Masculine Swag!

It’s nice to smile, for smiles only say you’re friendly. Smiles alone may not earn you the respect and trust of men. Confidence and self worth will.

Sometimes, smiles means weakness, a sign of submission.

But a bold and confident outlook keeps people on their toes, and like saying, “Don’t give me that attitude, because you might not like what I might give in response.”

Boldness, smiles, confidence and self assertion will give you access to places others might not be allowed to go.

More than anything else, manliness is never, has never been, will never be about peddling a hunky looking body. But as much as I know and can tell, the masculine swag represents the grace, love, strength and protection of God over the weak and frailness of the humankind.

In my thinking, manliness or masculinity stand to be next to godly standards of what duties a man should carry on earth.

Supposedly, masculinity embodies all the qualities that makes God, God, the Almighty, which He has bestowed upon men to take care of life on the Earth.

Inclusively, manliness is a compendium of qualities such as these: physical strength and strength of character, an outright show of courage, protection – standing in for your loved ones and those oppressed by powers that be and most of all, love – a show of kindness, tenderness and compassion to men.

People will frown at what I just said but if they look into what I said deeper and more critically, with an open mind too, I believe that they will come to the realization that what I have said is the plane truth. And as we all know, truth is the only safe ground to stand on.

In definition, the term “Masculine Swag” in the true sense of the term, refers to the strength of character, confidence and a never give up attitude a man exudes about himself and what he knows.

You could call it self worth or self assertion. Knowing your worth and never allowing anyone to sway you in the direction of their choice. Otherwise, it is an unwavering confidence in the fact that you have it under control even when you don’t.

Women seem to love strong and seemingly arrogant men because they want protection, they want security. So they love to stay around men who show confidence and strength of character and confidence about what they know and do.

There’s a fresh trail blazing, and it sweeping the men folks off their feet, making the homes dysfunctional. It is called Toxic Masculinity. Toxic masculinity teaches the men self love, how not to love women.

Toxic masculinity has actually been there over the years. But intrinsically silent by the clamour for men to man up to begin to take up their responsibilities and positions at the home front, at workplaces and in the society at large. However, the rate this ugly trend has been surging forth is alarming.

The men seems to be losing it as toxic masculinity is warming its ugly head into the hearts of many man. Somewhat, this trend has driven them back in, hiding away inside the cocoon of lethargy and malfunctioning. The result of which affects the homes. The father figure that provided strength, balance of character and leadership is no longer there.

The society suffers this the more, it is working under an unbalanced child raising principles, single parenting, more approximately put, single motherhood because the men are nowhere to be found. And this trend has constantly decelerated the functionality of the men in most societies.

Homes are missing the manly functions and discipline, the ability to provide quality leadership and direction that gives balance and keeps a steady and well groomed home front, and that has adversely affected the growth and development of nations.

Alas! Women are taking up the positions of the men, filling in the gaps the men have left open in the homes and elsewhere and the repercussion is telling on the society.

Those men who seem to occupy exalted positions in the society are unskilled, untrained and so they function unrestrained because they’ve known the secrets of evil leadership. They know that they can buy their way through from the law enforcement agencies. You only need to tie their tongues, seal their mouths with a bribery that will allow you go and act unabated against the laws and laid down rules, and so do whatever they please.

Accordance to the story in creation, masculinity embodies everything that has to do with creative abilities, special skills and knowledge, mannerisms and the display of the masculine testosterone, success and completeness in all truths.

The masculine swag does not just end in wearing a bold and confident outlook, it entails being it, and providing and putting those qualities into use to achieve greater feats.

Channel your energies on the right directions, the things, the right people. It might not payoff instantly, but sooner or later, it definitely will payoff.

Besides confidence and a bold disposition, masculine swag addresses laxity or overtly wasting too much time to deal with issue of urgency being apt in making decisions.

Here are two, judge for yourself the man who possesses the masculine swag.

Larry and Harry are two homeless men who roamed the streets and sleep wherever the night falls.

One day, they were given a chance to travel to a third world country on an “All expensed paid ticket for” trip. They were told to carry nothing with them and return home with nothing.

As part of the deal, they were expected to make sure they spend all that was given to them. Provision had been made for their expenses and welfare which they would get upon arrival at their designated destinations.

The only caveat was, neither of them knew when they would be asked to return home.

