine a lady who trusted a guy with all her life, only for the guy to jilt her. Let’s say there was no sex until the relationship ended, now tell me if that lady would be able to trust 100 percent in the next relationship.

To me, there’s no point comparing them. They both do great harms. And I’m sure if God would talk about it, He wouldn’t tell us one is better. Or which is better in a mother losing his child at birth or both the mother and the child dying during delivery? None is better! There are broken marriages out there that produces great children, depending on the parents (I hate divorce, anyway. I don’t even support it. But it happens every now and then). And yet there are broken relationships that produce serial killer.

Please, who will tell me which is better taken as drink between a concentrated Sulphoric acid and diluted one? The two are dangerous! So, why say one break-up is better? What is better in a relationship that leaves someone with HIV virus? I even hear people say, only two people are directly affected in a relationship unlike a marriage where many more are affected and I ask, is a single soul that goes with a relationship by committing suicide not a whole Nation? When one heart is broken and fails to heal, a Nation has been broken! A single soul is a Nation of itself.

When we tell people that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, we put in them a belief that there’s no big deal in broken relationship since they won’t lose much. Some believe that no matter the level of hurt one gets in a relationship, they’ll get healed in no time and I ask, why allow hurts you’ll be healed from when you can do without getting hurt?

Instead of doing trial and error relationship why not wait patiently and ask God to lead you to one that’ll not break? That’s what I mean when I say,”A broken relationship is NOT better than a broken Marriage.”

If you understand what I’m trying to pass across, I’ll advise you don’t belong to the school of thought that, A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, anymore. Be sure you are ripe enough for a relationship before you set yourself up for had I know show. Don’t rush into any relationship, please.

Below are the benefits you enjoy from sex in your marriage:

  1. Increases intimacy between spouses: Intimacy is one of the key factors in every relationship. Lack of intimacy can often lead to unstable and broken relationships that are either difficult to mend or hard to revive back to normal. That being said, sex is that one thing that brings back the excitement and intensity in a relationship. It increases intimacy between the spouses and helps you forget the things that you are off.
  2. It ensures the longevity of the relationship: Sex is the most important aspect of a marriage. Initially, love and attraction are what a crucial role in holding the relationship together, however, with time, sex becomes significant in ensuring the longevity of a relationship. Without any sexual activity, there will be everything but intimacy.
  3. It is a great way to reduce tension: After a long day of work, it is but natural to be tired and tensed. Especially in the case of married couples, where work-life balance is so important, one must know their way to release stress and relax. One way to do it is through sex. It not only helps you enjoy the company of your partner but also relaxes your nerves and acts as a great stress-buster.
  4. Besides the physical bond, it nurtures an emotional connection: Hot, passionate sex can often lead not only to physical pleasure but also help you bond emotionally with your partner. There might be times when nothing is working your way in your marriage, but just by the act of sex, you can figure out a lot about what your partner wants to communicate to you.
  5. It helps you stay focused on your relationship: Many times, marriages become monotonous and people start looking for other love interests outside their marital relationship. This can be a result of unhealthy sex life. If your physical relationship with your partner is on point, there is no need for distractions. That being said, sex helps one stay focused on one’s relationship.
  6. It could be a physical as well as an emotional way of expressing your love and care for your partner: Besides being a medium of utmost pleasure, sex helps cultivate love and affection in a marriage. It helps you express your love and care for someone without even saying a word. Passion is what drives it and it can help you lead a happy married life.

You would have believed the issue of sex is more of a man’s thing but no! Some women are even more bothered about their sex life than most men – meaning that sex is a very important aspect of a marriage relationship.

Like everything else in life, sex can be learned. No one is born an expert in the game, you teach each other. Since it is supposed to be part of creating pleasure in the relationship, both couples should find a way of practicing and experimenting with each other, for practice makes perfect!

Eyes That See, Spirit That Discerns!

“I love him, I love her…” Supposedly, those confessions end only in lip service, they’re not good or authentic enough to claim ownership, they’re mere acclamations but you can only own Him when He has been found by you.

You don’t have the right to claim ownership of any sort if you don’t have a relationship with Him. “And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.” – Jeremiah 29-13.

How is it possible to claim ownership of something you’re not ready to know, ” If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.” – John 15:7

No doubt!

It’s very possible to have eyes and not be able to see with them. It’s possible to look at a glaring truth and not being able to see it because your mind is blurred and deterrent to the truth, while someone is telling and pointing you to it but you marvel at what they’re able to see that you’re not able to see. It’s beyond eyesight, you can only see when the eyes of your spirit are opened! For spiritual things cannot be discerned with physical sight! Spiritual things are deep, they cannot be seen with the eyes of the spirit, “Deep calleth unto deep at the noise of thy waterspouts: all thy waves and thy billows are gone over me.” – Psalm 42:7

“When ‘seeing’ is self-deception. Seeing can be an elusive thing. But until we read the Word With the understanding of its Author – of our Savior, Jesus, Yeshua, we may be seeing Nothing At All!

I have preached that we need to Ask God to enable us to see From Heaven – from the Kingdom perspective. Not from any Concept of God’s Kingdom Born on this Earth! It Must be the Kingdom Born and Growing in our hearts – and perhaps much more slowly in our Minds – to the degree that we Submit to the Lord God Almighty and His Spirit.

Without learning Deep humility, All spiritual learning will be greatly hindered if not completely blocked! Too many who call themselves ‘born again’ believers have as narrow a view of faith as did the apostles Before Pentecost!!!

They felt that knowing Jesus somehow Belonged to them – and initially Only to Jews!

They had a sense of Ownership which has Nothing To Do with any Real relationship with the Savior. Also, far too many have a ‘template’ they use to evaluate the validity of the faith of others – and No template is Any Part of the Love of the Father!!!”

– Paul Hubert

Those are the beautiful thoughts of Paul Hubert, very deep in his vision and concerns on spiritual matters. I love the part of that sentence that says, “…they have a sense of OWNERSHIP,” but the second part of the sentence nullifies the first, “…which has nothing to do with any REAL RELATIONSHIP with the Savior.

To own means to possess, something that belongs to the person or thing mentioned, used with a possessive to emphasize that someone or something belongs or relates to the person or thing mentioned.

I think Jesus expects us to have this sense of Ownership to be able to walk right with Him. Jesus says, “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you…” – John 15:16 that shows a sense of urgency on our part to take a position, to own Him, owning Him means having a relationship, your must earnestly desire Him, to own Him, have Him as your own. We are always too careful to tend, nurture and preserve anything we have as our property. So, whenever you own the master as He owns you, Jeremiah 32:38 says, “They will be my people, and I will be their God.” Exodus 6:7, 2 Corinthians 6:16, 2 Chronicles 7:14 speak the same thing. So, ownership is important.

We give God more of ourselves when we have taken Him in as our own. In the scripture Matthew 25:31-40, Jesus says, “When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his throne in heavenly glory. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left. Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me. Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you? The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.” (NIV)

Jesus showed that commitment with the story of the lost sheep. It says when the one sheep was missing, the shepherd left the other 99, and went for one that was lost – the shepherd had a sense of ownership and commitment to the sheepfold, all of them especially the lost one. Humanly speaking, it looked stupid what the shepherd did, having to have left 99 just for one – that’s what His sense of ownership means; He had owned the 99 already, he knew they were already on the path, they won’t stray away. So, he left them to go find the one that was missing.

We need that sense of ownership to own, God. The more of God’s Word we know, more of Him we own, “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.” – Joshua 1:8

Work to own God as He also owns you and you will see the great benefits you will enjoy in Him.

When you learn to own the word of God, you learn to see better. Therefore, we must be equipped, working hard to own the word to see what it has for us as His children. “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness.” 2 Timothy 2:15.

In that message, the moderator, Paul Hubert was trying to point out what has become of Christian leaders today, or you could call it spiritual leaders. Sadly, they have arrogated, owned the knowledge and interpretation of spiritual knowledge to themselves. Ignorantly or deliberately question the gift of knowledge and interpretation of spiritual matter by a layman. By layman, I mean anyone who isn’t wearing the title of a pastor, a priest, an apostle, a bishop. Or better still, they felt that you have to belong or come from a certain tribe to possess that ability As held by the opinion of Paul Hubert. “They felt that knowing Jesus somehow BELONGED to them…”

Jesus revealed his intentions to anyone who would yield to him whether Jew or gentile. Jesus did not come for the Jews only, He came for the whole world. “And the LORD said, “I will cause all my goodness to pass in front of you, and I will proclaim my name, the LORD, in your presence. I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.” Exodus 33:18-19, Romans 9:14-18.

