Much Ado About Virginity!

Like every woman differ from the other in size, shape and other features, so also is their virginity. It differ from girl to girl or from woman to woman.

As it were, most relationships have been decimated by reason of this myth.

Don’t let the issue of virginity be the determinant factor of a broken marriage.

It’s better you have a broken relationship than a broken marriage. But there’s even no reason for all these skirmishes about being a virgin or not. “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”

A lot is left to wonder! Why problems often occur at the first few days, weeks, months or years in a marriage relationship.

Many men say, “I have kept sealed lips for far too long, I think I’m about bursting open. I just can’t take it anymore. This woman is a cheat, she’s a liar and a whore. I can’t put up with her any longer! Take this thing out of my house!”

Some of the grave problems that break many homes today, we have come to understand stemmed from the experience of the wedding night.

Almost, every man thinks that a girl who has never been married should be a virgin. And they all measure that state as to mean bleeding the night he makes love to her for the first time.

The man says, “She told me she was a virgin. But that night, I realized she wasn’t after our first experience as husband and wife!”

And the counselor asks, “How did you realize it?”

“Of course, she did not bleed!” He replied.

“Oh! That?” The counselor was amused.

For a moment, the counselor sat back on his chair and thought over his statement. Then he asked the man again.

“How did you meet?”

We were both working with the States Sports Council as Karate fighters and fell in live with each. She was such a quiet and very reserved person among all the girls who were part of our team. I walked up to her and we became friends and since then, our relationship grew stronger.

Then, one day, I asked if she could marry me and she said that she’d love to. Ever since, we’ve been together. She’s never given an impression that she’s ever slept with any man. She’s been acting all this, you’re my one and only…, bullshit!

So very many people, especially men, boys, young girls, even men as well have this preconception that every girl must bleed during her first sex experience if she is a virgin. I can bet you a majority number of people share this same believe. However, that is not true. Bleeding does not tell the virginity of a girl.

This article is written in the bid to help educate our young men and women on this issue of girls bleeding during their first sex experience.

THE MYTH ABOUT FEMALE VIRGINITY:
There’s a very common myth in South and Central Asia especially countries like: Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan etc., even some African countries like: Nigeria and many other nations that you can tell if a woman is a virgin by whether or not she bleeds the first time she has sex.

There is zero truth in this. Not all women bleed the first time they have sex, as I am going to explain in this article. To understand why some women bleed and some don’t, it is very important to understand what the hymen is.

The hymen is a membrane that tends to cover part of the vaginal opening, it does not always block or cover the entire vagina, as some people mistakenly think. More so, not all women have a hymen. The hymen differs from woman to woman – like all women have different heights and weights and features, all women also have different amounts and types of hymen. Some women have thick hymens, some have very thin hymens, and some women have no hymens at all. Some women have larger hymens, some naturally have a very little amount of hymen that covers only a small portion of their vaginal opening. Hence, does not really get in the way, during first-time sex.

In addition to that, the hymen wears away on its own as women grow up. For most women, the hymen wears away on its own with exercise, bicycling, horseback riding – it can wear off with pretty much faster with any other kind of physical activity, even dancing! – or from using tampons when menstruating. Especially if the hymen is very small or thin.

Most of it tends to wear away on its own as a girl grows up. If a woman is born without a hymen, she won’t bleed the first time she has sex. If a woman has a small or thin hymen, she might not bleed the first time she has sex. If a woman’s hymen has worn away on its own, which is very common as girls grow up, she won’t bleed the first time she has sex.

The result is that the overwhelming majority – at least 63% of women – will not bleed the first time they have sex, according to a study published by the British Medical Journal. Women who do bleed includes: Women with thick hymens, who constitute a very small percentage of the population, younger girls. Because the hymen wears away on its own with time, a 16-years old has a higher chance of bleeding than a 25-years old girl. By the time a girl is of age or above the legal age of consent – 18, 20, 24 years of age, for example – most of her hymen is likely to have worn away on its own, meaning it’s unlikely that she’ll bleed a lot, if she ever bleeds at all.

However, even a young girl who is physically active or has a thin or small hymen, or has no hymen at all, she might not necessarily bleed during first-time sex. Most often, women who bleed tend to be women who are dealt with roughly during sex. If the guy forces himself into her when she isn’t ready, relaxed or aroused enough, he is likely to cause injury or bleeding.

Because of this popular notion people have nursed that it’s normal for a women to bleed the first time they have sex, they don’t realize that this bleeding is a result of the woman having been hurt, not because the hymen has been broken.

A painful first-time sex is generally a result of the woman not being relaxed, aroused enough, so she gets hurt as a result dryness in the vagina. It is rarely a result of a broken hymen.

The bottom line here is that there is just no way to assess female virginity. Bleeding has nothing to do with virginity, it has to do with the kind of hymen a girl has, and hymens differ from girl to girl right from birth.

The result is that only a small percentage of women bleed the first time and this is all as a result of the thickness of their hymens. Only 37% bleed during first-time sex, according to the study published in the British Medical Journal.

Why is this so important to be aware of? Women all over the world get abused, injured and even killed due to the myth “virgin bleeding.” Because most people; men and women alike, think that bleeding is a sign of virginity. Women who don’t bleed the first time have been sent back to their parent’s homes, divorced. They have suffered from suspicions leading to domestic violence and abuse, and even having been killed for honour as in some religions.

Educating people that a girl does not necessarily have to bleed the first time she has sex has become expedient – because not all girls have thick hymens, and some are even born without hymens at all.

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