On arrival, they were both given a huge sum of money and credit cards without limits, but were reminded to spend it all before returning to their home country. At this, they became instantly wealthy by local standards.

Harry thought to himself, “Wow! This is an opportunity for me to live like a king for I don’t know how long this would last.” So he went and rented a Ferrari and rented the best room in the best hotel in town.

He went to the best stylist, shaved and transformed his looks. He had parties everyday. Everyone in the city thought the cars and the wealth were his and they loved and respected him for it.

But at the back of his mind, Harry knew he would go back home someday and leave all of it behind but he didn’t want to think about it. Right now, I am living in the moment and needs to enjoy myself to the fullest. He thought to himself.

Larry, on the other hand, rented a small Honda to get him around town and stayed in a modest inn. He thought to himself “This money will not last and I don’t know when I am going back so I have to do something tangible with it.” He decided to use it to change some people’s lives while he still had the time and opportunity.

So he got busy, went out on the streets and began to a make a difference, changing people’s lives. He didn’t just give away money, rather, he tried to help people be self reliant and self sufficient. He paid off all the school fees of some promising young ones to enable them get an education and take care of themselves and their families.

He found some responsible adults and funded them in businesses that guaranteed they would be able to take care of their family and create employment. He devised a means of helping some of the homeless people get off the street and getting them into a trade for he thought “I wish someone would do this for me when I get back to my home country.”In short, while Larry was there, he was busy changing lives, transforming nobodies into gainfully employed men and women.

After two months in their new found lives, they were suddenly called back home. They had not even spent half the amounts handed to both of them but they had to leave.

They both said their goodbyes and headed for the airport. At the airport, they were given their original clothes to put back on before boarding the plane back home to their country.

Harry reminisced over the good times he had and wasn’t too happy that he was going back to his old life. How is he going to readjust to his homeless life?

However, Larry felt good. He came with nothing and is leaving with nothing, but at least he was happy he had been able to give some people a chance to live a better life; that alone meant the world to him.

Readjusting to his former life wouldn’t be a problem because he never lived like a one chance wealthy man anyways. He had always reminded himself that he was living a borrowed life. Soon, he would return to his former life someday.

Little did they know that each moment they spent on vacation was secretly recorded and they would be rewarded accordingly.

Now, which one do you think would be cast back out to the slums, homeless? And which of the two in your opinion deserves promotion? Who amongst them would you entrusted with any sum of money, large or merger or any position of authority?

It is same with our life. We are here, sent on a mission and one day, we will return home empty handed except for the records of our deeds while we lived here on earth. Yet, many of us walk around thinking that the wealth they possess can keep for eternity. We look ourselves up in the mirror and think that what we see will always be there, forgetting that we are wearing temporal clothes. The human body is temporal, at the sound of the trumpet, it will be required of us as we depart this world.

Our vacation on earth is but for a short time but eternity is forever. How we spend this vacation determines how we get to spend eternity.

So how are you living your life? Are you a Larry or a Harry? Think about it!

Today, many men have abdicated, relinquishing their leadership positions to the women folks and asking why they’re not respected in their homes. Most of such men are threatened by the success of the women folks.

Take it or leave it, women are gradually and deliberately pushing on, walking so hard to becoming self sufficient. Today, you hear most women saying they do not need men in their lives. They tell you I have raised my children all alone without the help of any man. So what’s the need of the man when they only add to your problems instead of bringing solutions – we do not need the men. They get pregnant and give birth to their child, raise him/her up single handedly, they’re pushing men out of their lives.

I think men really need to sit themselves down to find resolves to this downward trend on the masculine swag. We need to find where we missed it. We need to pull back resources together and put order to this negative movement in men.

We must terminate this single motherhood trend. We should not just be interested in donating babies to the women folks and not be ready to take up the challenges of raising these babies along with their mothers.

I got so challenged when I learned the search for pairing of the eagles. It’s so interesting and so intriguing that you marvel at such wisdom.

The female eagle takes its suitor male on a ride, a test of strength and character. The female will pick up a very heavy log of wood and from that height, let down the wood, then, she follow behind to watch as the male suitor safely catches the wood and returns it to her, to tell it he is the right candidate or not. Female eagles have no place for weakness, the choose the strongest of males to raise a strong generation.

What kind of man are you? Are one with the masculine swag or one with toxic masculinity?