More so, they already had a template that measures the faith of other believers. In other words, they had a weighing scale they use to measure and balance the belief of other believers if it’s to the acceptable standards or not.

The scripture did not have a measuring cylinder or such things as a measuring scale, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto the mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you. (Matthew 17:20). So, what templates do we need to be children of God? Just believe and confess Christ as Lord and Savior that’s the only template you need. Make Him your father.

The Pharisees, and Sadducees were the spiritual heads in the days of Christ. According to Josephus, whereas the Sadducees believed that people have total free will and the Essenes believed that all of a person’s life is predestined, the Pharisees believed that people have free will but that God also has foreknowledge of human destiny.

What does it really means to have foreknowledge?

Suppose it were known, by someone else, what you are going to choose to do tomorrow. Wouldn’t that entail that tomorrow you must do what it was known in advance that you would do? In spite of your deliberating and planning, in the end, all is futile: you must choose exactly as it was earlier known that you would. The supposed exercise of your free will is ultimately an illusion.

Historically, the tension between foreknowledge and the exercise of free will was addressed in a religious context. According to orthodox views in the West, God was claimed to be omniscient (and hence in possession of perfect foreknowledge) and yet God was supposed to have given humankind free will. Attempts to solve the apparent contradiction often involved attributing to God special properties, for example, being “outside” of time.

However, the trouble with such solutions is that they are generally unsatisfactory on their own terms. Even more serious is the fact that they leave untouched the problem posed not by God’s foreknowledge but that of any human being. Do human beings have foreknowledge? Certainly, of at least some events and behaviors. Thus we have a secular counterpart of the original problem. A human being’s foreknowledge, exactly as would God’s, of another’s choices would seem to preclude the exercise of human free will.

Paul Hubert was also trying to address the issue of the exclusive possession of God as posited by such persons, you cannot truly own God except if you have a very close walk and relationship with Him. The men had a claims but the claims on possession they had was not inclusive, it was all exclusive. Like the relationship between a landlord and his tenant.

One of the most basic building blocks in tenant-landlord law is exclusive possession. It is a concept that means that once a landlord offers a space for rent, a tenant has exclusive possession, and, within the rules of the lease, can do whatever they want within the home (as long as it’s legal, of course).

For many people, you love who you love in your home. You cook the food of your heart in your home. You raise your children at home. You feel safe to be yourself in your home. These deeply felt concepts are due to the tenant having exclusive possession.

Wis. Stat. 704.05(2) says, “the tenant has the right to exclusive possession of the premises.” This means that a tenant, limited by what is in the lease and what is in the law, can do whatever they want inside their rental unit. They can invite whomever they choose, they can eat what they like, and they can fly their flags (freak or otherwise) high.

There are exceptions, but there are not many. The exceptions to exclusive possession are:

  1. Landlord Entry: Landlords can enter a unit at “reasonable times,” to make repairs, inspect and show the unit. Administrative code ATCP 134.09(2) puts more restrictions on landlords entering a unit (landlords must give at least 12 hours notice). More information is available on our landlord entry page.
  2. Emergencies: If a landlord believes that entry is necessary to preserve or protect the premises, they can come in without that notice. But there are tricky parts, too! Here are some of the problematic gray areas: When a landlord is entering really often: We’ve had tenants call us for problems with the landlord entering really, really frequently (think: everyday). While the law doesn’t say whether or not this is allowed, it does say that the landlord can only enter for the amount of time that’s “reasonably necessary.” If a landlord (or repair person) is entering to do a significant repair, then everyday might not be a big deal, and might not violate the law. If the landlord just wants to look around every single day, that would probably be on the not so “reasonably necessary” side.
  3. Shared spaces: If tenants are renting rooms out of a larger house, one of the issues that comes up is what happens in the shared spaces, and who sets rules for those. Usually, those spaces are not spaces in which the tenant has exclusive possession, so tenants must follow the rules of the house, even if it’s a narrower scope than the what the law or the lease would dictate. For clues to figure out what’s a tenant’s private space, and what’s not, look at the lease. It should give a description of the unit, and that’s the area in which the tenant has exclusive possession.
  4. Peaceful enjoyment: Peaceful enjoyment is a legal concept established under case law, but it’s mentioned in the history section at the end of Wis. Stat. 704.05. It’s the idea that a landlord is supposed to make it so a tenant can peacefully enjoy what happens inside their rental home, without interference from their surroundings (to the extent that the landlord has control over those things). Sometimes one tenant’s exclusive possession (that tenant being super noisy or smelly, say) infringes on another tenant’s peaceful enjoyment. Then, the infringed-upon tenant can ask the landlord to take action to deal with the problems. Much more about this on our peaceful enjoyment page. What can a tenant do when they are prevented from exclusive possession of their rental home?
  5. Landlord entry problems: since these rights are echoed in ATCP administrative code, tenants have the ability to make complaints to Consumer Protection. They can also sue in Small Claims Court, or call law enforcement. More information on our landlord entry page.
  6. Peaceful enjoyment problems: For many of these issues, the tenants need to communicate well with the landlord. As a worst case scenario, tenants can move out under constructive eviction. More explanation over on our peaceful enjoyment page. If it’s just not working, the tenant might consider: file a restraining order, calling the police or breaking a lease. Depending on the situation, of course. We see the law as a way for people to get their needs, hopes and dreams met inside their home, which is a beautiful thing.

What does God except from our relationship with Him?

That question leads us back to creation, why did God create man? We understand that God made the man and woman in His images and likeness and would come to them in the cool of the evening to have fellowship. Another word for fellowship is relationship. God will visit them in the Garden in the evenings to have a relationship with them. Now, the biggest question of all times: Which came first, man’s need for a relationship with God or God’s desire for a relationship with man? You can also put that question like this: Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

“We love Him because He first loved us,” explains the apostle John (1 John 4:19, emphasis added throughout). John also tells us, “In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins” (1 John 4:10, New Revised Standard Version). Clearly, it was God’s desire and plan to establish a relationship between human beings and Himself.

We must keep in mind God’s purpose for creating us. Previous lessons of this Bible study course have extensively covered His purpose and plan for humanity. We learned that God designed human beings to reflect His very character – to be like Him. “In the day that God created man, He made him in the likeness of God” (Genesis 5:1). “So God created man in His image; in the image of God created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27).

Our ownership of God should not end in just the knowledge (ideas) we have conceived about God but the fact that we are truly taking a walk with Him in everything we do. The chorus of a hymnal, “Trust and Obey” I learned from my Sunday School days put it into perspective:
“When we walk with the Lord in the light of His Word,
What a glory He sheds on our way!
While we do His good will, He abides with us still,
And with all who will trust and obey.…”

What do we need to trust and obey, We need to trust our walk with Him to obey the instructions He has laid down for us. That is the only way we can lay claim of ownership. When we do that He quickly and satisfactorily endorsed our Certificate of Ownership of Him. We automatically own the Certificate if we abide and Him as He abides in us. He says, then, we can ask anything of Him and He will provide for us.

War Is Peace!

Sometimes, you can only know to settle disputes by having to engage in a battle. Whether we love it or not, we come to a stage in life when we’ve got to make that decision to stay alive to tell the story or go 6 feet below and only memories of us tell the story.

War may not always be the best resolve for dealing with lingering problems. We must always resolve to trying other options first until they’re expired – love and dialogue are always the best of options – teaching the truth in love, and telling it as it is.

As Christians, understanding the correct meaning of truth and love is essential if we are to live as disciples of Jesus.

For the first time, I came across that slogan, just yesterday, Monday, October 4, 2021 when a very respectable personality in the Nigeria Fashion Industry, Mrs. Funmi Ajila-Ladipo (Fal) asked if I had any writeup on “War Is Peace!”

Fal, just finished serving 2 terms as the president of the Fashion Designers Association of Nigeria in 2020. In view of our point of discussion, as regards this writeup. To galvanize and drive her dreams and visions as FADAN’s President, Mrs. Funmi Ajila-Ladipo came up with an agenda vision which consisted of “3Rs” acronym to pilot the affairs of FADAN for the 8 years she stayed as president. These “3Rs” means:

  1. Re-energize: Whenever you work at something repeatedly, you get weary at some point. And whenever you get to that place called a rut in business, school or anything you do, when you become lacking in the knack to reinvent yourself, your style, your clients may get tired of getting the same thing from you, and may want to move on elsewhere to get better options, you need to continually breath in fresh fire in your creative ability.
  2. Reconnect: It’s possible that we have left it somewhere because we got tired of the routines, we need to get back to what we were doing before, to work it out, to reinvent ourselves, and become better. We need to bring other people, encourage them into the circle.
  3. Reposition: By gathering we make things happen for this organization and for ourselves, we are changing the game, it’s no longer game as usual. This time, we are positioning ourselves to assume greater responsibilities and opportunities. We are no longer leaving anything to change. Remember the cliché, “As you lay your bed, so, you lie on it!” That is what we are about in this season as Fashion Designers Association of Nigeria (FADAN). We are changing the game plan as we work towards planning and strategizing.
    Alongside with a driving spirit, “Yes, we will. Yes, we can!” That’s our statement of commitment and it means war, we cannot afford to go to sleep at this point in time. That is a wake-up call for all members who have been a part of the association and would be.

Now, it’s unimaginable what would have become of her in her time as President, FADAN if she was not visionary. Of course, the story would have been different but the association had to reelect her to keep her back in the office as president because they experienced positive results during her time in the office. Now, that was a war session.

At that instance, I was intrigued by the simplicity of the phrase, I’ve always loved short and concise phrases like the one she threw at me because they’re always apt, straight to the point, and nails home any issue under contention. “Nothing ever falls for you, and to you on a platter.” That’s like comparing the latter with the this biblical saying, “The lines will fall for you in pleasant places…” But the lines will only fall in pleasant palces when the atmosphere is created, by positioning yourself. You’ve got to work out the modalities. And working it out could involve having to wrong something or even some people who would possibly stand astrided on your path to achieving your vision or peace of mind. Also, peace of mind could be success, could be marriage, it could be anything at all that gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment – Nothing, at all ever falls for you, or to you on a platter, you have to work it out.

In this modern world, getting a job comes with such much demands, you have to be technically and technologically compatible. If not, you will earnestly battle to find a job. To stay in the job, you have to battle to hold up the position, if not, you lose out to someone else who needs it badly enough to prove his deservedness to takeover your position from you by the quality of ideas and inputs he would bring to the table to lift and lead the organization to it’s desired success. The 21st-century organization is not just asking for beautiful and handsomee faces but quickly and intelligent brains that can put to great use the information that will make the organization highly sought for.

As a fashion designer, why must clients come to you? What do you have to offer them that they can’t get elsewhere? When you sought out these questions, you’re well on the way to beat your contenders – a war of ideas!

To make justice of this statement, I had to make consultations, and the internet as we know is the latest vault for every information you want to have, just about everything at all.

“War is peace. Freedom is slavery. Ignorance is strength.” These slogans gave rise to the state of Oceania. The Oceania region is spatially the largest region in CEM, It includes the continental land mass of Australia and covers a vast area of the Pacific including the larger island land masses of Papua New Guinea and New Zealand as well as the 22 countries and territories of the Pacific Islands covering most of Melanesia. Also, those phrases or slogans were formed by an entity known only as “The Party,” which consists of those in charge of the country. – George Orwell, 1984.

Eric Arthur Blair, also known by his pen name George Orwell, was an English novelist, essayist, journalist, and critic. His work is characterized by lucid prose, biting social criticism, opposition to totalitarianism, and outspoken support of democratic socialism. And for those of you who grew up in my days would remember one of the notable works of George Orwell’s novels: Animal Farm was written in 1949 and 1984.

In literal terms, war is a state of hostility, conflict, or antagonism, a struggle or competition between opposing forces or for a particular end. And if caution is not followed with, lives and property might be lost in the process. War creates strive between parties and where there is strive, success would be minimal or never attained at all.

Do we have to kill, should we have take away a life just so we can get what we want?
And does that means that we do not have enemies? Don’t we have people contending with us, who we are, and negate what we stand for?

So long as you are alive and breathes this air, you will have enemies. You wake up every day to contend with forces. Life itself contends with you. You have a desire to be better than who you are, where you are and why you are living – those are forces that contending with your life, your time and with your purpose.

I read somewhere where it is said that: Every day in the jungle, when you wake up, you’ve got to be running. If not, you will become food for another.

So, when a Lion or Cheetah wakes up in the morning in the jungle, it knows that it’s got to be running. If not, it will die of hunger. Every morning in the jungle, when a Gazelle wakes up, it knows that it’s got to be running. If not, it shall become prey to the Lion or a Cheetah. Therefore, every morning when you wake up in this jungle, you’ve got to be running, else, you become prey to contending forces.

War from a Christian perspective:
Christianity preaches love and peace for all mankind. It does not matter if you’re a Christian, or not. Jesus offers you love, peace, and the right to choice. He does not force himself or His opinions of anyone. Rather, He appeals to you in your own interest to decide right to ever enjoy life and your peace. He said, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” – John 14:27.

In verse ten, chapter ten of the same John gospel, Jesus declared, “The thief cometh not, but to steal, to kill and to destroy but I have come that you might have life and have it more abundantly.” Jesus came to make light our burdens, by contending with the powers that seek our destruction.

Jesus’ mission on earth is to give love, heal, give life in abundance, and to broker the existence of peace. Jesus said in the same gospel according to St. John 1:1 – 19:
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. He came as a witness, to bear witness about the light, that all might believe through him. He was not the light, but came to bear witness about the light. The true light, which enlightens everyone, was coming into the world. He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world did not know him. He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him. But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God. And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.”

However, our war is not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against rulers of darkness in high places (Ephesians 6:12). You need to know that anytime you are facing any form of opposition, the person who has caused the pain you’re experiencing is your real enemy but the personality (the devil) behind his actions against you is the enemy.

How do you approach day to day issues and fight your battles? Does your strategy change depending on the circumstance? Do you decide whether or not to even fight at all if the odds are not in your favor? We often think of our own physical strength, knowledge, cunning wit, or maybe even our ability to shut people and pain out of our hearts and minds.

God created the world for peace but the devil, our enemy brought in dissension to cause confusion and war. God created us as one tribe and language until the rebellion that started while men began to build a tower to get to God. And then the division in language and tongues came about. To this date, we still would have remained one people, one language.

It’s the advent of these divisions that brought our difference, the desire to dominate and own lands, property, the desire for significance and relevance which are the things we fight about. If I don’t see myself as different from you, why would I want to be on my own? Why would I want to be on my own?

We have wars when people are not satisfied with what they get in the communal existence when they feel that another is not giving enough of what should be enjoyed by everyone.

By every means possible, Christians believe that war should be avoided, and should only be undertaken if all efforts to resolve an issue by peaceful means have failed. Many Christians see war as the result of a failure to live by God’s standards. And that’s the absolute truth!

However, the Bible does not give Christians a clear answer about whether war is permitted or not, but it has a lot to say about justice, the sanctity of life, the importance of resolving conflict and working for peace. Sometimes, wars must be fought to administer justice for peace to ever reign. “They shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning hooks; nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more.” – Isaiah 2:4

What do Christians say about justice?

Christians believe that justice comes from God and they should work for justice in whatever situation they find themselves. They will often use Psalm 82 from Old Testament to justify this position, “Defend the rights of the poor and orphans; be fair to the needy and helpless. Rescue them from the power of evil men.”

To clinch a point home, war does not always have to be about maiming, killing, and death. There is a war of ideas, sampling ideas to pick the best that brings maximum result that brings gain to whatever you do.

The technology we have experienced in recent years is far beyond what what we have ever experienced ever in history. Why is this? Experts brought their knowledge and intelligence on the table for the test to better what has been created.

So, when intelligence and knowledge is put together on the table for criticism, the best of results are arrived at and success is reached.

The Church in A Spiral Motion, Evil Legalization In The Fore!

All the negative flow in and around the Church today is the reason the Church experiences little or less growth. The world does not seem to find anything exciting, anything new or anything good to learn from the Church any longer since it is the same thing they have in the Church compared to what is obtained out there in the world.

Why is good made evil? And has evil has been made good? The Church has lost her vision – which supposedly, should be the ultimate purpose: ‘Building and grooming lovers and chasers after God and His purpose for mankind.’

We must become lovers and workers of good, not lovers and workers of iniquity, which has become the definition of the Church in these days.

I had a good read of the message by Rob Lamont posted on Facebook by one of my newest found friends, Evangelist Paul Hubert. It’s funny how God connects people. I met Paul Hubert very recently on Facebook through a post. I wrote some thing, …it was a actually a response to someone’s post we are both friends to. It must have been Rebecca Baker’s post or Gloria Redden’s post, Paul Hubert liked what I wrote and sent me a friend’s request which I confirmed.

At some point in my social media interactions, honestly, I stopped accepting friends requests from new people and at other times, I will just accept almost all the friend requests that come to me at that point. So miraculously, I accepted Paul’s request and we’ve ever been on it like seriously, Paul and I have talked extensively on almost everything the two times that we have talked and it’s always been refreshing. I looked forward to talking with him all the time because he is someone who would keep you alert all the time with those wonderful inspiring words.

Thank you, Paul Hubert, for the opportunity you have given me to meet you. I appreciate it!

Paul Hubert is a warm-hearted believer, enthusiastic about Christ and having Him established in the hearts of men. Hubert is a genius, a computer scientist, humble and comely in his approach to life. Paul Hubert does not lack words, he can talk for the world and will never be tired, always coming up with fresh things to talk about.

Paul Hubert was born the very day Israel installed its new flag, October 28, 1948, at 8:58 Mountain time – Denver, Colorado, five months after the establishment of the state of Israel. Hubert was called to Christ at the age of 21 years old in 1970 and has been on fire ever since. Paul is not just a computer genius, he is also an ardent writer, a poet, a Wordsmith of high repute.

Paul and I have talked extensively on almost everything. The two times we have had the opportunity to relate, we discussed on the state of the Church of God in our time. Paul was very interested on what could be done to take the Church out of its present state, the quagmire it has been plunged into by us, Church people especially the Church leaders who have sold the Church out for gains. Paul Hubert emphatically expressed dismay over this negative trend in the body of Christ and the need for us to have to turn away those negatives and curses that have become trending in the Church, today. These discussions sort of ignited, strengthened and cemented our friendship. We have waxed stronger by the day.

Now, here’s Rob Lamont’s message, the subject of discourse:
“It is sad when we move the goalposts, and start saying sin is okay. Especially when those in the Church start supporting sin and think that by giving it a new name, it is now okay.
“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!” – Isaiah 5:20.

A great harm has been done to the Church already. Rather than delivering teachings or lectures that further the Good News of God’s kingdom, many Church leaders and their believers have resolved to building personal empires in the name of God.

The Church of Jesus Christ is fast losing its significance, it has become increasingly difficult to differentiate between the Church and the world. After all, the lifestyle of the Church of God and that of the world has become the same – no one can tell the difference between a child of God (a Christian) and an unbeliever (a worldly person). The world has been imported into the Church as well as the Church exported to the world, so much so that the Church is becoming more worldly as the world is becoming more churchly. Therefore, our lifestyles have become the same – a case you can call a blend of life.

This misdemeanors stem from the fact that those of us who want to enjoy both worlds. They want to be Christians but are not ready yet to let go of the world because of the cares of life, the beautiful, free, and easy lifestyle the world offers. You can’t eat your cake and still have it, you must decide on one because destruction is lurking at the corner, waiting to claim your life.

The Effect of The Church On Society:
The development of Christianity’s influence on the character of society since the Reformation has been twofold. In the realm of state churches and territorial churches, Christianity contributed to the preservation of the status quo of society. In England, the Anglican church remained an ally of the throne, as did the Protestant churches of the German states. In Russia, the Orthodox church continued to support a social order founded upon the monarchy, and even the monarch carried out a leading function within the church as protector.

Though the impulses for the transformation of the social order according to the spirit of the Christian ethic came more strongly from the Free churches, state and territorial churches made positive contributions in improving the status quo. In 17th and 18th century Germany, Lutheran clergy, such as August Francke (1663–1727), were active in establishing poorhouses, orphanages, schools, and hospitals. In England, Anglican clerics, such as Frederick Denison Maurice and Charles Kingsley in the 19th century, began a Christian social movement during the Industrial Revolution that brought Christian influence to the conditions of life and work in the industry. Johann Hinrich Wichern proclaimed, “There is a Christian Socialism,” at the Kirchentag Church Convention in Wittenberg (Germany) in 1848, the year of the publication of the Communist Manifesto and a wave of revolutions across Europe, and created the “Inner Mission” to address “works of saving love” to all suffering spiritual and physical distress. The diaconal movements of the Inner Mission were concerned with social issues, prison reform, and care of the mentally ill.

The Anglo-Saxon Free churches made great efforts to bring the social atmosphere and living conditions into line with a Christian understanding of human life. Methodists and Baptists addressed their message mainly to those segments of society that were neglected by the established church. They recognized that the distress of the newly formed working class, a consequence of industrialization, could not be removed by the traditional charitable means used by the state churches. In Germany, in particular, the spiritual leaders of the so-called revival movement, such as Friedrich Wilhelm Krummacher (1796–1868), denied the right of self-organization to the workers by claiming that all earthly social injustices would receive compensation in heaven, which caused Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels to separate themselves completely from the Church and its purely charitable attempts at a settlement of social conflicts and to declare religion with its promise of a better beyond as the “opiate of the people.” This reproach, however, was as little in keeping with the social-ethical activities of the Inner Mission and of Methodists and Baptists as it was with the selfless courage of the Quakers, who fought against social demoralization, against the catastrophic situation in the prisons, against war, and, most of all, against slavery.

Well, I think that we (believers) do that to justify and make excuses for the wrongs we have done, we do, and want to continue to do. As a result, we give birth to a whole new generation of youngsters who have been licensed to sin since their consciences have been seared rather than pricked by the excuse already provided, evil becomes the order in their lives courtesy us who pampered the evil and made it right.

Carey Nieuwhof said, and I quote, “So you entered into Church leadership full of enthusiasm and fresh ideas. And for a season, a lot of those ideas worked. You saw your ministry grow, people come to faith and the mission advance. But times change. And – these days especially culture is changing faster than ever before. As a result, the shelf life of ideas, assumptions and approaches is shorter than it has ever been.

What used to work, doesn’t. Not anymore.

The challenge is to know what has stopped working and what hasn’t. Not everything that worked a decade ago in the Church was great. But the truth is many churches saw growth anyway. And that’s changing and will continue to change. So, we need to know that what got us here won’t get us there.

Here are some reasons why the Church has blended with the world:

  1. Relying On An Automatic Return To Church: There was a day when you could fairly safely assume that once young adults got married and had a child, they would automatically come back to Church. Those days are gone or largely gone. An average unchurched person doesn’t think about going to Church anymore than the average Christian thinks about going to synagogue. It just doesn’t cross their mind. Someone has said that having an exceptional next-generation ministry that reaches out to the community is critical. We want a better way to impact families? I know of no better approach than this. You don’t assume ever that families will reach out to you, so you need to reach out to them.
  2. Appealing To People Out Of Guilt Or Obligation: The number of people who feel guilty about not being in Church on Sunday shrinks daily. Ditto with the number of people who will serve at a Church because they feel they should. Interestingly enough, Jesus never appealed to people out of guilt or obligation. He invited people. The future church will as well.
  3. Simply Being Better Than Other Churches: When people went to Church, being a better Church than other churches got you mileage. Most people no longer go to Church. Saying “We have a better Church” is kind of like saying “we have better, organic, locally grown watercress” at a burger cook-off. Most people just aren’t going to buy. Better isn’t going to get you the mileage it used to. Different will. The Church is an alternative. And an alternative, clearly and effectively presented, will do far better than simply saying we’re better than something you weren’t interested in in the first place.
  4. Gimmicks: So true confession. A decade ago we drove a car on stage to get people’s attention. We also built elaborate sets for every series hoping it would captivate people. And all of this did. For a season. But I also came to realize that whatever you use to attract people is what you need to use to keep people. ‘Gimmicks’ every week get old fast.
  5. Inauthentic Leadership: People’s fake detectors are set at a higher level than ever. In a culture that markets everything to death, people are longing for authenticity. Fortunately, that’s at the heart of the Gospel. What has to die, of course, is the leader who acts like he or she has it all together: the plastic veneer we put on hoping nobody sees the real us. Well, none of us has it all together. And while there shouldn’t be any gaping unaddressed character holes in your life, letting people see the real you (even if it scares you) is essential. These days, letting people see you’re human is a prerequisite for ministry to fellow humans.
  6. A Self-centred Mission: You have to be careful not to make the mission about your Church. When your Church has had a little success, it’s easy to become self-centred. The people you’re trying to reach aren’t interested in your Church. What they’re interested in (whether they realize it or not) is Jesus. And his mission. Churches that are obsessed about how big they are, how many programs they offer, and how much better they are than other churches have a limited shelf-life. The true mission isn’t about your church. It’s about the church. That resonates.
  7. Random Programming: The bigger your Church, the more you will be tempted to add programs and ministries. Because people demand them. Leaders – afraid to disappoint people or lacking an alternative strategy – cave and allow dozens (or hundreds) of random programs to emerge in their Church. These programs can be counter-productive for numerous reasons: (I). They compete for money, time and attention, (ii). Lead nowhere in particular, (iii). Cause more division than unity (ever try to shut down a women’s ministry or men’s breakfast?), (iv). They become their own mission and compete with the overall mission of the church. Why does random programming not work? The answer is simple, because random programming pleases insiders but rarely reaches outsiders.
  8. Assuming People Know What Their Next Step Is: A decade ago, in a more churched culture, it was commonplace to assume that most people knew what they needed to do to become a Christian or to grow as a Christian. That era is gone. Now the average unchurched person arrives knowing almost nothing about Christianity, what to do to become a Christian or how to grow as a Christian. To understand how radically things have shifted, imagine you converted to Hinduism. How would you know you’ve actually become a Hindu? What’s your next step? Exactly. Just remember that the next time a completely unchurched person begins to attend your church. At Holyfire Overflow Church, where I serve, we reorganized our approach to new people around two key phrases: “I’m New” “Take a Step to Shake the Senior Pastor’s Hand.”
  9. Relying On What You’ve Learned In The Past: I suppose at one time there was a day when seminary adequately trained Church leaders for what was ahead. That day has long since passed. The basics – biblical knowledge, theology and the likes – don’t change dramatically. And shouldn’t. That foundation is reliable years, even decades later. But there’s a growing gap between what leaders need to know about the culture and what they actually know. Some seminaries are catching up, but with change happening faster than ever, every leader needs to become a self-learner. So how do you keep up? Here are four ways I keep up and try to help others stay current, both as a fellow learner and a content creator. The four types of content creators include: Networkers, Speakers, Writers, Visualizers. The networker feels more at home in a crowd of new people to talk to, energized by the exchange of ideas, anecdotes, and speculation.

Sadly, these excuses are seamed, tailored, and disbursed from respected tables. So that they become established, legalized, and with time, those who will come afterwards won’t even see that as evil anymore but some fun things to play with, and pass around.

A Gradual Sweep Away.
What happened to the Church in Europe was what you could call a gradual but salient sweep out. In the name of modernization, the Church was too negligent or preoccupied to understand its obligations and duties to the people especially those of the younger generation. It’s hard really, to say what the trouble was but obvious however was the fact that the Church was too blind to understand that it was its sole responsibility to teach, groom, and pay close attention to the children that were being born into the Church. And the fact is to catch them while they are still impressionable, when you can mold and bend them to what you would want them to be.

The scripture admonishes that you train your children in the fear of the Lord, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6. Abraham Lincoln capped it up by saying, “A child is a person who is going to carry on what you have started … the fate of humanity is in his hands.” So, you can imagine what will happen If we continue to act in negligence, the future will suffer, and next generations will be in danger of what is going on in the world, the degeneration of the Christian character in today’s society.

Let me open our hearts to something we probably have not paid attention to. The Church in Europe has been on the decline and do you know why? I am going to tell you why. The Church has been left over to old men, those who are already halfway to their graves. Young people were not groomed, not taught the ways of God. Because their Christians did not carry them along as they were grooming and growing them, these young people don’t see the Church for the young, they saw and still see the Church as a place for lazy and tired people.

With this wacked mindset, they are staying away from the Church only to become so overwhelmed by secular life: work, drugs, clubbing and women.

The Church in Europe was fully neglected and after those old people died, there was no younger generation to take over the Church, to raising and building it. And as a result, those Churches were locked up. Today, most of those Churches had been bought over and turned into Mosques or some business place.

Parents only taught their children to go get an education, they didn’t teach those children that while they’re getting the education, they should also hold fast to their beliefs as Christians. Today, they have very successful children but spiritually backward or blind. Islam is fast penetrating and buying over those Churches as well as taking the entire land of Europe.

The strength of every growing and developing society is the young. If you ignore the younger generation. These are the evils we have done against our society, the Church, the body of Christ.

Government of nations have not helped matters either, instead of allying with parents in growing and developing children, they have ceased the right from parents to teach and discipline their children by creating the Child Rights Bill that prohibits parents from disciplining their children. International Human Rights Law.

With a handful of exceptions, children have the same human rights as adults. For example, they should never be subjected to torture or ill-treatment, and if charged with a crime, they have the right to a fair trial. Children also have certain rights not afforded to adults. Even before the drafting of major human rights treaties, governments acknowledged these special rights of children that reflect their unique needs and vulnerabilities, and the responsibility of governments and governmental institutions such as schools to protect them.

In November 1959 the United Nations General Assembly adopted the Declaration on the Rights of the Child, which recognized that “the child, by reason of his physical and mental immaturity, needs special safeguards and care, including appropriate legal protection, before as well as after birth.” The United States was one of the then 78 members of the UN General Assembly, which voted unanimously to adopt the declaration. Since that time, nearly all governments, including the United States, have further elaborated the specific rights of children, including in educational settings.

So I’m not misunderstood and misquoted, children should not be mistreated, parents should teach, train their children in love and humanely. Not like when a child has contravened the rules and a parent or parents do not have the right to spank such a child because the law does not allow. And whenever you try to instll discipline in your child, he or she calls the police to have you arraigned before the court to answer for battery against your own, whom you only wanted to correct.

Martin Luther King Jnr. said, “We are not made righteous by doing righteous deeds; but when we have been made righteous we do righteous deeds.” Therefore, we cannot be made righteous to begin to do evil deeds because washes away every evil in us to give us a life free of every form of guile as this is what Christ detests.

When we condoned evil, we say yes to its spreading and that can happen with little or no effort at all and the world becomes infested such that we will have no place to stay because evil will be so thick that it chokes the breath out of the humans cohabiting with it.

All the negative flow in and around the Church today is the reason the Church experiences little or less growth. The world does not seem to find anything exciting, anything new or anything good to learn from the Church since it is the samething they have as their lifestyle.

Why is it that good has been made evil and evil has been made good? The Chirch has lost her vision – building lovers and chasers of God.

We must become lovers and workers of good, not lovers and workers of iniquity.

Faint Not!

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and he will direct your paths.”

The path to goodness, and blessings is always filled with thorns, and briers. The weak in heart will give up easily… hold up much longer, be stronger…

“It might get worse before it gets better…”

– Bola Adebisi

Of course, yes!

It does get awry, it gets scary… Have you forgotten? The darkest part of the night is always close to dawn.

It does always gets worse before it gets better, just as it is with the dawn – it gets darker, like it’s going to be a second and then it’s dawn. That’s how life gets sometimes. And so we’ve got to always get to need to learn to build our staying power to keep so we can keep our focus on the goal. Paul said, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day – and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing” – 2 Timothy 4:7-8.

Your surroundings, your company or associates either inspire or demotivates you, walk away from situations that destroy your guards, and trust in God.

Daily, the World picks you up and puts you on a balance, their measuring scale to test, to determine your worth: intellectually, mentally, financially, and of course, materially. Sometimes, we feel the temptation to want to sing and dance the kind of music they’re playing for the contest, just to prove the point to them that you’re not just a pushover. You feel the temptation to want to tell them, those bad boys gangsters that you call your shots.

Sadly, we live in a “Dog eat dog” society where evil thrives more than good so that survival here is for those who can play the game by bending the rules, cutting corners, and they call it “survival of the fittest.” But God is a master in the art of catching the thief and when he is caught, he pays seven times over.

Faith is the preview of a coming attraction, and when we have faith in God we don’t look at the circumstances surrounding it as it may appear sort of murky. God, sometimes present his beautiful promises in somewhat ugliness – we miss the point if we look at the circumstances rather than keep faith in God’s promises.

He says, “For I know the plan I have for you, it’s a plan for good, to give you hope, and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11. Also, He says, “Beloved, I wish above everything else, that you prosper and be in health even as your souls prosper.” – 3 John 1:2.

Our obedience to God’s Word, promises gives us the answers to God’s plans and promises. I love the way the scripture you used puts it, it nailed the point home, “So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever” -‭‭ 2 Corinthians‬ ‭4:18.

No doubt, “It might get worse before it gets better…” – Bola Adebisi

The problem with us, is the waiting time especially when it begins to linger too long and our hearts increasingly despondent, the words of Denny Correl’s song brings us to a place of trust and total surrender:

When I′m feeling weary
And when trouble comes to me
I just rest in Your love
I rest in Your love

And when my life is shaking
Like a ship on stormy seas
I just rest in Your love
I rest in the love
You’ve given me

I just rest in Your love
I just rest in Your love
Lord, I just rest in the love
You′ve given me

When the world around me
Seems to crumble everywhere
I just rest in Your love
I rest in Your love

When no one’s reaching out for me
When no one seems to care
I just rest in Your love
I rest in the love
You’ve given me

I just rest in Your love
I just rest in Your love
Lord, I just rest in the love
You′ve given me

I know that life is hard sometimes
It can struggle
But I know that I can count on You
You′re always ready, willing and a,ble

I just rest in Your love
I just rest in Your love
Lord, I just rest in the love
You’ve given me.

You’ve been through a lot, I know that it’s not easy but it’s not time for you to give in the pains, you can’t afford give up now. You will regret how close you were to winning when you gave up.

Rhonda Dang painfully narrated sad episodes of the deteriorating state of her mother’s healthy until she was gone from her.

I remember sitting in the living room when the hospice nurse talked to me about my Mother. “She was one of my favorite people” she said. Mom was under hospice care for almost two years before she passed away. Watching her decline was heartbreaking. Up until that point the word hospice scared me but the hospice staff helped replace my fear with hope. We were told that hospice didn’t “necessarily mean a death sentence.” Some people could be in hospice for years. I kept hope Mom would be one of those who lived years upon years.

“It will get worse before it gets better,” the hospice nurse explained after Mom died. I thought how could it be worse than what I was feeling at that moment? But, she was right. It did get worse. I knew I would miss my Mother but I had no idea it would be this kind of pain. Mom has been gone five years and I have thought about her every day since she took her last breath and have cried more than I ever thought possible. I’ve cried for her and my father.

When Mom died, it was like my father died all over again. Although I’ve been to counseling, tried extra-curricular activities and started writing again, the grief is always there. Some days are better than others. Some days are especially difficult, every day at some point is a challenge. Maybe I am still in my worst before it gets better.

The Holidays were especially difficult for me this past year. Below is something I wrote three years ago. It describes how life has been for me every day. I shared it with my grief counselor and it was posted on their website. If it’s difficult to wrap your head around why some of us seem to really struggle when a loved one has passed on, I hope this helps you somewhat understand what it feels like for some of us.

And here-below is God calling for you to let go:

Hello buddy,

I’m here to take the place of what you’ve lost. I’ll be here when no one else understands. I will be your excuse for not leaving your comfort zone even when you feel uncomfortable.

You can control me. But then, you can’t. I’ll show you how strong you can be or how weak. I bring people together or tear them apart. I can ruin relationships, but help build new ones.

Some of your family and friends may not acknowledge to you why I’m here. Sadly, you may never feel the same way about them again. I’ll be here for Birthdays, Holidays and Special Occasions.

Sometimes, I’ll show up suddenly, even when you are not thinking about me. I’m that constant lump in your throat and that deep pain in your heart.

Among other emotions, I can bring depression, anger, guilt and insecurity. A song, familiar smell, or even on a beautiful day, I will remind you of what you are missing.

Everyone knows of me, but deals with me differently. I’ll stay as long as needed, but it might be difficult to get over me. You probably won’t be the same as before. I’ll be here waiting.

At some point in our lives, we all have fallen victim to it’ll get worse before it gets better fallacy. But in reality, it’s just a variant of the confirmation bias. If the problem continues to worsen, the prediction is confirmed. If the situation improves unexpectedly, we are happy. Either way, it works! It’s a win-win.

Let’s say you decide to quit smoking. You work on your self-control; you avoid accompanying your friends to their smoking breaks from work and you diligently try to follow your resolve. But something’s not right. You yearn for it more than ever. Your urge to smoke is stronger than what you usually feel. You seem to lose your grip on the self-control you thought you possessed. It’s becoming tougher than you imagined. And you think to yourself, it shouldn’t be this bad, maybe it’s supposed to get worse before it gets better! You wait for it to get better, but for how long? And just like that, before you know it, you’re smoking again.

Another evidence of this strategy’s success is Christianity: its literal followers believe that before we can experience heaven on earth, the world must be destroyed. Disasters, floods, fires, death – they are all part of the larger plan and must take place. Believers will view any deterioration of the situation as confirmation of the prophecy, and any improvement as a gift from God.

It’s also not very different from what the leaders of today are saying – Coronavirus will get worse before it gets better. And now you know why!

While things do get better if they have to get better, sometimes, situations do exist where things first dip and then improve. For example, a career change requires time and often incorporates loss of pay. The reorganization of business also takes time. But in all these cases, we can see relatively quickly if the measures are working. The milestones are clear and verifiable.

If someone says, ‘It’ll get worse before it gets better,’ you should hear alarm bells ringing. So do your own research, get a second opinion and look for clear and verifiable signs to capture and understand the downfall, because more often than not, it’s avoidable. Don’t wait for the heavens to make it better…

Be blessed child of God, no temptation will overtake you because God will also make a way of escape..

Divorce: A Marring Of Human Conscience!

Life begins to take a wrong turn when we bar our minds and refuse to acknowledge the negative happenings around us regarding marriage. How wonderful to see couples being happy together, and getting along so well.

If a relationship suddenly takes that bend to the negative street, the love, peace, and harmony are hampered and that good relationship becomes like the one of fire and cotton, a cat and rat (Tom & Jerry), things have fallen apart, and the center can no longer hold. There’s s call for caution!

What do you think of divorce? From the perspective of the world as well as in the Christian circle.

– Jummai Sa’idu Ogbe

Issues relating to divorce are issues that begin right from the start of a relationship. When a marriage relationship is entered in with the wrong motives, divorce becomes the fruit that marriage gives birth to.

We fail in any venture embarked on as a result of ignorance, we are not aware of the decisions we’re making in that regard. Therefore, knowledge is key. My people perish for lack of knowledge – nobody jumps into a business without first considering the options, checking out the pros and cons.

What was in the mind of God when He conceived the thought of marriage? Speaking of importance, when God conceived the idea of making fishes; He consulted the waters or the sea. When He conceived the idea of making trees, He consulted the earth or the ground. And when God conceived the idea of creating man, He went back to Himself, “Let us make man in our image and after our likeness.”

The reason for that decision was so that God and man would have fellowship and service. Fellowship and service can not be overemphasized. “In everything I have shown you that, by working hard, we must help the weak. In this way, we remember the Lord Jesus’ words: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive. ‘” … “Be kind, compassionate, and forgiving to each other, in the same way, God forgave you in Christ.”

Fellowship strengthen our bonds no matter where we are in life and in our faith, fellowship provides us with strength. Being around people gives us the chance to learn and grow. It demonstrates to us why we believe and sometimes is the excellent food for our souls.

So, after God finished creating man, he realized that man was alone and lonely. That was the idea that informed the emergence of the woman. How God did it was, sending the man into a deep sleep, brought out of the man and made for him the woman, his kind of the opposite sex.

Some many years back, I was discussing with a colleague of mine at the workplace and this is what he gave us some of the reasons he will marry. He was very emphatic on the need to strategize. If I understand what that means is that he was not about to marry a woman merely because he loves her but he needed someone who would help put him on a good pedestal. How logical! That would sound modern but there is a big problem there. What happens if he does not vet what be wanted from that relationship? You can see that divorce is lurking in a corner.

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock is a culturally recognized union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.

Here’s what God says about marriage in Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Romans 13:8: “Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind.”

And since God had this beautifully planned and well-executed about how marriages should be conducted, how did we get to the point where we get tired of each other as spouses and want to put an end to this beautiful thing that was created to last for a lifetime? How did we come about this ugly word, “divorce?” This must the case of that situation called, “While men sleep, the devil went to sow tares…”

Speaking of divorce, for one, I will never subscribe to that idea because it is thoughtless, evil, and barbaric. I am begging God to help me with that prayer. I want my marriage to be a lasting one. I strongly desire my marriage to be, “till death do us part…” However, not everyone is lucky to end up with that kind of marriage. Also, I don’t subscribe that one stays in an abused marriage because of the desire to fulfill God’s plan for marriage. God had planned marriages to be enjoyed not endured.

The world does not have problems with this misnomer because the idea for most men out there in the world is, “The number of women you have slept determines your conquest as a man.” It is a set goal for most men as well as some women too. Not everyone out there in the world appreciated that though. There are still a few people out there in the world who still have some decency in them.

The word “prostitution” is frowned at when a woman has too many sex mates, but who pays any attention whenever men indulge in same-sex adventure? No one would because they kind of give it a mind tone, a name that pampers, and excuses and call him a stud. If you refer to a man as a stud, you mean that he is thought to be very active sexually and good at satisfying his partner’s sexual desires.

So, what brings about divorces in a marriage?

According to various studies, the three most common causes of divorce conflict, arguing, irretrievable breakdown in the relationship, lack of commitment, infidelity, and lack of physical intimacy. The least common reasons are lack of shared interests and incompatibility between partners. Below are some of the reasons why divorce is rife:

  1. Lack of commitment — 75%
  2. Infidelity or extramarital affairs — 59.6%
  3. Too much conflict and arguing — 57.7%
  4. Getting married too young — 45.1%
  5. Financial problems — 36.1%
  6. Substance abuse — 34.6%
  7. Domestic violence — 23.5%
  8. Health problems — 18.2%

The Bible frowns at divorce but it says, If you can not forgive him or her, you’re free to leave but should not marry again. “But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Matthew 5:32. “But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases, the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.” I Corinthians 7:5.

There are countless bible verses speak on this issue. Every couple must be careful not to begin to tow the path of its unmaking because of little skirmishes.

I read this message somewhere and it says that marriage does not need love. That a successful marriage has little to do with love. It went further to say that love is not the qualification for marriage. Love is a dangerous thing.

Love can make you think you can make it. Every divorced person was first in love with the partner they have divorced. So, don’t ever think that love can keep the marriage together.

However, I have always thought on the contrary. I have thought that love is the backbone of every good and thriving marriage relationship. Are we talking about the love I know? The one that does not see wrong with anything your spouse is doing? The one they say is blind? I know to go it feels when one is in love, nothing matters anymore. True love comes with sacrifice, it comes with forgiveness and a willingness to overlook certain weaknesses in your spouse. However, there is a kind of love that has been misconstrued, which is called infatuation. Infatuation is love that is based on things. If a person has marked certain qualities as standards or criteria he or she wants in a person and suddenly, here comes someone you have met who possesses those qualities, your mind goes all out for the person. There’s nothing anyone else is going to do or say to you that would change your mind about the decision you have concluded already about that person.

Late Myles Munroe gave a teaching on marriage, he said, “Love does not guarantee success in marriage…” Love brings happiness but doesn’t bring what it takes to make the marriage work. The only thing that makes a marriage work, is knowledge.

You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the altar, making commitments we know we can’t keep. Marriage is not protected by love, marriage is protected by knowledge.

So, what knowledge do I need to know about to make my marriage work?

Foremost, you need to purport in your mind before everything else that you are entering a marriage relationship, not a funfair.

Yes, a good and peaceful marriage comes with lots of fun but that is the part that I need to work out to make my marriage fun-filled – that should be a resolution of both couples. If you walk conscious of that truth, you will always be cautious of what you do, what you say to each other. Moreover, the fact that you will both be quick to apologize to one another whenever there is a misunderstanding. Those are the condiments that cement healthy marriages, sitting down to communicate our minds, feelings, and hurts one to another.

Kevin Miller speaking and said, “Almost every marriage starts as a huge celebration.” Everything looks perfect in the beginning. Everyone takes a good look at the couple in their colors and says, “What a perfect marriage! The glitters and shines, the waves of laughter and smiles, all the elation, the glitz, and glam so beefed up – the beaming exuberance of the occasion.”

Together with their family and friends, each couple is full of hopes and dreams for their future life together. But the road to a happy marriage is far from easy. And as today’s divorce statistics demonstrate all too well, many couples opt not to complete the journey.

It would be easy to blame our high rate of marital failure on things like not spending enough quality time together, allowing bitterness and resentment to build in our hearts, and failing to keep communication lines open. There’s no end to books, articles, and seminars that tell you how to improve these and many other aspects of your relationship. But while quality time, forgiveness, and communication are vitally important to creating a happy marriage, if such things aren’t happening, it’s usually a sign of a much deeper problem. And until this problem is addressed, no amount of external behavior modification will work.

To get a hint of what this deeper issue might be, let’s take a look at the following Scripture passage:

One of them, an expert in the law, tested him [Jesus] with this question: “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’

This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it. ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:35-40)

I believe that virtually every marital problem can be traced back to one or both partners failing to abide by these two laws. The same is true of any relationship. The minute we begin to focus on our wants and needs over those of God or our partner; we’re destined for trouble.

Experiencing communication problems in your marriage? How often do you focus on listening to what your partner (or God) has to say instead of insisting on more airtime? Feeling bitterness and resentment growing toward your partner? When was the last time you brought him or her before the Lord in prayer and truly thanked God for your relationship? Struggling to find quality time together? How about praying with your partner and asking God how he would like you to use your time?

As you begin to do these things, you’ll notice that your focus automatically starts to shift away from you and your desires and over to God and your partner. As a result, communication problems begin to improve, anger and resentment fade away and you naturally want to spend more time together. Of course, you can’t expect such changes to happen overnight. Your relationship is also bound to face financial pressures, child-rearing issues,s and other problems that are beyond your control. But if you commit your relationship to God and make a conscious decision each day to put God and your partner first, your marriage will be able to weather any storm. Not only that; you’ll also have plenty of fun together along the way!

Have you struggled to find happiness in your marriage? Perhaps it’s time you and your spouse invited God to direct your relationship.

Keeping It Real In The Homefront!

Gentility is fast losing its true meaning in this modern society, today. Life is gradually losing that communal love, sharing, and caring for the good and happiness shared in the home.

There was a time when treating the girls nicely was the in-thing, it was what matters in every society.

When a man says, “I will do anything for a woman,” he means, fight bad guys, and kill dragons. Not vacuum or wash dishes.

Rebecca Baker

A home is a place where we must learn to be multi-tasking. Household chores are the most draining jobs anyone would ever know. Most men look at those duties as simple as if they’re not too demanding. But until you are involved, then you will understand how arduous they could be.

A man is a superman in the house, everyone relies on him for protection, provision, physical, emotional, and mental balance.

So, like my friend Rebecca Baker said, “I will do anything for a woman…” to me, it means everything, the home should be the freest, easiest place to live in. If not, it would become toxic and hard to live in a place. We’re built to enjoy fellowship one with another.

On the one hand, another of history and then they are not going to be able to do it against them, and on the other hand, the first thing I did was to be a part of the world and the second half of the season and the other is a great way to get the best out of the way and I have to say that the government is not the same as the one in the same way as the most part important to me remark “I will do anything for a woman,” for a good relationship that exists between them. Those two short words are rich in meaning. Yet, often misunderstood in our modern world. As Christians, understanding the correct meaning of truth and love is essential if we are to live as disciples of Jesus. In my role as a teacher of the faith for the Diocese of Green Bay, I want to share a bit more about the meanings of these words and how they relate to each other.

A common misconception in our world today is that the truth is whatever a person makes it to be. We hear people speak of “my truth” and “your truth,” but this reveals a fundamental misunderstanding. You and I don’t get to decide the truth; it has been revealed to us by God. As children of God, our responsibility is to seek the truth, embrace the truth, and live in the truth, even when it’s difficult. As Jesus says in John’s Gospel, “the truth will set you free” (John 8:32). The trouble is that sometimes knowing the truth hurts like “you know what.”

There is likewise a common misunderstanding today of the word “love.” Many people associate love with a feeling, but the Christian understanding of love is that love is an action, not a feeling. To love is to will or desire the good of another person, to put their good before our own. Loving in this way is difficult because it requires us to put someone else’s needs before ours.

The mistaken notions of truth and love lead to another common misconception in our world today. Some people believe that sharing a difficult truth with another person is not loving. After all, they might say, how can upsetting or hurting someone be good? While it’s understandable that we don’t want to hurt those who we love, by failing to share the truth, we are putting our good before theirs. Imagine a mother who refused to tell her young son to keep his hand away from a hot stove because she knew saying “no” would upset her child. Would this be a loving thing to do? Of course not. As you can see, sometimes we need to share the truth with others because failure to do so could lead to their harm.

Two recent events illustrate the importance of understanding the relationship between truth and love. Last week the Holy Father, through the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (CDF), reaffirmed the church’s teaching that same-sex unions cannot be blessed by the church. The statement made clear that all people are to be welcomed by the church and are loved by the church. Still, the church cannot bless that which is spiritually harmful to an individual or a couple. To do so would be to fail to authentically love that person. Love is always truthful, which means love is sometimes difficult.

At the same time, when we share difficult truths like this, we have a responsibility to do so with love. One of the ways we can do this is by walking closely with others through their difficulties. This is the example that Jesus modeled for us in his life. Jesus does not withhold the truth from us, even when it is hard to hear. Yet, he also loves us, even when we reject the truth. He continues to offer himself to us, inviting us back into a relationship with him, knowing that when we embrace the truth, we will be set free. In the same way, the church has a responsibility to walk with people who are struggling to understand and embrace the true meaning of marriage as established by God.

I am grateful for the Holy Father’s clarity on this question and the expression of care that the church continues to affirm for individuals with same-sex attraction. Along with the Holy Father, I pray that this witness to the truth of the human person by the church may be a grace that challenges all of us to live more deeply in the love that Christ brings to the world.

The second situation has to do with a proposed bill currently before the U.S. Senate called the Equality Act. The purpose of the bill is to protect people experiencing same-sex attraction and gender discordance from unjust discrimination, which is a worthy purpose. However, the bill would require people of faith to accept as true some teachings about gender and sexual orientation that go against their deeply-held religious convictions. In doing so, the Equality Act poses a threat to our religious freedom and undermines the Christian understanding of the human person.

While difficult, we have a responsibility to speak the truth in love in the face of this legislation. I encourage everyone in the diocese to learn more about the Equality Act and to defend the faith by reaching out to your senators. Please go to gbdioc.org for more details on this legislation and how you can act in truth and love.

Friends, loving in truth, and telling the truth in love is difficult, especially given the misunderstandings of these words in our world today. As your bishop, it is my responsibility to teach the truth in love, even when doing so is difficult. May each of us turn to our loving Father that he may teach us how to truly love and lovingly tell the truth!

May we continue to be at peace with each other, love and show forth good character to everyone especially the women in our lives.

The Tabernacle: A Wander!

We need to know that the need has arisen for deliverance to be conducted among us, the Church cannot afford to play dumb and dumber.

“… I will build my Church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.”

“People wander from Church to Church, like sheep without a shepherd. The condition of the Church is not as important as the condition of our relationship with Christ. Jesus is the Good Shepherd, follow Him. He wants to lead us.”

– Gloria Redden

The Church is very sick especially the Nigerian Church. What do I mean by the Church is very sick? We have left what we should be doing as pacesetters, peacemakers, solution providers, mentors. If you don’t know this before, know it now.

Have you ever wondered why the world has so much expectations from a Christian, they expect that you will always respond to issues differently compared to another person who has not the knowledge of God’s Word? Whenever you act strangely, they say, “But this is not how you should act as a believer.” In other words, they know what the scripture says about everything but why can’t they do the right thing? The answer is, they don’t possess the ability to do the right things. An unbeliever has a natural proclivity to doing wrong and when they see someone who professes Christianity not acting like one, they say, “Oh, is he one of us? We thought he was a Christian.”

Jesus Said: “I will build my Church!” “And the gates of hell shall not prevail against it!” The word ‘church’ does not refer to a building or an organization, but to a people who understand their identity in Christ.

We, who are the Church have automatically received the power, the ability to walk in the truth, which is to become infallible (the more we become Christlike, the more perfect beings we are) without which we cannot truly represent God. The scripture says, “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.” “Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.” – Phillippians 2:5-7.

But you know what? I don’t have a problem with people going from Church to Church, after all, we’re all part of the body of Christ (whatever Church) you belong to – your relationship with Christ is most important. If you attend different Churches and your life does not reflect the gospel you profess, then, that isn’t right.

To me, the more of a Church person become or you attend should mean that you have continually gained better knowledge and understanding to become more and more Christlike.

The concept of Church Christ desires is not the physical buildings we convene in, but the hearts and spirit of men are where Christ wants to inhabit. The scripture says, “…, behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God.” Revelation 21:3. It is high time we started uniting the Church, enough of the variance we have continually developed by the wrong doctrines we have continued to teach in our different gatherings. God demands that we become one as He is one with the Father (God). And we should all began to work towards building the unity of the body and making Christ known, making Him the center of our services, not exalting the physical Church or the spiritual leader or Chief shepherd of that local assembly more than we do God.

So, the more of a Church person you become, the better a human being you should be becoming daily – we need to think more on this.

Our attention should be on God, Christ alone, not any man, no matter how spiritually placed they are – this should not be about exalting “the god in a man,” but, “the man in the God” – God first because finding God first will make the lines fall in pleasant places to give us our goodly heritage.

There are so many reasons why people run from Church to Church…

Some do so in search of financial help, gunning for miracles and/or deliverance. I know the Nigerian Church is in big trouble, leaders of these Churches have drawn away from the reason we became born again vis-a-vis Christians, attention is centered on eloquence, success, achievements, membership strength, beauty, or state-of-the-art auditorium, miracles, signs, and wonders.

Nigerian pastors are miracle givers, by that, I mean rather than presenting God, the miracle giver, the impression they give those ignorant souls who throng into Church asking for miracles is like they’re the ones who provide the miracles. So, the people look up to the pastors than look up to God for their miracles and deliverance. They probably may not have said that in speech but most of us have saliently not been able to point the people out to God as the source of the miracles.

Because as it is, if believers have this knowledge that God is the one who gives the miracle, the pastors won’t be the center point here and probably won’t be too significant in the viewpoint of such kinds of pastors. So, the point is to keep the people perpetually in the bondage of some sort so that they will always have reasons to keep running to the pastor for help and deliverance regarding spiritual matters.

So, this, to me is why people run from Church to find miracles, and deliverance from the demons they have created or formed by themselves (fear and ignorance) in their minds. Also, just to belong with the kind of movement in that Church.

But if the Church of God understands that by themselves, they have the power and authority like their pastor to put to flight any demon that opposes them, then, they will begin to find their paths in God. But so long as they choose to remains in ignorance, they’re continually going to be tormented by their demons.

He who the Son has set free is free indeed. Until we come to this understanding, our Christianity is the baby kind, we must grow in our inward being.

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